I have less time to socialise, be there, and look after their children. Have been a SAHM for 4 years, have just gone back to work part time. if i'm honest I'm finding it more draining than i expected, I have four children and when i'm not at work i want to unwind. But i'm finding the constatnt trying to fit people in really hard and am feeling resentful when i really don't want to. For exapmle last week, had three days off, my fourth child has just started school, on all of those three days i had friends invite themselves round with their children who are either of pre school age or not at school for reasons of poorliness. I love my friends, they are great people, but i really wish i didn't have to spell things out to them. Should i expect eple to understand, or should i just tell them.