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Did I do this wrong or did he?

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bekkiblue90 · 06/11/2020 19:08

So I met a guy in July on pof. He said from the start he didn’t want to jump into a relationship as we both had finished a relationship in January .

Anyway we were seeing each other every week. Just to add I know it was lockdown but I was working from home and so was he so we didn’t see anyone else. We used to text and call each other all day everyday. I got the good morning and night messages everything. I got feelings for him and mentioned quite a few times that I didn’t want just sex and if he was seeing other girls I would walk away.

He was ok with this and said he wasn’t which I believed so I thought we were dating. We finally slept with each other in September as I like to wait. About a week after we slept together he changed. He didn’t ghost me but basically became not interested in everything. Wasn’t texting and stuff as much anymore.

I later found out that he was suffering with ptsd again and had found out his ex is dating one of his team mates.

I’ve realised that he’s an arse and it’s either me or he’s not over his ex. But was I wrong thinking we were dating or was I just a friends with benefits to him but without the sex 🤣🤣.

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LouiseTrees · 06/11/2020 19:18

Or you were dating but then he realised the same spark with ex wasn’t there with you?

coffeeandjuice · 06/11/2020 19:56

Sounds like he's got background issues he needs to deal with. If it was a week after having sex that he started been weird it was probably coincidence that all his "baggage" came to the forefront around the same time.

But either way, it sounds like when he said he didn't want a relationship he a reason for it.

Sorry it's disappointing for you, the dating game is so tedious sometimes. Maybe the next fish is "the one"!

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