To think DS’s GF’s mum is a bit out of order?

[MissMessy12]

DS 15 is not the most conscientious- a real struggle to motivate him to get into school. He’s totally besotted with GF also 15.
A few weeks ago GF’s mum decided to pull her out of school as deemed it too dangerous as there are COVID cases in year groups but only ‘close contacts’ have to isolate. That’s absolutely their decision- none of my business.

However, every time DS comes back from seeing her, apparently her mum has been saying things like ‘I can’t believe you’re still in school, it’s so unsafe’ or ‘doesn’t your mum worry about you bringing COVID home?’ Etc

So now DS is now refusing to go to school, Aibu to feel really pissed off with other mum?

Op yes she is out of order how you parent your son is up to you I am sure you haven't criticised her choices and she has no right to criticise you , you will know what is best for you ds and your family situation

YANBU to be annoyed, however, she is entitled to her own opinion and to express it in her own home
The part I don't understand is why she is letting your ds in to her home, when she is worried about covid being transmitted, to the extent she is keeping her dd out of school.

Also as another poster suggested could you say if he can't go to school then he can't go and see gf either

Is your ds in an exam year ? I know wales are not doing exams as normal I believe but if last year it will make a difference to his grades possibly if he doesn't go in and is unable to keep up online etc

YABU from the pov you are the parent of ds and what says goes. She is the parent of her child.
Teach your son to be a leader not a sheep.
Perhaps they are too young to have a besotted relationship?

YABU to think DS’s GF’s mum is a bit out of order. She is A LOT out of order. Kids are supposed to be in school.

Are you sure her Mum is actually saying this? And it's not just you son realising it's a way for him not to go to school, you said it's already a struggle to get him to go in. Possibly with the intention of spending more time with the girlfriend you say he's besotted with?

None of this really makes sense OP for the resins you say but also..

Umm, It would have helped if you'd explained lockdown rules, just a mention ... no one is assuming, we cannot cater for infinite variations or lockdown that may be in your area. If U.K., and wales ... be proud and mention it.

But you are right , if she (gf me) has withdrawn her DD from school due to her concerns about covid19 risks at their school at this time, then why would she allow allow your DS to visit her DD at their home, where presumably he has been at school each day/. It's Illogical

She is manipulating your DS. I would suggest at he doesn't visit if she is choosing to self isolate her DD at home. "One can't be too careful for GF'S sake"

And she - GF DM - can keep her views to herself
I have a particular place in hell for Interfering unrelated parents.

DS goes to school or you get fined , it's not rocket science that DS cannot understand, GF's DM can fight her battle and take her own fines.

DS lives with you and is your teen. I don't know how you do that, but I would start with "if GF is isolating at home you cannot visit her because otherwise it makes. Mockery and also your need to isolate for 14 days first before you could visit her according to her logic" ...

And even if you DS, don't go to school when I tell you to, you can pay fines from your Xmas budget, I will put headteacher on the phone to you DS so you can explain (& try to relay GFs mums craziness yourself) and you can take it in chin DS if / or when we get CSD referral about your delinquency that school will inevitably do where YOU explain Your actions Ds and GFs mum will not be involved to 'rescue you' . You go to school and stop this nonsense as it is illegal.

I wouldn't brook cray arguments and I'm
Shielding group ... my DCs go to
School. Half of my youngest's year group were sent home to self isolate for 14 days . Mine stayed in school as not in that particular bubble . No one fights snd wins against the system.

Didn't know you could go in each others homes in Wales now.

People on here are getting more into the whole England assumption more that the original topic (and I suppose I'm carrying that on!) I have to say because it keeps being referred to as a 'National' lockdown, I do keep forgetting it's just England, not the entire country so I would have made the same assumptions as the first few posters. I don't assume that posters are English but I do assume they are British unless otherwise stated. Would be interesting to know what the percentage of non-UK posters on here is.

I'm in a tier 2 area of Scotland, no lockdown here either!

Still not allowed in other peoples houses, but it's ok to meet another person outside so that's what most teens are doing. GFs mum is being ridiculous if she won't let her DD go to school but let's her have people round to visit.