To say this is embarrassing?

[MiaMarshmallows]

Friends partner donated to a Christmas charity for vulnerable kids.
He is very rich and can certainly afford it. However, his wife has gone online gushing about what an amazing man he is and how lucky she is.
Aibu to think this is OTT and that she could have praised him in private?

He donated to charity for tax purposes, it wasn’t from the goodness of his heart.

Each to their own. At least he has done good for someone. Way better than starting a negative thread about someone else.

@billy1966

A really perfectly example of tacky. Really tacky.

I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that, but if they did they would have the piss taken out of them. People would be mercilessly in the face of such a "try hard". 🙄😁

I agree, truly generous people are as silent as the grave about their giving.

I find subtle virtue signalling far more damaging than blatant in yer face virtue signalling like this.

@Longdistance

He donated to charity for tax purposes, it wasn’t from the goodness of his heart.

And you know this how?

Sometimes people post about donating to a particular charity because they want to bring the charity itself to people’s attention, and maybe encourage others to donate. He did a good thing whatever, why stress about it?

He donated. I hope it was a good cause. I hope her SM friends pile in to donate too. Or support and publicise other good causes, because there are a lot of needs out there, and we all have our favourite charities.

Regardless of his underlying motivation for doing it, his wife's motivation for broadcasting the fact, or your feelings towards her behaviour, a (presumably) very worthwhile charity has benefitted which will hopefully help very vulnerable children, and the charity's profile will hopefully be raised by them talking about it on social media.

Do you dislike your friend? or her husband? partners praising each other? or people publicising good works? Because whichever one it is, it's your issue. Not your friends.

Agree with you OP. You donate to charity because you want to help. Not to tell everyone what a good person you are. Social media has made people lose sight of the fact that constantly showing off is just so shallow!

Doesn't matter how fortunate your own husband has been this year, you sound jealous AF.

I'm not religious but one quote which always stuck with me from school was something from the Bible like - "give to the needy, but don't let your left hand know what your right hand is doing."

i.e. don't even self-congtratulate or even really acknowledge yourself if doing a good deed as you should be doing it for moral reasons, not to self-congratulate. Never mind wanting to let other people know about it. Yes it was his wife,but come on. I would never tell people about charity donations or good deeds. It just seems so wrong to me.

You sound jealous.

Isn’t this what 99% of Facebook users do? It’s a bragging site, so would think this is pretty normal tbh.

"I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that, but if they did they would have the piss taken out of them. People would be mercilessly in the face of such a "try hard". 🙄😁"

What horrible people you know, that they would respond to someone talking about giving a lot of money to charity by taking the piss out of them and calling them a "try hard".

It’s one way of raising the profile of the charity and making other people think about donating too

OK so I have a question - what's actually wrong with saying you have given to a charity? Is it also wrong to hold fundraising events? Is it also wrong to say you volunteer for a charity?

Yeah it looks like he's done it for clout.

Bad night op?

PaperTowels what would be a reason to tell people you have money to charity? Really it would be to make yourself look good. If someone wants to give to charity, it should be private and because they want to help! Not to then turn in to being about them and looking good. Volunteering is different as it's part of your life - although telling everyone you volunteer would seem a bit attention seeking! Holding fundraising events is of course different as people need to know! Donating is totally different from the other 2 things. If I donated £100 to a charity right now, I would cringe at telling others! Why would I do that except for self-promotion?

They sound like new-money types.

It is cringe. But fairly standard on SM, I see lots of people who seem to only do good things for bragging rights.

Like the 'good Samaritans' who film themselves giving a sandwich to a homeless person and post it online- I'm sure it would be a far kinder thing to just hand it over and get on with their day, leaving the homeless persons dignity.

I also hate the stunts for charity 'give me money to do something I want to do so I can be praised for being a hero'. No thanks, bungee jump, run or whatever on your own time and money.

He can’t help the fact his wife is vulgar.
I would actually feel embarrassed for her. But then I’ve never understood the crass online boasting that people do. Perhaps you could buy her a book on etiquette for Christmas?

@GoAndAskDaddy

They sound like new-money types.

The horror!

Common and in bad taste.