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A parking one (with photo of pass-agg note)

242 replies

MindatWork · 23/11/2020 14:22

Genuinely interested in people’s opinions on this one - I’ve just returned to my car (parked completely legally in a bay on the road, within the lines and well within the specified 2-hour time limit) to a beautifully-written passive aggressive note - A* for effort.

Whoever stuck it on my dashboard actually put it inside one of those yellow PCN envelopes, folded up so it looked like a parking ticket. Is this a thing people actually do now? Is it a mumsnetter? They have lovely handwriting whoever they are.

In all seriousness, there wasn’t ‘plenty of space further up the road’ when I arrived, and the spaces aren’t just for residents.

I’ve lived in a house like this before so I get it, and yes it’s annoying, but not really much you can do about it apart from say ‘ffs’ and go about your day.

I sympathise as I have a 2 year old DD so completely get the difficulty of hauling kids in and out of the car, but AIBU to thinking giving someone a fright by making them think they’ve been given a ticket (money is v tight at the moment) is - while pretty creative - a bit much?

A parking one (with photo of pass-agg note)
A parking one (with photo of pass-agg note)
OP posts:
trappedsincesundaymorn · 23/11/2020 18:04

@Timbits

Just to play devils advocate, you may have unintentionally caused an issue for the note writer today. Maybe they have mobility issues or someone they live with. Maybe today was the straw that broke the camel's back. But sure this is mumsnet let's jump straight to calling them a twat, dick or bitch.
If that's the case then they should apply to their local council to have a disabled parking space painted for them, not leave notes on car windows.
gingergiraffe · 23/11/2020 18:06

I agree with comments about the note writer not owning the spot outside her house, however, better than what happened to my daughter. She recently bought her first car, not new but the exterior in good condition. ( nb my car has had taped on wing mirrors for years). She purchased a parking permit and stuck a green L plate on it as, although she passed her test years ago, she has never owned a car.

She does not drive it daily and parks where she can. One day having actually parked outside her house she noticed her wipers were lifted and sticking out. A couple of days later she was walking along her street and noticed a man circling her car. She took her time unlocking her door but turned around to find he had gone, most probably into a neighbouring house. The next day her wing mirrors had been twisted at an angle, actually damaging one which now has to be taped. Usually, a white van parks outside so we can only assume that my daughter parked where he considers is his space. What a knob!

Daughter has no idea who this person is but what an intimidating thing to do, considering she had a green L plate on it. She is just angry but someone else, maybe someone escaping an abusive relationship could have been seriously freaked out by it.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 23/11/2020 18:07

See if you can get another one tomorrow 😂 and tell us what they wrote

LakieLady · 23/11/2020 18:09

@GinAtMerlottes

I would move into my car and live in the parking space.
I was going to suggest buying a motorhome for exactly that purpose!

The note-writer is a tit.

Are you in Brighton, by any chance? This sort of thing goes on all the time where DIL lives.

LoveMyKidsAndCats · 23/11/2020 18:10

Outside my house its first come first serve if its packed and I have to park round the corner so be it, people can park where they like. Got better things to think about.

Kissthepastrychef · 23/11/2020 18:11

Park outside every way with a notice on your inside windscreen saying "if you want to park outside your house, buy one with a drive. PS I'm legally parked. TTFN"

Rowgtfc72 · 23/11/2020 18:12

Dh parks in front of our house. In order to not block our drive he parks two inches over the boundary wall. You can still get a car on next doors front, or in their empty drive as they dont own a car.
Next doors son has asked us to move back those two inches, again, in case an ambulance needs to park.
Dh doesnt want to block our other car in. Hes parked leaving enough space for next doors non existent car. This is why next doors son feels the need to park an inch off our bumper on a completely empty street.
Crazy.

BlackberrySky · 23/11/2020 18:16

I would put a note in my windscreen next time saying "If you want to park outside your house, move to one with a driveway"!

DynamoKev · 23/11/2020 18:19

@MindatWork
Whoever stuck it on my dashboard
How were they able to do that? Was the window open?

DynamoKev · 23/11/2020 18:21

@Rowgtfc72

Dh parks in front of our house. In order to not block our drive he parks two inches over the boundary wall. You can still get a car on next doors front, or in their empty drive as they dont own a car. Next doors son has asked us to move back those two inches, again, in case an ambulance needs to park. Dh doesnt want to block our other car in. Hes parked leaving enough space for next doors non existent car. This is why next doors son feels the need to park an inch off our bumper on a completely empty street. Crazy.
If the street is empty why can't you DH park elsewhere rather than irritating next door for no reason?
NoSleepInTheHeat · 23/11/2020 18:22

@islockdownoveryet

It's a valid point though some people do need to park outside if they have small children or disabled. I bet the woman was pissed off that every time she goes out she can't park outside her own house and has to lug shopping and the kids down the street . Of course your not to know that but yabu to carry on parking there now that you know . I don't think it's rude just somebody who's pissed off with it you just got the brunt , park further down like the note said.
No this is not 'a valid point' nobody is entitled to a specific space on the PUBLIC road.

also, 'further down' is also in front of a house I imagine! So just because they weren't aggressive and entitled they can't park in front of their house but the mad person who wrote the note can? Is that how you see our society?

upsidedownwavylegs · 23/11/2020 18:28

@Rowgtfc72

Dh parks in front of our house. In order to not block our drive he parks two inches over the boundary wall. You can still get a car on next doors front, or in their empty drive as they dont own a car. Next doors son has asked us to move back those two inches, again, in case an ambulance needs to park. Dh doesnt want to block our other car in. Hes parked leaving enough space for next doors non existent car. This is why next doors son feels the need to park an inch off our bumper on a completely empty street. Crazy.
The neighbours have a point. And it’s irrelevant if they don’t own a car - they’re entitled for their own space to be for their guest’s cars, you not wanting to block yourselves in isn’t their problem. Why don’t you just park elsewhere in the empty street?
AhoyMeFarties · 23/11/2020 18:34

@Rowgtfc72

Dh parks in front of our house. In order to not block our drive he parks two inches over the boundary wall. You can still get a car on next doors front, or in their empty drive as they dont own a car. Next doors son has asked us to move back those two inches, again, in case an ambulance needs to park. Dh doesnt want to block our other car in. Hes parked leaving enough space for next doors non existent car. This is why next doors son feels the need to park an inch off our bumper on a completely empty street. Crazy.
How extremely rude of you
wishfull888 · 23/11/2020 18:36

What is wrong with people!!
We have a (child-free) neighbour who refuses to use his own drive, preferring to park on the public road. If anyone DARES to park in "his" spot, he deliberately blocks you in , then stands at his window watching you struggle to get out /poised to claim for damages. Utter wanker.

ancientgran · 23/11/2020 18:41

How extremely rude of you Why is it rude? If it's a public road they can park where they like.

The neighbours have a point. And it’s irrelevant if they don’t own a car - they’re entitled for their own space to be for their guest’s cars, you not wanting to block yourselves in isn’t their problem. Why don’t you just park elsewhere in the empty street?* Why is it their space, if it is a public road it isn't their space and why can't their visitors park elsewhere in the empty street. Apart from anything else the OP's husband shouldn't block a car in on a drive even if it is his wife's car.

slipperywhensparticus · 23/11/2020 18:42

Someone parked in the bay outside my house today there really was space further up closer to where he was going but he really is an absolute cunt who actually owes me money so he parked outside my house in his new(ish) car i parked over the road thought what a petty bastard and carried on with my day

I struggled to give a fuck to be fair ive not even moved my car back over now he has vacated the spot I console myself with the thought that im not him

PrincessNutNut · 23/11/2020 18:44

@Rowgtfc72

Dh parks in front of our house. In order to not block our drive he parks two inches over the boundary wall. You can still get a car on next doors front, or in their empty drive as they dont own a car. Next doors son has asked us to move back those two inches, again, in case an ambulance needs to park. Dh doesnt want to block our other car in. Hes parked leaving enough space for next doors non existent car. This is why next doors son feels the need to park an inch off our bumper on a completely empty street. Crazy.
Your neighbours are in the right. Either park your other car elsewhere or just accept one car will need to move for the other one to get out.
AhoyMeFarties · 23/11/2020 18:47

@ancientgran

How extremely rude of you Why is it rude? If it's a public road they can park where they like.

The neighbours have a point. And it’s irrelevant if they don’t own a car - they’re entitled for their own space to be for their guest’s cars, you not wanting to block yourselves in isn’t their problem. Why don’t you just park elsewhere in the empty street?* Why is it their space, if it is a public road it isn't their space and why can't their visitors park elsewhere in the empty street. Apart from anything else the OP's husband shouldn't block a car in on a drive even if it is his wife's car.

They are over hanging their neighbours drive, not their own
Ohtherewearethen · 23/11/2020 18:47

@Timbits - that really is a new level of whataboutery. There is absolutely nothing in the note to suggest they or anyone in their household suffers from mobility issues, it any other issues they are struggling with other than having children and believing this gives them ownership of the public highway.
I'd be so tempted to try to find out who wrote the note and present them with a bill, claiming my car was damaged by a pothole and as they own the road they can pay for a new tyre.
They shouldn't be putting notes on people's cars that they have to touch so much to read in current circumstances anyway!

Oysterbabe · 23/11/2020 18:51

I'd leave my car there for a week and get the bus.

TheNewLook · 23/11/2020 18:51

I agree regarding the above actually.

And I guarantee it’s not two inches. Two inches is barely perceptible when parking. If it’s enough for your DH to be aware of, and enough for other to comment on, it’s probably a lot more.

Your choice to have two cars.

TheNewLook · 23/11/2020 18:52

Sorry, my post was referring to the poster who’s DH parked across his neighbours’ driveway so his wife can get her car out.

GabsAlot · 23/11/2020 18:54

i hate things like this and why is it everyoes else problem that they live somewhere without parking

GinAtMerlottes · 23/11/2020 18:58

@Rowgtfc72 it’s not often we actually see parking fucker out in the wild!!

If I were your neighbours son I would be hanging 4 inches over your drive until my rage had subsumed i.e. death has taken me.

Timbits · 23/11/2020 19:00

[quote Ohtherewearethen]@Timbits - that really is a new level of whataboutery. There is absolutely nothing in the note to suggest they or anyone in their household suffers from mobility issues, it any other issues they are struggling with other than having children and believing this gives them ownership of the public highway.
I'd be so tempted to try to find out who wrote the note and present them with a bill, claiming my car was damaged by a pothole and as they own the road they can pay for a new tyre.
They shouldn't be putting notes on people's cars that they have to touch so much to read in current circumstances anyway![/quote]
I was just offering up a different opinion. I don't know what 'whataboutary' is. You sound charming