To ask if you could restart adulthood, what would you do differently?

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I've been thinking lots tonight about what I would do differently if I had the chance to go back when I was 18.

I'd save instead of being stupid with my money and running up lots of debt, travel more, rethink the decision to have DC so young & go to university.

What would you do & why?

I wouldn't change a thing.

I travelled a lot, went to uni, didn't need a student loan, and had dc at the age I was happy with.

What would I change? Add more to my pension maybe?

Gone much easier on the clubbing when I was at uni. Had a great time though.

More kids and perhaps a more scientific career? But what I'm thinking about now is what I'm going to do next, as I'm in a pretty decent place and my kids are getting older so suddenly I'm less needed.

Told myself that I really wasn't fat at 18 and developed more self confidence (a worth).

Stuck with therapy. It was too painful, so I walked away and now, in my late 30s, I'm still trying to untangle a childhood of abuse.

Both of the above made me walk away from a university course I loved because I couldn't cope emotionally. I ended up doing a completely different course, which I was a safe bet but I was 'meh' about.

Had children earlier. I spent all of my teens and 20s trying not to get up duffed and all of my 30s trying and failing to have a child.

I wish I’d engaged in the careers services from university. I was so put off by the corporate nature of it I feel like I’ve wasted a good degree from a decent uni.

Abs talking about university, when my size 14 trousers split sometime in the first term, I should have done something about it. The time I had to exercise which I didn’t use.

Like iminaglasscaseofemotion at 17 I got pregnant from wrong decisions and wrong people. I’d not change my DS but I’d change the fact I didn’t have my shit together. I’d not start a second degree while in my final year of Uni. I’d have not done my second degree - I did it in management for a job I ‘wanted’ I hated the job once I got it 😂😂

Read a biological science degree not chemistry.
Done graduate medicine not a PhD.
Lived abroad for a bit.
Not married “D”H.

Sadly my adulthood has been marred by a health condition that was most definitely exacerbated by a trip abroad around the age of 15. So if I could go back I’d not bother with the trip and hope it’s hat was my sliding doors moment.

This is a really interesting, and very sad, thread. I think if I had my time again, I would definitely choose a different degree and career path. At nearly 40, I feel so bored and unfulfilled and so wish I'd done that differently.