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To give DDs their Xmas / birthday gifts today?

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elfycat · 28/11/2020 12:00

DH thinks we should wait until Xmas day to give them their new laptops ( we're picking them up now). His reasons are that they will have have the best present of the season on that day.

I think they should have them today. DD1's is replacing a broken one (her present from 3 years ago) and the insurance paid out approx half of the cost of this new one. I asked her to wait (4 months) in getting the replacement until the Black Friday sales so we could upgrade it with this years Xmas budget and get it in the sale to upgrade it further still. She's using a slow and previously broken/ repaired one now.

DD2's birthday was last week. This is her combined present and while she had a piece of plastic tat from us to open ( and an office chair for her desk area from my parents) we haven't given her much of a birthday present. She is currently using my old broken laptop with completely dead battery. It switches off immediately if the charger comes out. She preferred mine over her terrible one ( the one DD1 is using at the moment).

My argument is that they already part own these new computers and are frustrated by the heaps of shit they currently use ( with good reason) and who are we to deny them the use of the decent upgrade they already morally part-own for a showy Xmas morning.

AIBU?

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 29/11/2020 07:28

My daughter's dad and step daughter always message her as and when shopping to tell her what they've bought her for Christmas, even cheap stocking items. Without fail they give her most of it early. I can't get my head around it.

What’s the point of that? Does your DD like knowing?

Strangedayindeed · 29/11/2020 07:59

@BadMom82

Yes I do actually. Glad we’ve clarified that.

Gardenista · 29/11/2020 08:39

@elfycat
I would give them the laptops now and let them enjoy them as presumably you don’t want them on the laptops all Christmas Day which is what will happen otherwise.

Could I suggest as the laptops they are replacing have little resale value you donate them - perhaps to their school ? I’m running a project to get disadvantaged children online when they are sent home from school to isolate and we would absolutely be able to make use if your slow and frustrating laptops for the basic tasks they will be used for, and needling to be plugged in wouldn’t be an issue either,
If anyone else wants to donate any laptops they are upgrading to my project please pm me and I will arrange a courier to collect from you - the children would make good use of them and allow me to help so many more as we are lending out laptops (bought secondhand ) and portable routers which we have to buy.

fluffiphlox · 29/11/2020 08:51

My comment about a laptop being a utility seems to have annoyed one or two people. I know they’re expensive items, having had to stump up for a new one last month. I couldn’t work without a decent setup, kids need one for school I guess, especially in the current situation...It’s very difficult to function without reasonable tech and good WiFi. My point is really that they need them now for more than just fun, so give them to them now, with the understanding that it’s just stocking filler things on the 25th. Have a lovely Christmas.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 29/11/2020 09:18

Definitely now.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 29/11/2020 09:20

I wouldn't class something they need for school as an xmas gift to be honest. Sane as clothing unless it's proper designer and expensive. Just brought mine shoes as they need them i wouldn't save them for xmas 🙄

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 29/11/2020 09:20

Same

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 29/11/2020 10:23

I would give them the laptops now and let them enjoy them as presumably you don’t want them on the laptops all Christmas Day which is what will happen otherwise

Why wouldn’t you want your children to play with the new gift you’ve got them?

DD1 is getting a Nintendo Switch so will probably spend a fair amount of time on it. I’ve bought multiplayer games so it can be enjoyed by more than just her. We bought it for her to play with.

nokidshere · 29/11/2020 16:15

I'd wait till Christmas. When mine were younger they always knew that anything they wanted (not needed) after September had to go on their Christmas list. They would add to and take stuff off from sept-Dec. The stuff on the Christmas list never included DS1's birthday in Nov.

They still do this now Grin

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