To be jealous?

[couldthisbe]

I'm in my third year of uni, I completed a HNC and HND at college and transferred directly into 3rd year of uni.

I met a woman in my course my first year of college who I have became so so close with, she is a lovely person and we have formed a strong friendship out with college/uni. It just so happened we decided to do the same course.

I've been struggling a bit with uni and the lack of guidance we have been given along with it all being online. However, I like to get my assessments done early where my friend is a last minute person.

The thing is, I submitted my first assessment 2 weeks ago, 3 days early and my friend was still trying to complete hers the day of submission. She asked if I could send her what I had submitted so she could tell she was going down the right path, which I did.

Results came back today, I got an A - 72 % which initially I was elated about, I really struggled with it and had no help at all. However, my friend got 90 %.

Of course I am happy for her but can't help it makes my grade a lesser one, as I put so much work into it and sent my work across to her which she openly admits she just changed into her own words. I'm struggling to understand how she got such a substantially higher mark than me.

AIBU to feel like my grade is less deserved?

@couldthisbe

*@SandyY2K oh wow, that's terrible! *

Yes...it's unconscious bias which also leads to black pupils being under predicted in public exams too.

Luckily it's anonymous marking at my uni anyway so things like that can't happen. But no, I'm white.

That's good. You're clearly very capably, so don't let this bother you too much. I'm sure you'll do very well, despite the challenges of online learning.

One if my DC is in her first year and has never learnt like this before.

@SandyY2K thank you, good luck to your daughter too, we are certainly learning in crazy times

OP, if 72% isn’t ‘good enough’ you are on a hiding to nothing. 72% is a First - the highest possible grade. If the highest possible grade is not good enough can I gently suggest your expectations are unrealistic and you are setting yourself impossible targets? As a frame of reference I’m in academia and teach undergrad; in the subject I teach I would only give 70% or above to the most able and accomplished students - it’s not something most could hope to get. You have done EXCEPTIONALLY well and your friend, if she did get the mark she claims, has an almost-unheard of aptitude for the subject. 90% at undergrad level is essentially saying “this is so good it’s publishable”.

Go easier on yourself and be proud of your achievements.

Well done on your mark @couldthisbe.

Different circumstances but a friend at Uni plagiarised and got 20% higher than I did. I still remember it but it made no difference in my life, despite my being very aghast at the time!

Hold your head high and probably best not to share your work again!

I don't see how you can complain when you gave her it in the first place.