Period pads in bathroom bin

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My mum gets worried and anxious about all sorts of crazy things, courtesy of her mother. I am much more chilled and so we clash a bit...

I gave birth 2 weeks ago and, of course, I'm still bleeding a bit and wear biggish daily pads (the biggest one of the small ones, you know). My mum said to me that I shouldn't put them in the bin in the bathroom because of my DH and FIL. I should take a separate bag (and put it where???!!!).

Let me be straight with you: my answer was "not happening"!!!

Are you team "my mum" or, like me, you think "though"?? (Btw the boys of the house don't usually empty the bathroom bin)

This is exactly what bathroom bins are for.
Although i often wonder what people who don't have a bathroom bin do so maybe they're with your mother on this.....??

Was your husband at the birth OP? What does your Mum think will happen if he sees a bit of blood on a pad? Your Mum sounds nuts, sorry.

My teenage daughter, when she first started getting periods thought it was ok to just roll them and out in her paper bin. I did not think that was ok! Now she puts them little bags and I’m perfectly happy with that.

I'm 52 and back when I was living at home I wasn't allowed to do anything but flush them down the toilet. My mother would have thrown a fit if I'd put them in any bin. I wasn't allowed to have any sanpro in the bathroom - it had to be hidden in my bedroom. Also wasn't allowed to use tampons as 'I wouldn't be a virgin if I did'. My mother is a stupid bitch.

@Mummyoflittledragon

Who’s house? I always used to put pads in the bathroom bin in my home. As a child, mother made me give them to her to burn on the fire because it was disgusting to put them in the bin..... not even allowed in the dustbin. Now that was embarrassing seeing as I have a brother. Even as an adult she wouldn’t accept mine wrapped in the kitchen bin, they had to go outside. Fucked up.

Yes, I was born in the 50's.My mum used to collect the used sanitary towels from myself and my sister. They had to be wrapped in newspaper, and we had a special drawer in our wardrobe to keep them in. Then she would burn them in the morning. Of course, we always had fires!

Roll and wrap, and into the bathroom pedal bin - which obviously does have a lid. DH does the bin emptying and has never had a qualm. Mind you, he’s also brilliant at the ‘here’s a hot water bottle and bar of Galaxy’ bit of periods, too.

Your mother needs to chill significantly. It's what the bin in the bathroom is for. Roll them up and close the lid.

I don’t understand why this is even an issue! Get a lidded bin, put a bin bag in it, put waste in it, empty it when full or sooner if worried about smells. No need for scented bags or wandering outside in the cold with your tampons, it’s bizarre that people do that!

Thank god they're in the bin and not down the loo. Fat bergs are mostly wipes and sanitary products! Perhaps you can ask your DH or FIL to empty the bin regularly if the contents offend them.

The fuck?! Tell your mum to take her nose out of the bathroom bin and then it won't bother her. Hate the attitude that women should hide things that men "shouldn't need to see". We bleed, monthly for most, and it's a normal bodily process. After birth too. As long as it's wrapped, it goes in the damn bathroom bin. I applaud you, OP, for calmly coping with your mum's attitude. And don't even get me started on her telling you to hide your belly

Bathroom bin with a lid and a bag is for disgusting stuff like san pro, tooth floss, earbuds and used tissues.

Open bathroom bin is for recyclables- empty shampoo bottles, toilet roll inners etc.

There’s no way I’d be traipsing through a house with a bloody tampon or pad to use another bin.

Some of these memories are reminding me of the mother from Carrie

I'm wondering what your FIL and mum have to do with it tbh, do they both live with you?
I'd wrap in the next pads wrapper and put in bin. No problem. My husband also would have no issue emptying the bin.

Another roller and wrapper in the bathroom bin here.

However, I may be persuaded to adopt this tactic:

My Mum used to put her pads in a paper bag which she burned in the garden at the end of her period!!

I rather like the element of ceremony here and may start doing this whilst dancing naked in the moonlight...

Who is your FIL living with, though? Is your mum concerned about you using her bathroom bin -bonkers and annoying but her prerogative - or your own bin - why? - or even more bizarrely your in-laws bin?

So many questions. But mostly none of her business!

My bathroom bin is none of my mother’s business.

I've always used the bathroom bin. Like others I wrap it in the new pads wrapper but that's not for the benefit of my husband or any male relatives. It's so the smell doesn't linger and I dont want to look at all that blood either. I wouldn't produce any more waste by using toilet roll or a bag to wrap it though, just landfill for the sake of it in my opinion.

Where do you live ok? Surely this is the crux of the matter. If you live with your Mum she gets to say what goes in her bin no matter how bizarre. If you live with film he gets to say. If you live in your own place you do as you please. But surely you know this.

@enjoyingscience

You should save them all until night and burn them in the garden so you don’t frighten the bin men, of course.

Please don’t put them in nappy bags though - what a waste of plastic.

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Why are such old fashioned men going through your bin anyway?

Your mum is making a big fuss about nothing. And as for hiding your preg tum.. that's crackers.

Everyone seems to be obsessed with lids as well. Lids are not needed. God forbid if a man is offended because he sees something wrapped in a bin.

As long as the bin is emptied often so it doesnt smell who cares.

Your mum needs better boundaries

I kind of agree with your mum. Mine go straight in the outdoor bin as I think they can start to smell quickly. I wouldn't do it because of my DH or other male family members.

@IHateCoronavirus

Surely that is one of the reasons for a bathroom bin, no? Team you 100% If the men are so sensitive about women’s reproductive health, they need to stay away from women’s reproductive organs.

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