To be jealous?

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I'm in my third year of uni, I completed a HNC and HND at college and transferred directly into 3rd year of uni.

I met a woman in my course my first year of college who I have became so so close with, she is a lovely person and we have formed a strong friendship out with college/uni. It just so happened we decided to do the same course.

I've been struggling a bit with uni and the lack of guidance we have been given along with it all being online. However, I like to get my assessments done early where my friend is a last minute person.

The thing is, I submitted my first assessment 2 weeks ago, 3 days early and my friend was still trying to complete hers the day of submission. She asked if I could send her what I had submitted so she could tell she was going down the right path, which I did.

Results came back today, I got an A - 72 % which initially I was elated about, I really struggled with it and had no help at all. However, my friend got 90 %.

Of course I am happy for her but can't help it makes my grade a lesser one, as I put so much work into it and sent my work across to her which she openly admits she just changed into her own words. I'm struggling to understand how she got such a substantially higher mark than me.

AIBU to feel like my grade is less deserved?

Her grade is less deserved. Don’t help her out going forward. She probably used your work then added loads as she hadn’t had to put the effort in on the base assessment then she had time to add extra.

Eh no...you sent her your work. Too bad

That's awful for you, I'd be fuming! However, you should be proud of your brilliant grade, knowing that it is all your own hard work that achieved it. Her grade is potentially going to be her only decent one because you won't let her copy you in future!

I'd be upset too but it's taught you a valuable lesson. Do not send her your work in the future.
You are friends out of uni so I'd be focusing on that. Keep talk of uni light and depending on the type of people you are either be honest if she asks for your work again ( chances are she won't if she's a good pal) or be vague about it/you've not completed yet etc.

Please don't let her have the chance to copy your work again. This happened with two students at my law college. The "copier" got thrown out for plagiarism ( and reported to the Law Society who determined he was never allowed to qualify as a solicitor). The girl who kindly lent her essay to help him out very narrowly escaped the same fate. She only got let off because she didn't know he would actually copy her work.

OP in the nicest possible way please do not send your friend your work again. You both run the risk of being disciplined for collusion.

Don’t send her your work in future. But to be honest she got a 90 that’s quite a step up from your mark - your work may not have helped her as much as you think.

Don’t send work to anyone again. She’s copied it and risked you both getting disciplined.

When I was at uni they used Turnitin to check work

You got an A! Don’t be too hung up on your percentage and never ever do that again!

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Aww, that is pants! She may just have used a better academic structure after seeing yours. You put in the hard work, and have no doubt taken in the actual learning. Likelyhood is, when you get out into the working world with your qualification, you will do better because of it, and she may flounder. Well done you for your marks, be proud. Put this behind you- try not to share again. It may bite at you and ruin your friendship.

Be proud op of your brilliant grade which you worked bloody hard for. Your friend did not and she put you in an awkward position I imagine which she should never have done.

Please do not give her any more of your work. If she asks again she is taking the piss. No real friend would put you in that situation repeatedly. She is a grown woman not a child at school copying homework.

This is your big year. Don’t let it be blighted by this. Maybe have a response prepared in case she asks again and catches you off guard. She may be a lovely friend but her motives are questionable.

Again. Well done

Jealous? Why? Because she cheated? Nah. Not much to be jealous of there.

You got an A so I wouldn’t worry too much but let this be a lesson for you - there will always be people who will want others to do the work for them and sometimes this results in them coming up roses. When I was at Uni there was a girl who spent the 3 year course crying on the shoulder of various friends and her boyfriend who then bent over backwards to help her out with all her assignments. She subsequently came out with a First which I really didn’t think was deserved but that’s just life and if her friends were willing to help her so much then lucky her I suppose.

You really can’t be angry at her, as she asked for your work, but you chose to give it to her. And for her to get such a high mark, some of it must be her own work. She might be one of those people who just wing it and get lucky.

I couldn't deal with that - I'd report her!

Next time.offer to look at hers to give her feedback rather than send her your work.

Well done on your mark. It is very well deserved based on your hard work and determination.
As for you "friend"..... well, its much easier to take a good piece of work and revise it if you haven't had to do all the ground work.
Please keep your work to yourself next time. Like others have said, you run the risk of being accused of plagiarism. If your friend has the nerve to copy your work, she may well say that you copied her if it came to the crunch.

Keep up the good work - you are heading for a first if you keep this up

I am surprised the university are not using software like Turnitin to stop Plagiarism

Have you actually seen her grade of 90%, or is that what she told you?

When I was uni 90% didn't exist. A 70% or higher was a first anyway!

She maybe, improved on your work to get 90 or she could be exaggerating

@BayandBlonde she said her friend changed her words...

Clearly your colleague didn't do a straight copy - she critiqued, corrected and refined the source material, and turned in a better piece of work.
I was ace at doing that in secondary school.
If you feel miffed or jealous about it, don't provide your work as her source material.

She's openly admitting to plagiarism? How are you not spitting feathers at her cheek. This is a hard lesson I'm afraid, absolutely do not share your work.

Re the mark. Do you have different tutors? Some are more critical markers than others. I've had both generous and critical markers. Similar standard of writing but some will pick apart everything.

My friend used to send me her work to proof read. Unfortunately (,for her) I would see things in there that I might not have included in mine. I'm talking maybe one piece of legislation. This would prompt me to research it and if it should be included I would..I'm sure I gained a few marks by doing this.
However, I write a much better essay than she does and I always got better marks, more than including a snippet would affect.. I don't mean to sound big headed. She whips my arse at exams.
I won't look at anyones work now. It makes me doubt my own.

If its not been flagged up by Turn it in you've either bern very lucky or shes not copied it at all, "changing the words" a bit would still flag up it was plagiarism so shes obviously done her own work.
My DH is at the Open Uni and nearly got thrown off his course, him and another student were investigated for plagiarism and it was only thankfully because he kept messages that proved he sent his essay to someone else trying to help them and not the other way round. Its actually against the Open Universitys guidelines to share your work so he got a warning for that.