To say this is embarrassing?

[MiaMarshmallows]

Friends partner donated to a Christmas charity for vulnerable kids.
He is very rich and can certainly afford it. However, his wife has gone online gushing about what an amazing man he is and how lucky she is.
Aibu to think this is OTT and that she could have praised him in private?

Hmm.. has your partner donated to charity though OP 🤔

“Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.

Matthew 6:2

You're not wrong OP

If she's said specifically how much he donated, or referred to herself as 'blessed' or even worse #blessed, then YANBU.

If however she's kept schtum on the amount he gave but shared the charity details (and it's a small or not well known charity) then I think that's absolutely fine. I made a donation to a small charity recently, I shared the charity on my social media because they are entirely voluntary and rely on donations, plus what they provide is something really great (in my view). Most people I know had never heard of them, so I wanted to share it in the hope one or two contribute, share, and so on.

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat

What’s the point in donating a large amount if you can’t brag about it?

Don't let your left hand know what your right is doing.

It's extremely vulgar to broadcast what you give to charity, exceptions being if you are actively promoting a charity but even then you don't say how much you have given.

However it wasn't him, it was his wife. He might be mortified if he finds out.

Just ignore it, op.

@eightxmaspaws

“Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.

Matthew 6:2

You're not wrong OP

I came here to say this.

Of course it's embarrassing.

Yep, the social media gushing is irritating.

But my take on publicity for wealthy people who donate significant sums has changed recently. The more that wealthy people see that other people with money are donating large amounts, the more likely they are to do so. Hiding one's donations under a bushel might seem the more moral thing to do, but it doesn't help to make more money for charities.

It reminds me of that meme about delivering your gran a meal and forgetting to take a pic of it on the doorstep "What a waste of fucking time" Loads of people only do virtuous things so they can demonstrate what lovely people they are.

If I were you I would post that bible quote on their Facebook or whatever, get the popcorn out, sit back and enjoy the dramaz

Surely a normal person would just say “fab, sounds like a fantastic charity to support.”

Bits keep coming out about George Michael and how he anonymously donated to many small causes around the UK, He didn't have to and yet did and very discretely (especially for him!). Other people have outed some of his charitable endeavours. They wanted him to be thanked and remembered well for his generosity and not his mistakes. He had his faults like everyone else. Sometimes people mention charitable donations to highlight the charity itself.

Maybe it is bragging but you don't come across that great either by your comments. It sounds like sour grapes. Are you jealous she loves him more and feel you are less important to her now? Why does it matter so much to you?

How about "well done you 2, you must feel so blessed and proud"

IME people who Gish on social media about how fantastic their spouse is often split up later. She's probably publicising how well off she is so everybody expects to provide for her accordingly after the divorce, and he'll look like a dick if he doesn't.

I think it depends on the people. If they brag about going to the opening of an envelope, fair enough. If this is a one off, let them. It might inspire others to do the same rather than buy more crap they don't need.

Lol, let no good deed go unnoticed! It's a bit cringe of her to do it I guess but good if it raises the profile of the charity.

@romeolovedjulliet

i do volunteering for local food bank but don't feel the need to tell the world in rl, it's just something i do.

You just told the whole world...

Just because you personally wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that other people can't behave differently without them being vulgar or lacking in some other way. I think you are being rather needlessly nasty about this woman. Roll your eyes and move on if you dislike her post rather than start a thread on a public talkboard. As you think her post doesn't reflect well on her, this thread doesn't reflect well on you.

Let's look at it this way - this man has chosen to support a charity, what seems like a major way. It's probably a charity that is personal to him. He is no doubt proud and happy that he is in a position to be able to support this special charity. And his wife has dared to mention it on social media! Burn her!

@LynetteScavo

IME people who Gish on social media about how fantastic their spouse is often split up later. She's probably publicising how well off she is so everybody expects to provide for her accordingly after the divorce, and he'll look like a dick if he doesn't.

What an absolutely bizarre take

I think OP is jealous that her very successful DH doesnt donate to charity and she doesn’t have anything g to ‘gush’ about

(‘gush’ is such a Dsily Mail word)

Sorry but you do sound jealous. Has your partner donated.

I’d much rather see someone gushing about kindness than see someone gushing about someone managing to put makeup on successfully or getting a haircut or buying something for their house (the list goes on). I don’t mind virtue signalling if it means that the wheels are moving where they need to and we could certainly use some more kindness in the world!

A really perfectly example of tacky.
Really tacky.

I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that, but if they did they would have the piss taken out of them. People would be mercilessly in the face of such a "try hard". 🙄😁

One major reason people give to charity is that it makes them feel good about themselves. No harm was done, really.

I think you should reflect on why this bothers you so much.

@billy1966

A really perfectly example of tacky. Really tacky.

I haven't ever heard of anyone doing that, but if they did they would have the piss taken out of them. People would be mercilessly in the face of such a "try hard". 🙄😁

Yeah, stupid woman who's proud of her husband for donating to help vulnerable kids at Christmas time!