When I was at school I was extremely shy, awkward, and quiet. I was overweight and self conscious and terrified the whole time at this particular school. I didn't speak to many other kids at all.
When I was about 9, I was told by one equally awkward girl whom I was friends with that her cousin (aged 6, same school)had told their family that we'd both been bullying her. I didn't think much of it.
A few days later a teacher (who was awful and who I was frightened of, which didn't help) took us into his office to wave his finger at us for bullying her and told us off-I don't remember if I denied it, I think I just stayed quiet, but apparently she'd said things like us 'squeezing her tummy' and 'pulling her hair'. None of which was true, certainly not of me anyway.
I didn't speak to this friend from being around the age of 12, I'd moved schools again.
Not long ago (about 2 months now) this girl who'd said we'd bullied her popped up on a local fb page, sharing a post related to her pet having had a bad reaction to a treatment. I shared the post, and she responded to my asking if I could. I friend requested her, I did feel mindful of the age-old accusation in primary school but I figured she had made it up, as kids do make things up, and that having interacted with me as adults it was all forgotten about.
She sent me a message full of venom about how I'd held her down by her hair and bullied her terribly and why the F was I adding her as a friend etc etc. It went on for quite a long time. I mentioned that I had had hard time in life too and I was sorry she felt this way and she said 'Well it deserves you right!'
It was quite upsetting really, as she seems to really, truly believe I did these things.
Of course I apologised for adding her and said none of the things ever happened, and left it at that. Some things were totally nonsensical anyway, she kept mentioning her hair so I said that she had had a pixie cut all through school that I remembered so how could i have pulled her hair? She replied 'Yes my hair was short and black I should know my own hair!' so wasn't making much sense.
A couple of days ago she sent me another animal-related message asking me to share something else (I have quite a large presence in the local animal rights community), and accepted my friend request.
Does she really believe I bullied her? I was so not the type. I've never bullied anyone-I was such a frightened,oppressed child.
She has a good job in the medical field and a husband, house etc. Doesn't seem to be going through difficulties of any sort although of course you can never tell.
What would you put this down to?