To wonder why women in labour have their tops bare stomachs showing

[Keepinggoing70]

I’m in my early 20’s and few of my contacts on social media have children. I also have a six month old. I’ve recently seen a live video of a woman I went to school with in early labour with her top rolled up so her stomach was showing and also another woman taking pictures of her stomach while in labour with her top rolled up. Is there a reason behind this?

The reason is she is probably a big porker.

I mean if I were a private person I’d be less worried about a few people on social media seeing my stomach and more worried about the rest of the birth.

Seriously though for me any idea about privacy was forgotten when I went into labour. Was naked for most of my first labour.... and I’m not someone who would show any body off in other contexts

How did the live streamed on social media video of early labour pan out?

I'm imagining it started quite glamorously; make up, relaxing music, top neatly rolled up... seven hours later; a sweaty mess, t shirt round her neck, sobbing, throwing up and shouting Turn that fucking camera off.

Are you one of those people who finds the appearance of pregnant women distasteful and thinks that they should conceal their shape at all times in flowing smocks lest anyone notices that they have been enjoying the pleasures of the flesh leading to their confinement?

Maybe it's because you can see the contractions as they happen.

That. And a kind of primal thing. Something amazing's happening in your belly. You want to connect with it, feel it, feel your skin and the tightening of your abdomen.

It almost seems weird to me to have something in the way of your eyes and your touch. Of course I wanted to see and touch my belly.

But yep, I wouldn't be all WTF? at someone who kept their top on and in place. We're not all the same.

Its the last time they'll be seeing their bump

I thought that with my first. I was pretty disappointed after the birth that the bump was still there! Just more shrivelled looking like a slightly deflated balloon after a party.

I literally took a my clothes off in labour because I was boiling hot and couldn't give a crap about anything but getting the baby out!

Lots of people have photos of the bump, why not?

@Whoopsies

I literally took a my clothes off in labour because I was boiling hot and couldn't give a crap about anything but getting the baby out!

Some people give a crap while they're getting the baby out :-).

I was wearing a loose cotton nightie and just pulled it up to display my abdomen but there was no photographer present.

This thread has inspired me to scroll back through my phone and find the photos we took when I was in labour at home and a couple at the hospital, it’s actually cracking me up how much better/well rested I look even when in early labour compared to now 4 months later.

I didn’t share any of them on social media but maybe I should have, it’s the last time I wore make up for one thing (applied pre waters breaking, I didn’t go into labour and immediately start a makeover!)

In some of the photos the bump is out, for the record.

@ZombieAttack

Attention, if they’re posting it on sm.

Yep!

Why do you care?

I thought you meant female politicians and was struggling to remember to see any of them in crop tops!!

Have you ever thought about spending less effort worrying what others are doing?

Because you just want to strip everything off and take everything off your tummy.

I spent most of my time when at home in crop/bra tops and shorts. Not all summer borns either. I was just always hot.

In hospital they were all late and extra monitoring. Despite my waters naturally breaking, they would still gush for hours, and would continue after them being broke more, so lifting my top as high as possible saved me getting as wet (walking around wasn't always possible)

I was naked as the day I was born while in labour! I was hot, sticky, hysterical and did not need a nightdress clinging to every crevice!

Ummm I dunno I was in hospital So had monitor thing on . Love the photo of me with my tee Shirt rolled Up Grinning n bump out tbh . One of the few I have of my bump like that

Altho I could prob recreate the pic right now with my lockdown stomach

Dunno why you are arsed tbh

To wonder why you have noticed this and bothered to create a thread? It’s literally like asking why a woman had a side parting or a ponytail in whilst in labour. Sorry you’re getting roasted but daft question.

OP explained that she was just curious on Page 2 yet there are 3 more pages of other women berating her just for asking the question... sigh

Anything touching my bump set a contraction off, so I didn’t want anything touching it.
I even slapped the MW’s hand off !!

@Keepinggoing70

No I’m just curious as to what the motivation is for it. I guess we all differ I personally didn’t want to be anymore exposed than I had to especially not on social media but then I’m quite a private person.

Nah. You were hoping for a pile-on of people judging these women in labour, "how DARE they show their pregnant stomachs, won't someone think of the children!?"

I was in my nice jumper when I was about to give birth. The midwife very kindly stripped it off me and eventually midwife also had to strip off my leggings too as I'd given up on everything in pain by then as I wasn't allowed any painkillers as baby's head was already on the way out by now.

When baby was born they went immediately for skin to skin so by this point I was like ah stuff it and the remaining clothing up top came off. I am theeee biggest prude yet there I was stark naked on the bed without a care in the world and not a drug to blame it on.
I just did what I felt I had to do. I haven't been naked in public since.

Last time I checked birthing has no set rules and it can be really hard and super painful and some people including myself put it up there with top life achievements so why not show the photographs. I personally didn't show anyone anything but it would be pretty mean to judge anyone else who did.

Ugh... We have to stop being so judgy and tearing each other down. These are your friends, right, OP? Why not build them up? Would you like them not even having the decency to silently judge you, but start a whole thread somewhere about you? I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone else does or shares on social media. All power to them. I'm not better than them; they aren't better than me. If no one's getting hurt, crack on.

Eh?