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To ask if you consider 60 elderly

248 replies

Sevendaysaweek · 07/11/2020 23:38

I would say maybe early older adulthood.

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fantasmasgoria1 · 08/11/2020 00:32

Definitely not! Over 80 maybe but it depends on the individual really. My mil is mid 70s and does lots of things that a younger person would do for example if she can't wait for one of us she climbs onto the bannister pulls the loft ladder out, climbs onto that and into the attic. She will then happily spend time lugging stuff around etc. She could not really be considered elderly!

HateIsNotGood · 08/11/2020 00:49

Mind you, many 60 year olds started working full-time in manual trades since they were 15/16 - I know I did and I'm only 58. Like many, I progressed a bit, getting a degree and other quals along the way.

Whilst my ideal work balance involves a happy medium of both physical and mental work I can appreciate how knackered out those of my generation who have consistently earned their living through physical Labour must be.

I'm simarlarlly concerned for all the Desk Jockeys out there, whilst higher paid and generally better T&Cs, like better Pensions, Holly and Sick Pay, no Gym Membership or Hobby can alleviate the consequences of being desk-bound.

It don't matter really to those of us that started full time work back
in 1977/78 - we've just gotta keep going until we're 67 or the Job Shop is going to find us a Course or something else irrelevant that at least keeps them in work.

Just so you know.

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/11/2020 00:58

No

Greektome · 08/11/2020 01:01

I don't think so. But I was talking to some Chinese people about this and they think that 45 is old and 30 is middle-aged. Chinese women retire at 50, lucky sods.

Gilead · 08/11/2020 01:02

I’m 62 next month. I don’t consider myself elderly.

Greektome · 08/11/2020 01:02

Biden is about to start as US President - he'll be 78. His job doesn't mean that he's not old.

Giraffey1 · 08/11/2020 01:03

No, of course not.

GemmaFoster · 08/11/2020 01:07

Golly no ! My mother is nearly 80 and having more sex than I am at 48 !

crimsonlake · 08/11/2020 01:12

Come back and explain yourself....

Staffy1 · 08/11/2020 01:13

It's getting on a bit, don't know if I would call it elderly, but it is past middle aged.

Rubybluesy · 08/11/2020 01:13

Absolutely no way

Why would you even ask

Nanny0gg · 08/11/2020 01:18

Nope. I don't look it, act it or feel it.

No.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 08/11/2020 01:28

It depends what you mean by elderly.

If you're using it to describe somebody's frailty or lessening health/abilities, then that could happen to anybody at any time and isn't just the preserve of the advanced in years, so it's unconnected to any particular age landmark.

If you're using it to describe how many years they've been on Earth, it's irrelevant to say 'my Grandma is 105, dating a 21yo Chippendale and still goes hang-gliding in the Himalayas so she's definitely not elderly yet'.

I think it was probably originated to sound kinder than just using the less-arbitrary word 'old', but if anything, the reverse is how it's come to be understood, with people attaching personal judgments as to what it means and thus rendering it pretty meaningless.

It seems to me to be another shortcut to stereotyping people and forcing them into a descriptive box rather than treating them as individuals - similar to how some narrow-minded people believe that a girl who hates dolls, dresses and unicorns and loves rugby, jeans and trucks isn't simply an individual girl with her own personal preferences but must indeed actually be a boy, in order to shove her into a convenient stereotype.

ApplesinmyPocket · 08/11/2020 02:05

"if you ask Mumsnetters what a 60+ woman wants for Christmas, it'll be bedsocks and jigsaws. "

Or hand cream.

That's definitely what I (63) want for Christmas. Hand cream. Oh yes. I can't wait.

FortunesFave · 08/11/2020 02:20

I think elderly is 70 plus...maybe even 75 plus.

Runningdownthathill · 08/11/2020 02:25

No

janetmendoza · 08/11/2020 02:41

No. Kamala Harris is 56. Does she seem nearly elderly? No not at all!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 08/11/2020 02:44

I consider 60 to still be middle aged

CustardyCreams · 08/11/2020 03:05

No. Still young.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 08/11/2020 03:20

@katy1213

No - but if you ask Mumsnetters what a 60+ woman wants for Christmas, it'll be bedsocks and jigsaws. Or possibly a tag to remind you when you forget your own name.
🤣🤣🤣

So true.

Inkpaperstars · 08/11/2020 03:29

Good god no, I am amazed you'd ask. I don't consider it old even.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 08/11/2020 03:41

No, it's not even old (and I'm in my 30s).

StarlightLady · 08/11/2020 04:13

No! I have friends in their 60s, who are out there enjoying travel, events and very sexually active. I have just under 20 years to go to join the club and hope l am the same.

KitKatastrophe · 08/11/2020 04:23

No I would say 80 is elderly

echt · 08/11/2020 04:41

To ask if you consider 60 elderly

How can it when you can't get your OAP until 67?
Now that I give it a nanosecond's thought I can see that individuals can be elderly at 60 but the government for reasons of propaganda/money can say they are not. Hmm