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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think DS’s GF’s mum is a bit out of order?

61 replies

MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:03

DS 15 is not the most conscientious- a real struggle to motivate him to get into school. He’s totally besotted with GF also 15.
A few weeks ago GF’s mum decided to pull her out of school as deemed it too dangerous as there are COVID cases in year groups but only ‘close contacts’ have to isolate. That’s absolutely their decision- none of my business.

However, every time DS comes back from seeing her, apparently her mum has been saying things like ‘I can’t believe you’re still in school, it’s so unsafe’ or ‘doesn’t your mum worry about you bringing COVID home?’ Etc

So now DS is now refusing to go to school, Aibu to feel really pissed off with other mum?

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Flavabobble · 26/11/2020 22:08

When is he seeing her if she’s not attending school and we’re on lockdown?

Possums4evr · 26/11/2020 22:10

Well he just needs to go in.
Should your ds be seeing her at all in their home? If they want to isolate they need to avoid someone who is in school everyday!
I would be pissed off too, and my child would be going to school - won't you be fined if he doesn't?

sandragreen · 26/11/2020 22:14

How is he seeing her? Confused

BecomeStronger · 26/11/2020 22:15

It all seems a bit odd that she's so concerned she's pulled child out of school but is blatantly disregarding the rules, which are afterall, designed stop it being so rife by having DS in her house.

I'm not sure either if you are in a position to judge anyone TBH.

Original poster
MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:17

We’re not in a lockdown area. I don’t think we would be fined no, school are pretty relaxed

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MushMonster · 26/11/2020 22:17

Is this other mum allowing him in the house? Are you in a lockdown area?
Anyway, I cannot get my head around her not sending her daughter to school but allowing people in the house, if that is what is happening

Floralnomad · 26/11/2020 22:17

Aside from where is he seeing her , how thick is her mum stopping her going to school but still letting her mix with people who are , what is the point of that ? Just tell your ds if he doesn’t go to school he won’t be leaving the house at all .

Ohalrightthen · 26/11/2020 22:18

...I'd be more pissed of at myself if i were you, has the whole "national lockdown" thing completely skipped your mind?

ImAllOut · 26/11/2020 22:18

I wish posters would realise that not everyone lives in England.

Mammaaof · 26/11/2020 22:19

Maybe OP is in Wales we are not in lockdown here

Original poster
MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:21

I’m in wales not in lockdown 🙈

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Original poster
MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:22

Has is skipped your mind ‘England’ isn’t the whole country?

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Soontobe60 · 26/11/2020 22:24

@MissMessy12

We’re not in a lockdown area. I don’t think we would be fined no, school are pretty relaxed
Are you not in England? Tell him if he refuses to go to school he won’t be seeing er for the foreseeable and tell her mother to stop interfering!
MiddleClassMother · 26/11/2020 22:26

Not everyone is in England guys! OP your DS GF's mum is being ridiculous, GF will be at a greater disadvantage with no education than the possibility of catching covid.

Original poster
MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:26

No I’m not in England- I’d really like to tell her to stop interfering but she’s a bit scary

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EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 26/11/2020 22:33

@MissMessy12

Has is skipped your mind ‘England’ isn’t the whole country?
Your post may have made more sense if it hadn't skipped your mind to mention which country you live in.

Population of England and Wales is around 60m, of which 94% live in England, so its not that unreasonable to assume Emgland.

Hazelnutlatteplease · 26/11/2020 22:34

Ever thought she might be right? Or that they may have vulnerable family members?

Also I wouldn't be supporting a DC to be out if school while they were seeing an in-school boyfriend. Again a vulnerable family member can seriously alter a teens perspective on this. His sudden school reluctance might he based on the girlfriend not being willing to see him whilst he's a serious transmission risk. None of which helps you much

Original poster
MissMessy12 · 26/11/2020 22:35

Everyday- are you normally this rude? You’re the one who presumed

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landofgiants · 26/11/2020 22:36

Rule in Wales is no indoor visits unless your 2 households are 'bubbled' together. She sounds annoying, though - YANBU.

MushMonster · 26/11/2020 22:37

I am in Wales. When one of the students in a year tests positive, the send the whole year home to isolate, for close contacts, the whole household has to isolate.
But still, is he seeing her indoors in person? This makes no sense to me.
Have a serious talk with your son. Or he goes to school or he is not going anywhere. Surely he will not jump off a bridge if his GF's mother says so.
It is a good lesson for him to learn indeed. Listen to the ILs, nod, forget as soon as you leaveGrin

Hazelnutlatteplease · 26/11/2020 22:39

GF will be at a greater disadvantage with no education than the possibility of catching covid
Out of school does not necessarily mean no education. Some of us are really cracking the whip and our teens are doing far more work than they would be at school, especially with the state their school is currently in with serious staffing difficulties

BloggersBlog · 26/11/2020 22:39

Why is the mum allowing him to be in her house if she is so worried about covid Hmm

Doesnt she realise he could have it/be a spreader if he is at school??

BecomeStronger · 26/11/2020 22:42

Even in Wales he's not supposed to be visiting another household indoors, so the comments are all relevant anyway.

Notnownotneverever · 26/11/2020 22:45

So weird that the GF's mum is allowing him in the house as he is mixing at school every day. Makes it pointless to take her DD out of school. Can't help but wonder if she just wanted the excuse to not bother battling her to school every day.

ClaireP20 · 26/11/2020 22:48

@MissMessy12

No I’m not in England- I’d really like to tell her to stop interfering but she’s a bit scary
Do not be scared of anyone who has an influence in your child's life. Trust me babe, now is the time to be firm. In your own lovely welsh accent rather than my crappy cockney one...."you either go to school or you aint fucking seeing her..and you remember it's coming up to Christmas and I promise you are getting jack shit if you even think about not going to school'

Xx