To wonder why no one comments on my hair cuts?

[theonlywayisup33]

Do you always comment if someone has a haircut/ colour?
If I notice, and generally I do, I always give a positive comment because 99% of the time, it is a nice cut/ colour/ blow dry / makes their hair look neater.

However, I have had up to six inches cut, well done highlights (if I say so myself) and not a word from anyone who I work with (mostly women) or friends I see regularly.
My last cut and colour was last week and I am not at work at the moment but see friends at the school gate etc and not one nice comment despite my glossy locks.
These are lovely friends- so not sure why.
I know I should not be fishing for compliments but I feel I give them so freely e.g "Great coat colour" and I do not get them.
I have noticed people give them to each other when one person has had a trim so wondering if it is me.

When I was at work it was exactly the same.

Unless its a really drastic change I probably wouldn't notice. Sounds like everyone's used to you looking well groomed and sleek which is a positive!

I find the same.

I very rarely notice unless someone does something particularly drastic.

6 inches off already long hair wouldn't register with me if it's still past the shoulders, but if it went from shoulders into a mid neck bob with then I would.

Highlights wouldn't register with me, but someone going brown to blonde, blonde to red, or a more unusual colour like silver or rose gold then I'd notice.

No I don’t. Unless it’s a dramatic change e.g someone who previously had bum length hair suddenly has a Bob or pixie cut or if someone suddenly had bright pink hair I probably wouldn’t notice. I’m just not really interested in hair styles.

I had the same when I got new glasses - changed unobtrusive metal frames for a much more "statement" pair of tortoiseshell ones. No one said anything!

Try something like this

Seriously? I'm just not that observant about hair and it would take something quite dramatic for me to notice. I don't think anyone's being deliberately unkind.

Nicelegs
Ok so went from just past shoulders to bob length.
I guess normally my hair looks groomed but the rest of me isn't.
I dont think anyone is being unkind but they notice each others' far more minor hair cuts etc

I always compliment. Just last week I noticed a mum with blonde high lights/shorter hair and said I love it!

I'm sorry but if someone doesn't recognise 6 inches off a head of hair they need their eyes testing

I always compliment. Just last week I noticed a mum with blonde high lights/shorter hair and said I love it!

Oh, so do I...... if I notice. It's the noticing bit that usually passes me by

I'm sorry but if someone doesn't recognise 6 inches off a head of hair they need their eyes testing

Not necessarily. I'm just not the kind of woman who takes much notice of how other women look. However, I pay lots of attention to how they're feeling and what they say.

I always compliment as well. It is odd as you say they are lovely friends.

I have a friend whose hair just seems not to show the difference She has straight hair and gets blondeish highlights on strawberry blondeish hair, and only ever goes from shoulder length to long-bob length. Also she is very on top of things so regularly gets cuts etc so never looks unkempt. So it's hard to tell!

Super strange not to notice 6 inches of hair being cut.
That is A LOT!

I do compliment new hairstyle (other changes) if i know them well.

I worked in an office with a lady who was always a bit cold towards me. i noticed she had had a hair cut and complimented her, she was over the moon and said she had it cut a week ago and no-one else had noticed. She was my best friend after that. So you're not the only one being ignored.

You're right, it's kind to compliment.

My pessimistic guess would be either

1. they aren't keen on the cuts and don't want to lie
2. they haven't noticed. Do you style it before you see them?

Im sure it looks beautiful. Got to be better than my straggly locks!

Jilloftrades That is a good point. Maybe they are not such good friends but they are nice people. Work colleagues are the same. I suppose I notice haircuts etc so have expected others to do likewise even with these groups.

I compliment but I'm generally not observant. I noticed pre lockdown a colleague looked slimmer & she had actually lost 3 stone. My other colleagues will often say I have lovely hair but they've also not noticed a new cut, new highlights etc.

Personally I prefer it when people don't comment on these things, even if it is a compliment. I'm usually a bit self-conscious about it and sometimes it can be hard to tell if the person is genuinely complimenting you or if it is just an empty platitude (meaning they don't actually like it) or even sarcasm. For this reason I would not comment on someone else's hair unless they brought it up themselves.

I always notice and I always find something positive to say.

But I'm trying to put more positivity out there generally, so it's an active choice

I rarely comment. Most of the time I genuinely haven't noticed. Also one time I did admire someones short hair cut they started sobbing saying that everyone liked it and we must have all thought she looked terrible before.

Super strange not to notice 6 inches of hair being cut.That is A LOT!
You'd be surprised. I had that much off and most people didn't notice. My colour remained the same, but with fresh highlights and the framing round my face stayed the same. I didn't think much of it to be honest, but then I'm also someone who stopped a colleague after 3 days to ask how they'd changed their hair because it looked great and it turned out it had gone from brown to a teddy auburn.

Maybe they are not such good friends but they are nice people
Perhaps, though if I'm honest I'd be judging the quality of a friendship by the overall friendship, not whether they keep to to date with my hairdos.

Only 2 of us at work notice/remark on people’s haircuts. We know that we have to rely on each other for the positive comments as no-one else will do so. I had a year of no compliments when she was on Mat Leave!

Of your hairs past your shoulders, nobody is really going to notice. My hair has been cut several times from waist length to shoulder and as PP have said.... nobody notices if it doesn’t affect your face framing

I probably wouldn't notice either. Unless you turned up like @NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace 's picture, or you'd at least gone from platinum blonde to goth black, or from being able to sit on your hair to a shaved look, I probably wouldn't notice at all.