Ginger & worried about the future.

[Noimusntforget]

Our gorgeous toddler Dd has red/ginger hair, she’s very pale, with blue eyes and barely there eyebrows and eyelashes.
We’re both dark haired, with tanned skin and blue eyes, our girl doesn’t really look like us yet. Where we are (not in the uk) ginger hair is seen as very unusual and special, but we plan to move back to the uk in the next few years. I have a red headed friend who was bullied for years. When I look at my sweet, innocent girl, I feel fearful for the way she might be treated in a few years.
Anyone else have a red headed child? Is her colouring likely to change at this stage (2.4 months old)
Her hair and colouring is stunning and special to us, but people can be arseholes in life and I feel sad if she’ll have to encounter that.

@Mary54

Our dd (24now) is a redhead by choice. This follows burgundy and green. Personally, I think she looks stunning. She is often complimented on her hair -she naturally has the pale skin to go with it. No one has ever said anything negative about it. If they do, point out that red is the royal color. Henry VIII Elizabeth 1etc

And Boudicca!

Natural redhead. The worst thing for me was someone calling out ginger when they wanted to get my attention so I just didn't respond. But there were a lot of people who thought my hair colour was beautiful and complimented it. My major issue with it has been that because it was such a pale red, strawberry blonde, and fine that it's an absolute bastard to do anything with.

Your daughter will be just fine.

My 7 year daughter has long, very curly and very ginger hair. She LOVES it, she has always had people commenting on how stunning it is (it is striking) and she often refers to herself as a ginger. She’s still young and has had no comments at school (other than compliments) yet. Everywhere we go, people tell her how lovely her hair is and so far she loves it. [we’re in the south of england]

Haven't rtft but it's 2020 and often kids nowadays love red hair so it can't see it being an issue as it was 20 years back. My husband is ginger and has never once been bullied because of it.

My son is a proper redhead and I admit I'm a little worried as I used to get teased for being a redhead (I was not as red as he is and have got more brown as I've gotten older) and I think sometimes boys might be teased a bit more so I'm trying to give him the resilience to not let it bother him if anyone says anything negative about his hair colour. That being said, I really do wish I had £1 for everytime someone comments on how lovely his hair is as I'd be minted by now

All three of my children had red hair, my daughter lives her hair and is beautiful and proud, my youngest son made having red hair cool as he has a big personality and used it to his advantage, they are all adults now, encourage her to be proud of it, it is beautiful and let her know that the most special children have red hair xx

Both of our nieces have the most beautiful red hair like their mother - neither have been bullied and my best friend is also a red head
Other than the odd “Oi Ginger” she has never had to deal with bullying as a result

I don’t think it’s that much of a thing anymore tbh xX

Your questions are actually offensive and therefore part of the problem.

@SayakaMurata

Yes, it is true about keeping out of the sun. I've managed to burn in the shade and covered in factor 30 before!!

True. I have never had a tan.

My daughter was born ginger. By 2 her hair was dark brown. I think I you are worrying to much.

My dd is 6 years old, beautiful ginger hair blue eyes and 'see through' skin lol. Her hair is nearly down to her knees, she's never been bullied about it, in fact she absolutely adores having ginger hair.

My son has albinism, so he has pale skin, blue eyes, white hair, white lashes and white brows. I couldn’t be more proud of him and I will raise him to be just as proud of his looks. Raise your girl to love her individuality!

You sound very disappointed to have a ginger child OP

I appreciate your being concerned for your child, but as a redhead with two red headed children (teenagers: girl and boy), it’s a little offensive! There are always things kids might pick on, but red hair is something to be proud of. Your child will continue to be showered with compliments when you move back to the UK. I wasn’t bullied and neither of my children have had any negative comments.

I understand where you're coming from. As horrible as it sounds, the main thing I was worried about when I was pregnant was that the baby would have ginger hair (stupid I know!). But I spent my entire childhood being bullied for being ginger. It's only now, as an adult, I realise that the kids that picked on me also picked on the 'fat kids', the kids who wore glasses, the kids who didn't wear the latest fashion (me also) etc.... Kids can be cruel unfortunately, you just need to teach her to be confident in herself. I was always a bit shy and retiring and wouldn't say boo to a goose (that has definitely changed now ). I think schools etc are alot more aware of bullying etc now and would nip it in the bud if it did occur, back in my day you were told to 'get a grip and stop whinging'

My grandmother was a redhead who, when her turned white, dyed it back to red again.My brother was born with a head full of red hair, but it turned light brown later. I also had three cousins, same side of the family who were redheads. Now I have a naturally redheaded granddaughter.
Never heard anything about them being bullied because of it.

Times have changed... Stop worrying about things that 'might' happen because you might pass these worrying traits onto your daughter...

My grandchildren, boy 8 1/2 and girl 10 are always complemented, never bullied.
Went on holday to Nice when they were 6 months and just 2. So much interest and complements from the French.
The red hair comes from their great, great, great grandfather.

I think it’s different now.

I’m 30 & won’t lie I got teased but it was mostly in my teenage years when people were trying to show off and be funny. Easy target sometimes!

I dyed it ASAP.

Fast forward to mow I’ve finally got my natural colour back and love it.

Kids will tease people for absolutely anything.

Never been bullied due to red hair. People are very envious, particularly because it’s also extremely curly. I wouldn’t worry.

@gypsywater What a horrible thing to say.

@FlossyChick Definitely not meaning to cause offence, I love it but remember a different time in my youth when my best friend (stunningly beautiful) was bullied relentlessly for it. As I’ve stated, this was late 80’s/90’s. I haven’t lived in the uk for almost two decades. I’m really pleased to see it’s the opposite now.

Times definitely have not changed where we live.My son has had it all his life and he is of the dark ginger variety. He was called a long list of choice names including

...iPad issues....Ranger....orangutan. His mate is called Ginge by everyone....there are a lot of ginger folk where we live too. My ds is 18 .

Most schools are pretty hot on stamping out any sort of bullying nowadays - far more than when we were kids!

I always thought the jokes about ginger kids were just jokes, as everyone knows that actually red hair is the most desirable colour?

It would be great if this was the case but it really isn't. Boys especially do not want red hair.