Neighbour trimmed my bush

[Colycola]

The next door neighbour whose drive sits to the side of my house has hacked back my lavender bush that may have draped itself on his driveway but has in no way impeded on his parking.

He has then dumped said lavender bush trimmings on the grass verge directly outside my house.

I really don’t want an argument. Do I just ignore him and put him down as being a twat. He is really overly aggressive generally.

Well, yeah he probably thought you'd want some of your own lavender that you'd grown back. Seeing as you let it grow into his property.

But he hasn’t dumped it on my property. There is my house. A pavement then the verge, he has dumped it on the verge.

@VinylDetective nope, lots of sniggering here too

YABU. He’s allowed to cut back what’s on his side and he gave you the trimmings back. He’s done nothing wrong.

Perhaps keep an eye on your plants and bushes in future to ensure they don’t encroach on others so they have to take action.

Oh he has hacked my bush back right to the stork. (Snorts)

@VinylDetective

Am I the only one sniggering at the back?

Me too

I blame mumnet - I never use to have rude first thoughts - shakes head slowly at her first reaction

Well this isn't the thread I thought it was going to be............

In future, trim you own bush. Lavender really can get out of control and needs to be cut back hard. Don't let it overhang.

I don't think he's done anything wrong, you have though, you should have kept it within the confines of your property.

I was expecting to see piles and piles of trimmings to fill multiple wheelie bins. A Dick move to not dispose of them himself but it's really not enough to worry over. At least he's cut it. My neighbours just let the hedge on our joint boundary grow out so it looks stupid from the road.

No it isn’t that much, but he is such a shouty prick. He shouted at DD for disturbing him when she was roller skating up and down the street during lockdown and made her cry. She wasn’t even speaking just roller skating.

OP, you are still being very Yabu. And to be fair, roller skating up and down outside when you are trying to work from home can really be jarring and annoying. Now I would probably try not to shout but I'd be getting irritated by you if you were my neighbour. You don't like him because he isn't putting up with you and your family being a nuisance.

Kids are allowed to roller skate up and down the street. Neighbours shouldn't be making her cry for doing it. If you have to wfh and can't handle normal outside noise then get noise cancelling headphones or something.

@Colycola

Oh he has hacked my bush back right to the stork. (Snorts)

Crikey

Did he just wildly hack at it with a crappy tool with no care, just diving right into it or did he carefully snip and trim it with a decent piece of apparatus? After taking time to prepare the area first?

The MN Collective needs to know whether your neighbour cares about your front bush or if he is just a head strong, bull in a China shop, wham, bam, thank you man kind of guy?

Lavender at this time of year is unsightly. I wouldn’t blame him for cutting the stuff that’s encroaching in his driveway. As for the roller skating, surely no one should be roller skating on a street? Why didn’t she stay on your property? You seem determined to paint your neighbour as the bad guy here.

Came on here thinking, what fun darlings! 😊

But no, you are being unreasonable and he has acted within the letter of the law.

And for future reference, no one likes a scratchy woody bush. Lavenders are a bugger.

Discourteous but seems legal to me. A decent neighbour would talk to you.

i have always lived where people have done this as thought this was the norm ,so was very surprised when i moved to my current house to find a note pushed through my door asking me to come round and trim the bush that was overhanging their hedge it was in full bloom at the time and its never really recovered from being cut back at the wrong time(they also reported it to the letting agent thats why i cut it back)

So a 11 year old can’t roller skate up one side of the street and then back down the other without enraging the beast?

My bush is a nuisance, it’s scratchy and wild my child is a menace to society. I have failed utterly and accept IABU.

@VinylDetective

Am I the only one sniggering at the back?

Me too

You are conflating two issues: the lavender bush and your kid roller skating. They’re nothing to do with each other.

He isn’t unreasonable to trim back a bush that you’ve let overgrow onto his property. Any interaction you’ve had before that is irrelevant.

When you plant so close to the boundary this happens. My neighbour is terrible for it, for her it’s decorative plants for me they are unwanted weeds. At least I have controlled the bamboo that was coming under the fence, it’s completely took over her border and now her lawn.

He has trimmed your bush by the book

I have to say I get sick of trimming my neighbours (very big, unruly and, frankly eyesoreish) bush and having to bag up the foliage every time. I may employ similar shouty prick dumping tactics in future.

This is not the thread I thought it was going to be...

(But just in case it’s helpful, I find the Lumea works a treat!)

My bush is a nuisance, it’s scratchy and wild

Oh, come on OP! You’ve got to be having us on with that comment!