To have accidentally left out a box of breast pads?

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Disclaimer: I am not living in the UK.

So I have been having some landlord drama of late. They are currently selling the property we rent. I have been keeping the place neat and tidy for them to do this which has been hard with a 3 month old baby and because we are packing to move out.

Yesterday I accidentally left a box of breast pads near the bathroom sink. They are normally in the bathroom cupboard but I had put them to onside as I wanted to donate the box as I never used them.
In the rush to clean up and move our packing boxes to one side I just forgot about them.

After the open house the agent mentioned that it was inappropriate to leave those on the bathroom counter. It might have made some potential buyers feel uncomfortable. AIBU to think that this surely isn't a big deal?

I can't imagine it traumatizing anyone bit maybe personal belongings put people off...idk. which country are you in?It wouldn't put me off as would assume you'd take them with you, along with the rest of your belongings, when you moved out.

Anyone who feels uncomfortable with the normal, natural workings of a mother's body can take a running jump as far as I'm concerned

What he meant op was he was uncomfortable. So now you know he’s a bit of a twat. 🤷‍♀️

Would the person be uncomfortable with a roll of toilet paper also being left out? You know, that stuff we all clean our bums with? If not, there's no real reason to clutch pearls over a box of breast pads really, when their usage is considerably less unsavoury.

What an utter dick. It’s a non issue poster. Sorry that your agent is such an idiot.

@OrigamiPenguinArmy

I’m trying to picture the thought process. “I found the perfect property, in my budget, right location, right size, ticks all the boxes, but I won’t be putting in an offer because there was a packet of unused breast pads by the sink.”

🤣🤣🤣😜

There is no obligation to do anything to make selling the home easier. If you have a newborn then a very messy house is pretty common. How often do people say “drop your standards” as advice for getting through those months and that’s without packing to move.
I would remind the agent that any amount of tidying (beyond very basic hygiene) is entirely at your discretion and that you expect an apology.

Ridiculous comment for them to make. If it is so problematic for the property to be used as someone's home (with all the various bits and bobs required - especially with a bub), the landlord ought to wait for the end of your tenancy and then market the property empty. But they wouldn't like that would they, as that would mean no rent for the time marketed...
Also, what in the world is remotely offensive about breast pads?! Another case of women having to apologise for normal bodily functions. The agent can do one.

No, there was nothing we could do. They can evict you with 120 days notice so that was that. The real estate agent, Ken Rose in Mitcham, was very matter of fact when he told me. I think he saw us, him and I. as two white people so we would be on the same page. 'We had no idea'etc.

It was difficult to rent a new house as of course half of them in the area were managed by him! The bastard.

@SavoyCabbage

That's nothing!

When we were having our agent round for our inspection he saw our family photos and told me that I should have informed them that my husband was black.

We were then evicted.

@SavoyCabbage this is genuinely shocking and I’m so very sorry. 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Oh man, when my kids were 3 mo people would have seen much worse than that!

Next time greet them at the door with big leaky boob patches and ask if he likes that better.

What delicate flowers they must be. Does the agent require you to hide the loo roll for viewers too? I'd suspect not. I'd guess it's only specifically women's products they have a problem with.

Leave some tampons and sanitary pads out from now on, and if the agent says anything suggest they all grow the fuck up.

What an arsehole! Leaving illegal drug paraphernalia on the sink is out of order; leaving breast pads, tampons or any other normal product is not. I'd be giving the agent a full on rant about his imbecility, finishing with the fact that it is not his place to comment on what I leave where in the house I am paying to live in, and if he doesn't like it, he can wait until I've moved out to let people view the property.

@SavoyCabbage I'm absolutely horrified.
Did you have any legal redress?
That is just appalling

Me too. It literally makes me feel sick. I'm so sorry.

I would message back and say that that if a box of breast pads is likely to put off a potential buyer he might want to up his game.

Up his something anyways!

That agent must find it very hard to use the toiletries aisle of any shop poor little flower

Of course YABU OP. How could anyone possibly buy the house now that it's been brought to their attention that a woman may have used her breasts to nourish her child there. Absolutely disgusting.

Honestly, I wouldn't even be bothered by used breast pads. Used tampons, he'd have a point.

That story about the knickers in the sink 😂😂🙈 omg. Sometimes things are just so so embarrassing though that somehow you don't feel embarrassed, perhaps because there's literally nothing you can do to make it better. I'm not brave enough to share my own experience of this 😂

Oh and definitely leave a box of tampons out next time. Or maybe some maternity pads if you still have some.

SavoyCabbage

Ken Rose in Mitcham you say. Ken Rose. Mitcham. The more people that remember this name the better.

Racism should go down in common parlance as 'Doing a Ken' or doing 'a KRM.'

I used to catheterise myself [my bladder didn’t work before I had it removed] & had my old landlady tell me it was inappropriate to keep my catheters... in a box, between the toilet & the sink if I need them for the toilet, where else was I meant to keep them?

The agent can fuck off to the far end of fuck.

Breast pads are no more offensive than a box of tissues. If potential buyers are made "uncomfortable" by this, then they aren't grown-up enough to be buying a house.

Does the agent also expect you to lock the loo in case the buyers are reminded that human beings also shit and pee?

I immediately thought Oz. They're so forward and literally say whatever comes into their heads over there! We had a similar situation when we lived there and the landlord was selling. It was such a pain in the arse having to leave the house every Saturday morning for weeks and weeks and ensuring the house was pristine. I was beyond flexible to start with but they took the piss so in the end I started limiting the viewings. You should do the same after that dickhead comment! Make sure to leave them out the next time. Perhaps scatter them about the place

Wow, I'd be leaving vodka, fags and condoms out for the next viewing!

@SavoyCabbage

That's nothing!

When we were having our agent round for our inspection he saw our family photos and told me that I should have informed them that my husband was black.

We were then evicted.

Fucking hell, SavoyCabbage. That's so awful, I am so sorry.

Remember this if you can't be bothered for a viewing "sorry agent, I'd love to accommodate a viewing but there are definitely "personal items" that might be seen. I wouldn't want anyone to find something inappropriate again, would I?!