To think this email is flirty

[RootinandTootin]

Got an email from a colleague I quite fancy and I’m not sure if I’m reading into it. “Are you sure you can manage that IT on your own? On a scale of confident to (person who’s terrible at IT) where are you?” Background the email is about something that needs doing after hours and I’ve asked this person for help before. Thoughts?

If you are bad at IT and he knows it, think it's just a joke really. I mean, is there any reason why he pr you can't just ask to go out for a coffee or whatever the done thing is these days? Arranging to see you at work outside working hours is what married people do surely

He’s sort of my senior and a bit older (not married) so could be awkward. I definitely think I’m reading into it. I do fancy him but do you know when you’re not sure they fancy you back and you don’t want to make a massive twat out of yourself? Yes I sound 13, no I am not.

Definitely ask for help though as it does sound as though he is offering. Then see what happens 😊

No. Sorry.

OP you are worrying about the wrong thing. You’re worrying about whether he likes you back or is flirting with you and not focusing on how this interaction with an older, senior colleague is already developing a foundation where you mutually laugh - at you. That’s not anything based on being equal.

No I don’t see it. I think it’s quite condescending and a bit mansplainy but not flirty.

Patronising to you and rude about the other person.

Not remotely flirty

Even if he does like you back, you laugh together about how useless you are? Eugh.

I don't find it flirty but my DH thinks your colleague was flirting. Makes mental note to re-train DH as he's clearly lost his touch.

Ok, I’ll help

He’s being friendly op yes, is it flirty, no on the face of it not remotely I’m sorry,

Whether he fancies you or not, you can’t tell from this brief offer of help.

He couldn't be less flirty if he tried.

Sounds like something I would write in general (not flirting, not being mean etc) mostly I joke about ...judging by pps hopefully no one I speak to thinks I’m patronising

Frankly I'd sack off anyone who suspected I needed help with "IT." Patronising git.

Only if you spell flirty N E G G I N G.

And no, it's not flirty. He's asking if you need help with the IT, that's.... that's not flirting.

It sounds more patronising and genuinely concerned at your potential ineptitude. But you know, if that works for you...

Only in the universe where "math is hard" Barbie was a good idea

Well, I'm going to offer a different view.
My (now DH) is crap at flirting. At a meeting he offered to take my mobile to help me with IT issues. I thought he was flirting- he wasn't.
However, he did like me and just did not know how to flirt and thought I was not interested in him!
Because I misinterpreted his message and then approached him, this led to more chat and I told him I liked him. What have you got to lose? The worst that can happen is he's not interested, you get embarrassed for a few days and then you move on.
Or.. he may be crap at flirting, and you make a move and live happily ever after!

Not flirty.
Nor is it attractive to mock a colleague in an e-mail to you

I cannot read any flirting into it at all 0P.
I understand that is out of hours so you would likely be alone, but that email is not flirty.
If you fancy him, take his help. That will provide a chance for him inviting you for a date (if that is allowed these days, maybe a coffee date over Skype?), and see what happens.

Patronising. Condescending. NOT flirty.

As far from flirty as possible. Downright rude!

I think you're s t r e t c h I n g

But if you fancy him, accept his help, flirt with him!

It could well be an attempt at flirting. He could be trying to get you to ask him to stay after hours with you.

Equally it could be nothing.