A parking one (with photo of pass-agg note)

[MindatWork]

Genuinely interested in people’s opinions on this one - I’ve just returned to my car (parked completely legally in a bay on the road, within the lines and well within the specified 2-hour time limit) to a beautifully-written passive aggressive note - A* for effort.

Whoever stuck it on my dashboard actually put it inside one of those yellow PCN envelopes, folded up so it looked like a parking ticket. Is this a thing people actually do now? Is it a mumsnetter? They have lovely handwriting whoever they are.

In all seriousness, there wasn’t ‘plenty of space further up the road’ when I arrived, and the spaces aren’t just for residents.

I’ve lived in a house like this before so I get it, and yes it’s annoying, but not really much you can do about it apart from say ‘ffs’ and go about your day.

I sympathise as I have a 2 year old DD so completely get the difficulty of hauling kids in and out of the car, but AIBU to thinking giving someone a fright by making them think they’ve been given a ticket (money is v tight at the moment) is - while pretty creative - a bit much?

I had someone tell me I had to move when I parked outside to collect my daughter from school nursery. I said I couldn’t as I was running late and as far as I could see there were no parking restrictions. When I came back her husband came out and ranted on about taking their space. In the end I couldn’t help myself pointing out their house was a new build that’s been there about 25 years tops, the school is over 100 years old and so it’s not like they didn’t know there would be people on the school run sometimes when they bought it, that it’s a parking bay on a road, which anyone is entitled to use if it’s available and that he was being ridiculous and then I walked home with my daughter. I appreciate it can be annoying as I live on a terrace with only a back lane and get blocked from even getting to my house to park on the yard sometimes but it’s not like we didn’t know when we bought the house and if we cared that much we could have bought a different one

I'm afraid I'd have to park there again and take a sharpie and a stapler with me so I could leave the note with FUCK OFF written on it attached to the nearest tree!!

colleague at work had a note left on car after parking outside a house

they left their own not inside their windscreen on the next occasion they parked their

it is an offence to leave anon note on cars and I now have a dash cam fitted, further notes will be considered harassment

no further notes were ever left

So their suggestion is that you park outside somebody else's house? That's very community spirited of them.

If you park there again, stick the note back on the car as it was when they stuck it on. The best way to piss them off is to make it look like you didn't even see the note.

Bloody cheek!

One of my neighbours does this.

We all have drives at the end of our row of houses. Drives long enough for 3 cars. We also have lay-bys outside of our houses.

4 neighbours leave their drives unused and park in the lay-bys filling up the street so no visitors can park. However god forbid there is a space that a randomer parks in and the notes come out.

Actually put the note back in the envelope and on it write the hyperlink to this thread?

Then she can read how unreasonable she is?

Don't park there again, tempting as it may be. Have some respect for the people who live there.

I'd park there next time I had some spare time and wait to see if they came out (I suspect not while you're in the car) walk away and wait for them and then approach them and ask if they're alright, suggest theyve got some issues and ask if you can help.

@ancientgran

It's a valid point though some people do need to park outside if they have small children or disabled. I brought up 4 kids without a car, not sure why having a small child means you have to be able to park immediately outside your house. I think lugging heavy bags of shopping 2 miles from the supermarket meant I didn't need an expensive gym membership, win win.

Having children or returning from shopping doesnt entitle you to sole ownership and use of a section of public highway? So no valid point whatsoever

I'm a community HCP. I once parked outside a row of local authority bungalows. I was in uniform and visiting one of them. Parking was always bad because it was close enough to walk to the town centre. No restrictions, some had disabled bays
A guy came out and told me not to park there in case he needed an ambulance
I politely told him that an ambulance would double park if necessary, he shouted and swore and said he would smash my lights if I didn't move
I was tempted to stay put but I didn't.

Don't park there again, tempting as it may be. Have some respect for the people who live there.

Why do they own the road?

Just to play devils advocate, you may have unintentionally caused an issue for the note writer today. Maybe they have mobility issues or someone they live with. Maybe today was the straw that broke the camel's back. But sure this is mumsnet let's jump straight to calling them a twat, dick or bitch.

I had similar few years ago. I parked in a good spot in very quiet road between houses, so nobody got blocked or obstructed.
I got back to the car and found note saying something like please don’t park there as I have a dogs and I can’t get them out.
I still don’t understand what they meant.
The road is wide and I parked in public spot.
Not outside any house or blocking driveway etc.
Perhaps the house opposite the spot on opposite site of road meant that they can’t drive out of their driveway , which is absolutely rubbish too as the road is wide enough for two buses to avoid each other..
Oh well.

@Timbits but what a strange coincidence they had a fake PCN envelope, it's almost like they make a habit of it ........

I politely told him that an ambulance would double park if necessary, he shouted and swore and said he would smash my lights if I didn't move.

Words fail me. And that's rare.

@Timbits

Just to play devils advocate, you may have unintentionally caused an issue for the note writer today. Maybe they have mobility issues or someone they live with. Maybe today was the straw that broke the camel's back. But sure this is mumsnet let's jump straight to calling them a twat, dick or bitch.

Still doesn't entitle them to sole use of public highway.

[quote Bookworming]@Timbits but what a strange coincidence they had a fake PCN envelope, it's almost like they make a habit of it ........ [/quote]
Maybe they are just sick to the back teeth of struggling everyday so they used it to make a pont & draw attention. I get it, it seems pretty but we all have our breaking point

The note-writer needs to stop writing silly notes, work harder, earn more, and buy a house with a driveway if she wants carte blanche over who parks there.

@Bookworming

Don't park there again, tempting as it may be. Have some respect for the people who live there.

Why do they own the road?

Of course they don't, but OP is now aware she is causing an inconvenience, and wants to continue to park there just to upset and annoy people some more for her own entertainment? I'm not sure that makes her any better than an anonymous note writer.

This reminds me of the time I visited a school for work. I arrived just after 9am so all car park spaces were taken so I parked on the road. I got out and noticed someone peeking out from their curtains. I grabbed my carrier bag and walked off in the opposite direction of the school to do a loop and come back round. Afterwards I came from the direction of the school and I could see them completely puzzled as to where I'd been. Puzzled enough not to confront me.

Maybe they are just sick to the back teeth of struggling everyday so they used it to make a pont & draw attention. I get it, it seems pretty but we all have our breaking point

@Timbits well for their own mental health, they need to accept that outside their home is a public parking space. They cannot stop anyone parking there, if they're doing this ridiculous note writing all the time it's clearly an ongoing issue.

They're stressing themselves out on something that's legal and they can't control.

It's like buying a house on a busy road and getting the hump with the people travelling on it and making it busy.

It's not the people that park theirs issue and it will continue to happen.

Of course they don't, but OP is now aware she is causing an inconvenience, and wants to continue to park there just to upset and annoy people some more for her own entertainment? I'm not sure that makes her any better than an anonymous note writer.

Is a public bay, if she doesn't park there someone else will. The home owners are flogging a dead horse!

They can't stop everyone!

This is so frustrating. I hate the self appointed parking monitors!

I have recently moved to a new terraced house with on road permit parking. once shortly after I had moved I was getting out of my car and a woman dashed out of her house and said 'you can't park here its permit only' I said I know thank you and walked into my house.

the same woman parks in the middle of 2 spaces to save her partner a space. idiot.

@12frogsincoats can you please point out where in the thread I’ve said I’m going to continue parking there? In my update I said I probably wont even go there again as it’s not near where I live and I’m not likely to have cause to go there again any time soon.

I’ve laughed at some of the suggestionsas this thread has given me a chuckle after a v tough couple of weeks, but some posters seek to be confusing that with me saying I’m actually going to carry them out.