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Never get to finish my snacks

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SnackyLady · 13/11/2020 20:10

Bit of a lighthearted one (but I'm also a bit annoyed!)

So sometimes in the evenings me and DH will have snacks after dinner, like some biscuits or some crisps or something. Not every night but some evenings as a treat.

Whenever we buy snacks we each specifically buy what we want for ourselves. So if I want chocolate I will get the type of chocolate I want and won't share that. Same with DH, he will get what he wants and I would not have any of that because it was for him if that makes sense. So we both have our individual snacks and that's fine. A lot of the time I won't finish all of mine, for example the other day I really fancied some Doritos, had about half a bag and then put it away.

Also worth noting that DH stays up later than me by a few hours.

The problem is the next day / evening I'll be thinking ooh lovely I've got crisps left I'll have one now and they're all gone because DH has eaten the rest of mine after I've gone to bed.

It's just annoying to me that I never get to eat all my snacks? I bought the crisps for me to eat. Don't get me wrong I don't begrudge him food, but if he wanted Doritos then he should have said and he could have had his own bag. This has happened a few times and it's just irritating me that none of my snacks will last until the next day.

Am I justified in being irritated by this?

OP posts:
RishiMcRichface · 13/11/2020 20:48

Say as you finished off my Doritos I am eating your snack and eat his favourite snack even if you don't like it.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 13/11/2020 20:56

Have you said "I am saving the rest of these for tomorrow. Don't eat them" ? If you have & he still eats them then he is unreasonable.
If not, then make a point of doing so & see if they are still there in the morning (& buy an extra pack to hide away just in case).

DoveGreylove · 13/11/2020 20:59

You just have to be firm and say "THESE LEFT OVER DORITO'S ARE FOR ME TO EAT TOMORROW - KAPEESH?"

If you find they're gone the next day you know he's being an arse

JayeAshe · 13/11/2020 21:07

@2020yearfromhell

I hide frickin everything 😂 I generally have a dog and toddler standing in front of my face when I sit eating anything. Anything I treat myself too, I hide away from dp, otherwise he’d have it too. As a previous poster said, the vegetable/salad draws at the bottom of the fridge are good, be sure to put a big cauliflower, pack of salad on top to conceal. Or the cupboard with flour, pasta etc in..o push it right to the back, he has discovered his before though, so I may need to move my next stash to the cupboard under the stairs..honestly, wtf 😂
Inside a brown paper bag in the salad drawer usually works just fine.
LindaEllen · 13/11/2020 21:10

Ha, YABU at. all.

We have this problem but with 17yo. We'll start something in an evening, save the rest for the day after .. and it's miraculously gone by the time we go back to it.

Now, he's not starved. He gets three square meals a day, plus an unlimited supply of healthy snacks AND we have a treat drawer for any occasional snacking .. but no, he isn't happy with any of those things, he has to go for the 'extra special' snacks that we've bought for a treat. He doesn't even taste his food he shovels it in that quick.

MummyMcMumington · 13/11/2020 21:11

Depending on how much he will actually eat if available, I’d just have around a weeks worth of extra snacks in at all times to negate this.

ChikiTIKI · 13/11/2020 21:15

That's funny you say he always makes sure when sharing things you each get an equal share. My husband and MIL are like this. If 4-6 people are eating shared platters of good they will be the ones to say "Chiki you've not had one of those Xs, two of those Ys are left for you" and I'm just there thinking I will try one of each thing until I am full.

I suppose hungrier people see a table of food and want to calculate what their share is of each plate.

Take your food to bed or hide it from him 🙂 maybe shove it in your handbag in the kitchen when he's not looking then take it upstairs with you later on

ThatDreamSheep · 13/11/2020 21:15

I have a box of treats on top of the cupboards because if he can see it it will get eaten. He found my box the other day and I told him how ridiculous it was I had to his food from him. Tbf to him, he's not gone in the box since he found it!

Macncheeseballs · 13/11/2020 21:15

Cant you just buy more

Bluntness100 · 13/11/2020 21:17

We don’t do this to be honest we just buy snacks with the shopping wnd then eat them as and when we please. We don’t have his and her food that we don’t share. I find it quite odd. Just buy a few bags or Doritos or whatever, the issue here is this is all you’ve got in.

VintageMemories · 13/11/2020 21:19

Yeah, the mumble thing wouldn't work after the second time with me. If he's embarrassed, he shouldn't keep doing it! Next time I'd either tell him you're saving them (even if he's embarrassed!) or put a very visible, unmistakable note to that effect on the snack. OR I'd just hide them somewhere he'd never look. Your bedside table, behind something in the cupboard, etc.

There should be something else he can eat. It's inconsiderate for him to take "your" snack without at least asking if you were planning to eat the rest later.

gingerbreadfox · 13/11/2020 21:21

I hide my favourite snacks (kinder beunos) in my underwear drawer! Otherwise my DH would eat them

Nottherealslimshady · 13/11/2020 21:24

Why should you care about embarrassing him? Surely after the first time he should have know that you wanted your snacks the next day and stopped eating them.
Say as you go to bed "I'm saving them for tomorrow so leave them alone please"

RealBecca · 13/11/2020 21:30

Just send him to the shop every time. Or go yourself if youd prefer. Make it inconvenient to him.

LEELULUMPKIN · 13/11/2020 21:34

I hear you OP.

Just been to the cupboard to get the unopened bag of popcorn.

No sign.

I can't complain too loudly though as when he came in off nights this morning he brought me a gingerbread man and two big bags of nuts!

Bluntness100 · 13/11/2020 21:39

@RealBecca

Just send him to the shop every time. Or go yourself if youd prefer. Make it inconvenient to him.
Or just buy a number of snacks and keep them in the house.
Brefugee · 13/11/2020 21:47

I haven't said anything about it because I don't want to embarrass him.

then you can't complain. If you buy snacks for you tell him to keep his thieving mitts off them. And if he does it again complain. And complain again. Stop pussyfooting around it

Zoolally · 13/11/2020 21:58

Dh used to do this and I never said anything but quietly seethed inside! Until he did it when I was a few weeks pregnant. I’d eaten half a bar of fruit and nut and saved the rest for the next day. It was one of the few things I managed to keep down without throwing up. He ate it when I went to bed and the next day I was fuming. He’s never done it again and now we ask each other when we go to the shop if we want anything. I do occasionally hide stuff from the dc still because they’re hoovers!

NiceGerbil · 16/11/2020 08:44

Why are all these men eating for their partners have bought for themselves and said this is mine don't eat it, and when there is other food to eat.

It's shitty shitty behaviour.

Sexnotgender · 16/11/2020 08:47

@NiceGerbil

Why are all these men eating for their partners have bought for themselves and said this is mine don't eat it, and when there is other food to eat.

It's shitty shitty behaviour.

Because they’re big men who think they deserve to eat the food.

I couldn’t be doing with it, it’s so selfish. DH and I will have the odd square of each other’s stuff but there’s no way we’d trough the lot. Because we quite like each other and treat the other with respect.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 16/11/2020 08:56

I dont really get what's embarrassing about saying 'I'm off to bed now, can you not eat these snacks please as I'm going to have them tomorrow. Night!'
I clicked YANBU to be annoyed but imo YABU to be annoyed and just stay quiet about it for fear of embarrassing him, or hiding food from him

Martinisarebetterdirty · 16/11/2020 09:05

Quite frankly you should embarrass him for doing it - it’s a shitty thing to do. I understand not having extra in, I have to ration myself snacks or I eat the lot Grin can’t have too many in! And sometimes you can’t afford to have a few weeks worth in or a variety.
Maybe when your are buying them ask him if he’s sure he’s happy with his choice as he’s been taking your leftovers and you’d quite like them leaving. Or if you really can’t talk to him about it cover the left overs with chilli powder so he gets an unpleasant surprise the next time he takes them. (I think it’s easier to just mention it).

BarbaraofSeville · 16/11/2020 09:09

Cant you just buy more

Aw, bless. The naivety of someone who doesn't live with a bottomless pit greedy fucker who will just eat everything that's in the house until it is gone, no matter how much is there.

On a serious note, there's obviously the health aspect plus not everyone having the budget to 'just buy more' to be able to fill a bottomless pit and possibly have some left over for other members of the household.

Pumpertrumper · 16/11/2020 09:13

Pick a cereal DH doesn’t like (mine is special K Grin) stash a large box at the back of a cupboard and use it to store all the stuff you don’t want DH or the kids to eat.

No one ever checks the special k box for crisps or chocolate - works EVERY TIME!!

CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 16/11/2020 09:16

We had a lodger who was a Foover (food hoover).

He is no longer a lodger.