To object to biscuits being served at NCT coffee mornings ?

[katwith3kittens]

I've just started going to my local NCT coffee mornings and I'm surprised to find that at all of the 5 or so homes I've been in all the kids are getting biscuits whilst the mums have coffee and cake.
I know I'll probably end up hosting one of these things one morning but I dont like the idea of providing sweet stuff for the under 2's. Wouldnt dried fruit or rice cakes be more appropriate ???

MY GOD, CANNOT BELIEVE THIS THREAD........

I WANT TO SCREAM....

ITS A BISCUIT FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.

GET A BLOODY GRIP.

The NCT coffee group I belonged to (now, thankfully, several years in the past) contained one mother who wouldn't serve biscuits at her house "because of the crumbs". She also used to get annoyed about any child who had a cup of drink without having an unspillable top on it. Once she even told off a child who was gently shaking their beaker (with top on it) in case any juice "shook out".

Her house was no more or less clean and tidy than everyone else's in the group, but she used to put down dust sheets on her carpet when it was her turn to host

The best bit though was when I hosted I used to provide chocolate biscuits and she would quite happily give them to her dd in my house

It makes me laugh just thinking about how mad she was

Cammelia - what used to annoy me far more is when mothers serve choclate cake at a coffee mroning, then complain when it gets squashed into their new cream coloured rug.

I made a larvely cake for toddlers yesterday - chocolate and covered with fruit. Was a winner - children picked off all the fruit, and caring mothers ate remaining cake. Tah Dah!

And before you ask, Aitch, I am never going to stop banging on about my marvellous cake because I am a poncy baker and don't care who knows. Never went to any antenatal classes, though...

What's up expat ?

What I do find odd is giving cake to very little children who couldn't generally care less - for example, if I'm eating cake and my 1 year old comes asking then yes, she gets a bit and we share, but I have seen parents chasing round frankly uninterested children trying to get them to eat cake. Which is just strange. Why not just have more for yourself?

Not you are not unreasonable. You are entitled to your feelings, like everyone else. You don't like to give your kids stuff like that - that's your right and that's fine.

Others feel that it's ok, that's their right and it's fine.

So if you don't want your kid to have a biscuit at other people's houses, take a snack that you are happy for them to have.

When it's your turn, buy a pack of what you know they like for them, and give your kids what you prefer them to have. Voila. Everyone's happy.

• and ignore this bunch of sourpusses. They just need a big huggle.

to the op;

agree with you.

id also have posters of jamie oliver all over the place when you host your coffee morning.

Ha ha, is this a serious thread?!

not sure?

What a completely bonkers thread. [insert all emoticons in a Bohemian Rhapsody pattern]

To the Morning Sickness Queen, a cheesy flapjack sounds like baked vomit and now I have to go and retch some more.

Well, I kind of agree with the OP, given that I was that mother (dd being my pfb and most likely ob) and she didn't have sugar unless in the shape of raw fruit until she was 15 months old. Then she stopped eating anything for nearly a year and quite frankly by then I was so relieved to see her eating something that I didn't care what it was.

My NCT group were rather lovely and when it came to the baking bit were only competitive inasmuch as would it be Mr Kipling cake slices or Taste the Difference white choc n' raspberry cookies that were up for grabs...(and I wonder why I never lost any baby-weight!) Never specifically put anything out for the LOs (not wasting those cookies on them!!) - we chopped up the odd nana or bit of melon for them but if they wanted a bite of cake/biscuit they got (a very small) one.

And apple-flavoured rice cakes saved my sanity on the 250 mile drive to my parents when dd was too young to be distracted by her music/the view/my singing - keeping a bag on the front seat and lobbing them back at her at regular intervals was the only thing that stopped her screaming like a dentist's drill...

Amazingly dried fruit rots teeth!

If under 2s like eating rice cakes then it may affect their reading skills since they might start snacking on their books if they like the taste of cardboard.

What a dilemma!

apparently dried fruit sticks to teeth causing them to rot. And fruit juices are awful for the teeth.

All you scoffers and jeerers cannot possibly believe that just because the Mums have cake, the children can have it?

How far so you take that principle????

We always had wine at our NCT tea group meetings...should the under two's have that, too??????

Biscuits are the thin end of the wedge, I tell you!

everything in moderation.

my mum only gave us jaffa cakes when we were little because they had oranges in them.

oh for goodness sake ! how joyless you sound talulasmum !

PMSL at the jaffa cakes- although they can be a good choice as many brands are dairy free

Also the ckaes..... what's wrong, for example, with a plate of home made fruit scones for all? Nothing, absolutely zilch.

there isnta single food on this planet that is good for everyone- Cheesy stuff? ds1 and ds3 9and me) cant have it. raisnn / dried fruits? A component known as salycylates can worsen behaviour in susceptible kids quite rapidly.

Biscuits are simple, not implicated in any social services childr emoval cases I ama are of if given as a treat, and really not a huge concern.

wine at a tea morning?! I've obviously joined the wrong group!

having said that, we did have Irish coffee once on a St Patrick's day coffee morning

The kids didn't get that, they got given green fruit shoots instead

(I provided donts from the posh abkery for the PTA yesterday when they met at my house and nobody died, not even ds3 although nicked 3 and ate them in a corner)

maryann;
but we also had big bars of fruit & nut because of the fruit, and as much cheesecake as we could manage because of the cheese. my mum had her finger on the healthy eating pulse even in those days.

LOL at the idea of there being scoffers on this thread Blu

love your mum talasmum !! I just think a bit of something nice now and again is completely ok -and I'd just keep an eye on my ds so that he didn't scoff the whole plateful !!

Offer dried fruit and rice cakes when you hold the coffee morning. You really do need to get a grip there are far more important things to worry about.