To think this isn’t the right foods to live on?

[KaleBeans]

DD is fairly young still (but old enough to choose what she’s eating since I’m not always seeing her all the time).

A typical day would be:

Breakfast: A banana, whole orange and mini cathedral city cheese.

Lunch: Jacket potato with butter and cheese. Or a tomato soup with slice of bread and butter. Or a ham sandwich with a pack of snapping Jacks and Kit Kat. On a Friday a portion of small chips.

Fruit: Whole pocket of pineapple fingers, sometimes x2. Watermelon. Half a cucumber. Celery stick with cream cheese. Smoothie.

Dinner: Often nothing. Sometimes pesto pasta with cheese.

Drinks at least 2 litres of ‘lemon infused’ water a day

This isn’t enough protein, is it?!

OP are these eating habits new. Do you think you are worried because of what she said about how her husband makes her feel? I would just gently encourage her to eat some dinner.

Took my extremely fussy son to a nutritionist as he eats hardly anything. He has a lot of food allergies and I think sensory issues because of it especially as everything used to make him projectile vomit when he was a baby.

Anyway the two things he consumes a lot of are meat ( plain chicken, bacon, fish ) and dairy. He also has a fair amount of bread.

Not much else. No fruit, no veg. No carbs other than bread and porridge.

The nutritionist was not bothered. The two main things that were important were meat and dairy.
She suggested a multivitamin but that was all.

Op are you the poster who wrote about “your daughter” before?
No it’s not enough food - I’m thinking around 1000 calories max there with no dinner.

MLM No, I’m a new poster

Never posted about DD because I’ve never been worried about her like this before. Something seems wrong

I don't think it's too bad but she could do with swapping the lemon water for water.

Not sure what the vegan husband has got to do with it. Why don't they both eat a vegan evening meal with lentils/beans/nuts in it? My teen DS is vegan and cooks himself dinner every evening with either beans or lentils - it's not difficult.

It doesn't seem anywhere near enough calories for a breastfeeding mother especially if the baby is under 6 months old.
A rough guide that I looked at for losing weight post baby said ideally you shouldn't drop below 1800 calories a day. Is she taking supplements as I cant imagine she feels great only eating that and feeding a baby too

Tomato, cucumber, celery, all count as veg even if some of it is fruit.

If she likes snacky cheese, have more of that in. Does she like nuts? Might be that she genuinely doesn't like meat.

@KaleBeans He may not notice but if there is a serious problem it will show.
Did she suffer from depression as a teenager? She could have PND. I'm an ex anorexic that's why I ask about previous depression.
It may be she is trying to shift weight after pregnancy a quick weight loss solution.

@DimidDavilby

Christ this place. A jacket potato at lunch is not a substitute for eating dinner whoever said that you have food issues I'm sorry.

No, I really don’t.

I eat carefully and well to control type 2 diabetes (not related to weight as I am a healthy size 12). I know just about everything there is to know about nutrition and how to eat well.

A jacket potato with trimmings is a perfectly adequate dinner. Whether you eat it in the middle of the day or in the evening makes absolutely no difference.

Her baby is not a baby, he’s a toddler so not feeding quite as much as he would’ve as a small baby.

Is lemon water actually bad for you? I thought that was okay since she’s just drinking water with a lemon slice inside. Nothing sweetened etc. But otherwise her diet seems like a fussy toddler to me

She won’t eat her partners foods for dinner as she says she doesn’t like his lentil foods etc, and he refuses to eat anything made by her as he likes to do his own food

Should have read on and realised you weren't talking about a child.

You need to back off, tbh. Her diet is far better than many 12 year old, even if it isn't quite enough food.

22 tear olds

Lemon water good but she should drink it through a straw to protect her teeth.

It's not so bad.

Could be a lot worse - over eating tons of junk.

Does she look v unhealthy?

Okay so it is the evenings she won't eat given your update.
She is self conscious of eating her food because he's vegan.
Why not cook at different times have separate shelves.

OP - please ignore the competitive under eaters and those who think that the moment your child turns 18 you’re no longer allowed to worry about them.

If she regularly has the lightest of those foods that’s

• breakfast 200 calories tops
• soup and bread - 200 maybe 300

Some fruit and salad - another 200

So 700 calories a day. That’s a serious concern if that’s really all she’s eating.

I came on to say what downudder said - lemon water will ruin her teeth enamel..I wish someone had told me!!

When I read your original post, I thought you were talking about a toddler. Definitely doesn’t seem sufficient for an adult.

Sounds like shes trying to diet and lose weight IMO ....

I think that's a terrible diet. No veg. Not enough protein. Over reliant on carbs and sugary fruit. She may be thin but I suspect that nutritionally she not that healthy.

She's 22! From your OP I thought she was in pre-school or something.

If her husband is a vegan and won't let her eat or she feels self-conscious then there are bigger problems - her diet in and of itself sounds ok to me.

@TestingTestingWonTooFree

It didn’t seem too bad until the lack of dinner

That's what I thought. Why no dinner?

However then I saw she was 22. A grown woman! Therefore it is up to her. I honestly don't 'get' the no dinner.

Does she drink milk?

I’d be worried too. It isn’t enough calories for a breast feeding mum. If she is open to the discussion you could turn it on it’s head and ask her what she would advise a patient. It might make her think of it in a different way.

Vegans can have very healthy diets. My daughter is vegan and has a great deal of knowledge. I would be concerned that she didn’t eat vegetables. What about nuts. Dried apricots have lots of iron I always used to snack on them when pregnant and breastfeeding. I couldn’t take iron tablets and my GP was surprised that my levels stayed high. Perhaps get her some new snacks with healthy ingredients.

There's a lot of dairy, not much other protein, lot of fruit.
Is the soup homemade or of the instant packet type?
It's not a disaster but there's not a lot of variety.

My diet isn't the best at the moment but I do try to eat pulses and lentils, eggs etc. tonight was falafel, large salad and some cheese.

@thenightsky

"Apart from banana, whole orange, Jacket potato, tomato (soup), a portion of small chips, pineapple fingers, sometimes x2, watermelon, half a cucumber, celery and a smoothie.

confused"

*None of those things are vegetables...

Also, chips and potatoes do not count as one of your five a day*