Perfumed baby [shock]

[PieMama2007]

DD (9 mo) has just started nursery and comes home reeking of perfume from one of the carers. I hate it and have to bathe her as soon as she gets home. I've never worn perfume since she was born, because I don't think it's right to bombard her senses with artificial scent. Should I say something?

Tis better than what my DS1 smells of when I pick him up from the CM, as he always chooses that time of day (normally as we are just getting in to the car) to open his bowels.

I'd take the perfume anyday.

However, I would acr irrationally if it was something like Charlie Red. There'sno excuse for thsat, IMHO

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Shreksmisus - did you tell her twice?

blimey - all this talk about other women leaving their mark sounds like babies are possessions that can be spoiled! I do know what you mean, but the reality is that your baby is being cared for, some of the time, by other women. it's not their job to protect you from that fact, it's just their job to treat your darling, as much as poss, as if she were their own. I think.

My dd1 and 2 used to come home smelling of perfume sometimes - dd1 when she went to tea with her best friend who had a lovely mum who must have hugged her! and dd2 quite regularly at nursery, again from her lovely nursery nurse who used to cuddle her a lot and I have to say I didn't mind at all. DD2 recently started school and got very upset one day and I was reassured when she came home and smelt "perfumed" and told me her teacher had given her a cuddle because she got so upset. also their auntie is a very perfumey sort of person and gives them all lots of cuddles and they all say "it smells like auntie" at anything sweet smelling.

I think the reality is that if our children are cared for by someone else it is sometimes difficult, and I wonder if this is more about you losing control of exactly how your child is cared for. Do understand about not liking perfume - I find most perfume difficult to wear - makes my eyes stream and have got more sensitive to this. However, nursery workers wearing it is within the limits of reasonableness.More important to build a positive relationship with them than risk it for the sake of this. More difficult when children are little, I think - once they're older you have to put up with them reeking of Impulse/Lynx themselves!