Who gets which room??

[inmyshoos]

So the situation is....

My partner and I are moving in together. We both have kids that we share with our ex's. One child is 17 and has a girlfriend. They usually stay over alternate weekends. The other child is 10 and will stay every weekend. There is a room each but one fits a double bed the other smaller and fits a single. The teens need the double bed but aibu to think the child staying every weekend should have the bigger room?

The youngest needs a space they can study in as they are 14. Can they study in the smaller room?

@BashfulClam but they aren't 14 they are 10 - my 10 year old definitely doesn't need to study but she also has a lot less stuff that my 7 year old. In 4 years time I'm sure the 21 year old will be visiting far less and the bigger room can be handed on.

Small room small double (4') for the 17 year old
10 year old has the bigger room.

@inmyshoos

Sorry can see I've worded my op in a confusing way!! To be clear.... 10 yo stays every weekend. 17 yo only stays every alternate weekend but with his gf (pretty long term and serious)

prettying term and serious at 17??? can i point out that sex is only legal from 16... I can't believe parents allow and encourage a 17 to have his girlfriend to stay....

Why not? 17 year olds shag. Shock horror. As long as they're being discreet. They're going to shag anyway. I'd rather them do it in bed in a safe place than in a car or down an alley somewhere. The op doesn't mind, so why are people sticking their oar in on this point.

3/4 bed in the small room would be good option I reckon. Or a fold out double.

prettying term and serious at 17??? can i point out that sex is only legal from 16... I can't believe parents allow and encourage a 17 to have his girlfriend to stay....

I’d far rather my 17yr old had sex at home that in a field or park somewhere. Mine is only 15yrs at the moment but at 17, I’d be surprised if she wasn’t having sex (most are) and if she chooses to be in that sort of relationship then I’d like her to know that of course she has the option of her own bedroom. Otherwise I’d be hypocritical having told her repeatedly until now that sex is a happy, healthy, fun part of adulthood as long as she’s responsible and feels it’s something she wants rather than something she should do.

Would a double mattress fit in the small room wall to wall? If the teens are literally just sleeping in the room then they can just crawl in from the bottom of futon style set up

ikea has inbetween sizes. 70 cm is single and they do 90 cm beds as well.

The problem isn’t that the 17 is having sex. It isn’t even that he is having sex in the house. Teenagers having hormones is not news. It’s the overnights. It’s the implied seriousness of incorporating her into the family when this should not be a serious relationship. At 17 he should be dating, not cohabitating. Sure the rare couple meets at this age and makes it work for a lifetime, but it’s too much pressure on a teenage relationship.

I would also try to squeeze a small double into the smaller room OP, or even a full size double. It only has to be 18 inches more room widthwise.

Get one with storage drawers underneath so there is still space for belongings to be tucked away out of sight etc.

you could get a small double bed, they're 6 inches
smallerwww.dunelm.com/product/faux-leather-white-bed-in-a-box-1000097056?bedSize=Small+Double+4ft&defaultSkuId=30311227

Jeez who would have thought the bedroom issue would bring up do much sexual repression
They are legally allowed to have sex. Plenty underage having sex, they waited until they were 17. They are in a relationship. Not sure about the 'should be dating' comment. Personally I feel I'd rather my son was in a loving relationship if having sex than just dating.... Is that like shagging around? Not sure I'd encourage that.
I've no issue with the sex so if we can stick to the bed issue that'd be most helpful

Ten yo uses both rooms in other ones absence. Theres a company called something like justfourfootbeds online