Page 9 | Is this year the worst year of your life?

AbsentmindedWoman · 2020-11-03T21:17:48+00:00

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through? I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date. What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

Blimeyoreilly2020 · 03/11/2020 22:34

Nope - no one in my immediate family has died or is as yet terminally ill, we still have money coming in, kids (despite disappointment at losing sport) are perfectly ok really...they’re not exactly being used as child soldiers... I feel desperately for those who have lost or are in the process of losing someone they love, also for those whose financial security is threatened by the inevitable crash and don’t know how they will provide for themselves it’ll dependants...

Lavanderrose · 03/11/2020 22:34

Yes, by far the worst year ever for my family, it’s been pretty unbearable, Covid has been ok to deal with personally although we don’t yet know the effects of living through a pandemic has had on us all yet. Certainly the added worry of catching Covid when you step out the front door isn’t great for the old wellbeing!

Bubbletrouble43 · 03/11/2020 22:36

It's really shit but for me personally I've had worse years. Like the year my ex partner got addicted to heroin and became violent and tried to murder me whilst I was pregnant, then I had to testify as a witness in a crown court trial against him. That will be a hard one to top tbh.

whysotriggered · 03/11/2020 22:36

@DevastatedandDistraught I'm so so sorry for your loss

SleepingStandingUp · 03/11/2020 22:37

Nope.

Nothing this year that has happened has made me want to die

HappyDinosaur · 03/11/2020 22:37

No, it's been stressful so far but we haven't lost any loved ones and I have my husband and child with me. The years I was bullied and unhaloy through school and the years I lost loved ones were the worst of my life. I can only hope that I remain lucky in that respect this year, but it does worry me. I feel for anyone losing someone, it's always awful of course, but I imagine especially so when it is so hard to even say a proper goodbye or have support from family and friends as one normally would.

Mistymonday · 03/11/2020 22:38

No, it certainly isn’t. I have a number of contenders that blow it out of the water. This I can deal with.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 03/11/2020 22:38

Nope. 2015 I developed a nerve pain condition, my dad died and I needed an operation on my hip. That was a bad year.

hangingonbymyfingernails · 03/11/2020 22:38

Its not as bad as it has been, I can look back and think I have had worst, however if my mental health takes another downturn, then I might not survive it this time round

HappyDinosaur · 03/11/2020 22:38

No, it's been stressful so far but we haven't lost any loved ones and I have my husband and child with me. The years I was bullied and unhaloy through school and the years I lost loved ones were the worst of my life. I can only hope that I remain lucky in that respect this year, but it does worry me. I feel for anyone losing someone, it's always awful of course, but I imagine especially so when it is so hard to even say a proper goodbye or have support from family and friends as one normally would.

SleepingStandingUp · 03/11/2020 22:38

Nope.

Nothing this year that has happened has made me want to die

hollieberrie · 03/11/2020 22:39

@DevastatedandDistraught I'm so sorry sorry for the loss of your lovely daughter

MiaMarshmallows · 03/11/2020 22:39

No, I have had worse.
Even a friend who has 2 chronic illnesses, one of which diagnosed over lockdown, been made redundant and had a friend die said this isn't her worst year. It depends what you have been through in the past I guess.

hollieberrie · 03/11/2020 22:40

@DevastatedandDistraught I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely daughter

bigbluebus · 03/11/2020 22:40

Definitely not. I'd say 2016 was the worst for me - the year my Mother died in March and my Daughter died in December.
Quite frankly, whilst this year has been inconvenient and full of uncertainty it doesn't come close to being devastating. But then we haven't lost any family members, friends or jobs as a result of Covid - although DH has lost income as he has had to reduce his hours (and pay) by 1/5th.

Whatthebloodyell · 03/11/2020 22:40

Nope. And actually the stuff that I’ve found challenging this year has nothing to do with COVID.

Needahug72 · 03/11/2020 22:41

Yes we have lost my gran, my cousin and my dad all in a 3 month period

itsgoodtobehome · 03/11/2020 22:41

Sorry to all those that have had such a terrible time.

Ironically this has been a great year for me. I got myself out of debt during lockdown as I wasn’t able to fritter it away on stuff that I normally would. I also lost weight and got really fit due to exercising in lockdown. And I finally got off my arse and got myself a great new job which I had been wanting to do for ages, but the lockdown gave me the space and focus to do it.

So I feel like the lockdowns have been beneficial and given me the time to achieve things that I always made excuses not to.

MagnoliaXYZ · 03/11/2020 22:41

Absolutely the worst year of my life.

I'm fortunate I have a very safe job but I've been worried about the prospect of being moved to covid wards (it's not the covid bit that worries me but the fact it's almost a decade since I worked on a ward) - it fortunately hasn't happened yet.

I live alone so I was bored during lockdown when not in work. At least the glorious weather earlier in the year meant I was able to get some jobs done in the garden and enjoy the wonderful area I live in. Definitely not the case now though.

I have several family members who are very high risk, some of whom have had a few essential hospital and it has been a worry each time they go. I continue to worry about them constantly.

But, I also believe the pandemic has brought out the best in most people. It has been heart warming to see and has brought tears to my eyes on several occasions. Communities and neighbours have pulled together, local groups have formed to support one another. Individuals have rallied around after the vulnerable, neighbours have become friends, my parents neighbours have checked in on them regularly and have done shopping when they've needed odd bits during the week between my shopping trips for them.

hangingonbymyfingernails · 03/11/2020 22:41

Its not as bad as it has been, I can look back and think I have had worst, however if my mental health takes another downturn, then I might not survive it this time round

DrMadelineMaxwell · 03/11/2020 22:41

Nope. 2015 I developed a nerve pain condition, my dad died and I needed an operation on my hip. That was a bad year.

hollieberrie · 03/11/2020 22:42

@DevastatedandDistraught I'm so sorry sorry for the loss of your lovely daughter

Krazynights34 · 03/11/2020 22:42

No. The year after my daughter died (she died at Christmas), my physical recovery was slow too and the grief was immense.
Oh and 2019 was shit too.
This year is more boring but hey ho

IndieTara · 03/11/2020 22:42

No 2015 was my worst year

itsgoodtobehome · 03/11/2020 22:42

Sorry to all those that have had such a terrible time.

Ironically this has been a great year for me. I got myself out of debt during lockdown as I wasn’t able to fritter it away on stuff that I normally would. I also lost weight and got really fit due to exercising in lockdown. And I finally got off my arse and got myself a great new job which I had been wanting to do for ages, but the lockdown gave me the space and focus to do it.

So I feel like the lockdowns have been beneficial and given me the time to achieve things that I always made excuses not to.