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Is this year the worst year of your life?

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AbsentmindedWoman · 03/11/2020 21:17

It's a shit year, I think virtually everyone would agree. But is it the worst you have lived through?

I'm bored, frustrated, and because I am chronically ill and depend heavily on access to specialist doctors for time-sensitive treatments, have a constant level of background anxiety in case SHTF and my doctors are forced to cancel. However, for me it's not the worst period of my life to date.

What about you? I'm interested in different perspectives on this, as we all are coming to the situation from very different places.

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Leflic · 03/11/2020 22:53

@DevastatedandDistraught

My life has been horrendous since May last year when my 15 year old daughter took her own life completely out of the blue due to medication she had been prescribed for acne.

My life as I knew it ended with her death. Since then I have no interest in anything. I have become semi- reclusive because it’s easier than having to pretend I’m ok to everyone. Lockdown would have driven me mad before, now it suits me just fine. And when the worst has happened you don’t worry about things like lockdowns or Covid or anything else for that matter. It’s quite liberating not being scared of dying. Everyone else is terrified of catching this virus- not me. I couldn’t give a shit.

Flowers

That is truly one of the worse things I could imagine happening. God only knows how you pull through that. Must be worse if only a handful of people have experienced it too. At least with Covid it’s everyone’s problem.
Massive hugs Devestated.

lingle · 03/11/2020 22:54

Thoughts are with all those who have lost children

DorisDaisyMay · 03/11/2020 22:54

I would go so far to say it’s been one of my best years.
Best thing for my child - he has grown in confidence. Seriously those months with me have changed the course of his education.
Best thing for my job. All my usual work stopped and I had to reinvent - much much prefer what I do now by a million miles.
Best thing for my house - husband finally finished some jobs and it’s been Marie Kondoed to joyful cleanliness and tidiness!
Best thing for my health - I lost that stone
Best thing for my health part two- I had an op in September and I really got to recover because there was zero expectations on me.
Best thing for finances because we stopped eating out and wasting money
Very few people I know have been affected - it’s not really in our area

Bunnyfuller · 03/11/2020 22:54

Husband strayed, losing his job because of it, ergo selling house, 2 anxious teenagers already stressed about GCSEs and COVID, now in bits over family split, my heart still being unreasonably lazy.

Yeah, super shit year

MsAwesomeDragon · 03/11/2020 22:54

No, nowhere near the worst year of my life. 2020 is significantly better for me than 2019 was, even though it's a worse year on a society wide level.

I had a very tough year back in 2012 as well, and 2004 was a rubbish year too. So I suppose 2020 would feature in the top 10 of bad years it wouldn't be top of my list.

Currently I'm still healthy (could change, I know), as are my immediate family (because my extremely vulnerable parents have been able to effectively shield), I have a secure job that I like most of the time, my dds are both healthy physically and mentally. I know I'm a lot luckier than a lot of people, so I am very thankful for that.

Jointhecircus · 03/11/2020 22:55

I’m not sure it even makes the top ten worst years of my life!

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PolarnOPirate · 03/11/2020 22:55

No, it might sound flippant but the absolute dread and depression that came with slogging day in day out at a call centre being abused by the public was the worst 3 years of my life to date. I realise that makes me fortunate in the grand scheme of things.

MsAwesomeDragon · 03/11/2020 22:56

No, nowhere near the worst year of my life. 2020 is significantly better for me than 2019 was, even though it's a worse year on a society wide level.

I had a very tough year back in 2012 as well, and 2004 was a rubbish year too. So I suppose 2020 would feature in the top 10 of bad years it wouldn't be top of my list.

Currently I'm still healthy (could change, I know), as are my immediate family (because my extremely vulnerable parents have been able to effectively shield), I have a secure job that I like most of the time, my dds are both healthy physically and mentally. I know I'm a lot luckier than a lot of people, so I am very thankful for that.

Isitgiroday · 03/11/2020 22:56

Nope. This is s breeze compared to 2017 when I lost my mum to cancer in 10 weeks. When I hear people moan about not seeing family I inwardly think "well at least you'll see them again". And then remember how many people have lost family during this pandemic and feel terrible and feel lucky to have been there to the end with mum. I have a lot to be thankful for so consider myself very lucky despite current events.
It's our own fault anyway for continually fucking over nature and the planet and if this doesn't wipe a large quantity of us out, antimicrobial resistance will in a few decades time so make the most of it!

Bellabelloo · 03/11/2020 22:56

Nope! I'm 40 and reckon I've had 15 years worse than this one.

ticktackted · 03/11/2020 22:56

No, luckily my 2020 has been fairly covid-proof. It's been stressful, but no permanent harm done. If this had happened a year earlier, it would have had a much bigger impact on me & changed a lot more plans.

CloudPop · 03/11/2020 22:57

Yes it is. It's been bloody awful.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 03/11/2020 22:57

No, this is the 4th worst year of my life I think.

The worst would be the year I had postpartum psychosis following flashbacks during my baby's delivery to being raped. Tried to kill myself, tried to leave my "doll" in nicu and generally lost it. Next in line, the year I was raped in. Then the year my dad died so losing him whilst pregnant with another baby and stressing that I'd get postpartum psychosis again plus having my therapy stopped when I needed it the most because I was grieving.

Then 2020. It's felt worst than it actually has been though because it was meant to be a brilliant year with therapy finally completed and lots of lovely things planned.

MrPanks · 03/11/2020 22:58

Yes. My father died from covid and we never got to see him or have a proper funeral, and my husband lost his job (main breadwinner, long time working for the same company, excellent employee), all due to covid. The stress in my job has increased due to covid. I'm scared shitless that schools will close again shortly and cause further disruption to my DC's education and emotional wellbeing. And now DH is becoming depressed. Just want to wake up when it's all over.

youdidask · 03/11/2020 22:59

Nope not by far

Worst year involved epic betrayal
Untimely death
Childhood cancer
Depression

GabsAlot · 03/11/2020 22:59

not really weirdest probably or surreal is more like it

year my mum died was the worst my family fell apart after that

JaceLancs · 03/11/2020 22:59

No as awful as it is I’ve had worst years
ExDH cheating on me then leaving me for OW with DC age 4 and 5 and no money - I was also quite poorly due to kidney problems

Leflic · 03/11/2020 23:03

@DevastatedandDistraught

My life has been horrendous since May last year when my 15 year old daughter took her own life completely out of the blue due to medication she had been prescribed for acne.

My life as I knew it ended with her death. Since then I have no interest in anything. I have become semi- reclusive because it’s easier than having to pretend I’m ok to everyone. Lockdown would have driven me mad before, now it suits me just fine. And when the worst has happened you don’t worry about things like lockdowns or Covid or anything else for that matter. It’s quite liberating not being scared of dying. Everyone else is terrified of catching this virus- not me. I couldn’t give a shit.

Flowers

That is truly one of the worse things I could imagine happening. God only knows how you pull through that. Must be worse if only a handful of people have experienced it too. At least with Covid it’s everyone’s problem.
Massive hugs Devastated.

Downunderduchess · 03/11/2020 23:03

Definitely not the worst year of my life. I’m safe, I have a job that I can do from home. I have enough money to live on. A lot to be thankful for.

diamondpony80 · 03/11/2020 23:04

In a lot of ways it's been one of my better years. There's a lot that I've hated about it, but it's been a good year for me financially. I've enjoyed having the chance to slow down and not have to rush around as much as usual. It hasn't been great for the kids I'll admit - one was in an exam year and it's been bad for their mental health being away from their friends. For me though as an introvert I enjoy being at home. I would like to see things go back to normal as we knew it though. I miss seeing my family, travel, going out etc. Plus I hate that it's affected so many people so badly.

TaraR2020 · 03/11/2020 23:04

No, I've had a few much worse by far, but this is year is definitely not great...Still finding it tough going, but grateful for what I have and focusing on the positives.

I'm so sorry for you and everyone else who is having a dreadful time of it this year Flowers

DuzzyFuck · 03/11/2020 23:05

Not even close, even taking into account enormous uncertainty in my career and not having seen my family in over 12 months now. I've enjoyed a quieter life where it's ok just to stay at home if you want to, and my relationship with DP has blossomed through lockdown and WFH.

The last year of my marriage and first after my separation were the worst. They were the years when I cried every day and couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm sorry for all those who are living their worst life now. It will get better x

NeonGenesis · 03/11/2020 23:05

My family decided to behave like total assholes throught and ever since,constantly telling me to accept he's gone, stop talking about him

Why do I hear this from almost everyone I know who lost a baby?! It's horrible. People are so cruel and weird about it. I'm so sorry that you were treated this way by those who were supposed to support you. I hope you managed to find support elsewhere.

MrPanks · 03/11/2020 23:05

@DevestatedandDistraught - I am so sorry for your loss, i can't imagine how you are feeling Flowers