To do a normal Christmas this year

[Coviddooneplease]

Now before I’m flamed I don’t mean completely normal eg a New Year’s Eve party like we usually have, and huge gatherings of both mine and dh’s family all together. I won’t go stupid but I have no intention of snubbing family this Christmas Anette’s denying my dc to see our nearest ant dearest. I know it’s been a shit year for everyone, and I expect the majority of you have stuck to the rules religiously (like me) but I refuse to have a shit Christmas to top of a shit 2020.

I plan to have my parents round on their own then my sister and niece on their own then see dh’s parents and brother at their house. That’s it. Usually we have 30+ people including both sets of grandparents (mine) who I won’t be spending time with as they are to vulnerable medically speaking. AIBU here or are other people going to do what they went whilst exercising caution and of course common sense?

Possibly. But they’re rising anyway at the moment when apparently the majority of the country are sticking to the rules.

My 18 and 22yr old ds's are banking on having their first ever Christmas at home, rather than spending it with DH's slightly bizarre family 😂 I'm rather looking forward to it myself.. 😬

Our preference is generally for a nuclear family Christmas but might have one or two relatives and friends who are on their own. I don't begrudge anyone who decided to bend the rules during that period though. Just be cautious if possible.

If uou are in tier 1 then what uou suggest seeing people in small groups is allowed

How sorry will you be when an older relative gets Covid, through your selfishness?

Fucking hell 🙄

@Furrydogmum

My 18 and 22yr old ds's are banking on having their first ever Christmas at home, rather than spending it with DH's slightly bizarre family 😂 I'm rather looking forward to it myself.. 😬

It’s blessed relief :)

@Coviddooneplease

Not necessary I suppose but to be honest I was interested to see what other people planned on doing over Christmas and if people were happy to use their own judgment instead of allowing a complete buffoon like BJ dictate what they can and can’t do.

The other 20 threads on Christmas should have given you an idea about what other people are planning

How about listening to NHS staff that are already overwhelmed? Scientists from around the world?

Using common sense - yep, exactly what I'm doing. PEOPLE spread the virus, I'm staying away from people, not closing myself in a room with them. You're the one doing that. I fail to see why you think that makes more sense??

I haven't once mentioned 'the rules' for why your plan is both selfish & stupid. So trying to turn it around on people to say they're stupid for being dictated to by Boris is just you being defensive.

It makes people mad seeing idiots like this break the rules as they’re in a Tier 2 area where it isn’t allowed. No excuses for it but you try and do it if it makes you feel better. Boris might a ‘buffoon’ but That doesn’t mean you’re in the right

We’ll just have Christmas as our household of 4-DH, me, two teen DDs. My dad is in his 80s and will be with his partner, MIL and husband are in their 70s so wouldn’t want to harm them as I work in a school.

Actually she phoned the GP multiple times as she was feeling clammy, headaches, dizzy and was having palpitations. She was royally fobbed off so she tried Nhs 111 who basically told her it sounded like anxiety and for her to rest and phone back if things didn’t improve. She was a healthy fit relatively young person who died of a heart attack due to an unknown hereditary condition. She tried to seek help and no one would help her!

@MJMG2015 My mum already suggested gripe water and was (amazingly!) shocked to hear it doesn’t have booze it it any more

@Tricerapops

We see grandparents once a week for childcare at the moment anyway so yes, we'll still be seeing them on Christmas Day as usual.

Childcare is not there to facilitate socialising.

T2 here
Won't be seeing family at all (T1) if it stays that way.
If we change to T1 (area only just above figures for T1 so it may change), still will stick to rule of 6 so no big family meals etc
It's only a day

@Audreyseyebrows

I love all of the people saying that they plan to break the rules but it’s ok because they’ve followed them religiously until now and it’s Christmas after all! You deserve this because you’ve behaved so well!

You are as bad as the people that you judge for not following the rules. You are one of them.

As for Annette, she’s a fucking dick.

Agreed.

It will be just us which is a huge departure from normal. How can I put elderly parents at risk though? The virus won’t disappear for the day. I see my parents all the time but outside for walks etc. I won’t risk their health just to have Christmas Dinner especially if hopefully there will be a vaccine for them soon.

I really hope all the Christmas rule-breakers remember everything they are saying now, come January, and don't go back down the "people will die if you go to Tesco" route.

It's just a shame it takes Christmas (which I can't bear) to make people see sense.

@catchabreak2020

People like you make me mad. You don’t even plan on just seeing one set of people you shouldn’t, you plan on seeing 3!! Honestly disgusting. And then to post on here bragging about it too. Vile.

Wow calling someone vile because they dare to want to see a few family members at Christmas. What has the UK come to? Great for those who don’t want to see anyone, you can get on with isolating long term. But don’t judge those who have actually have close family and friends they want to see, it should never have been made illegal to be able to see your family. There is no problem with seeing a couple of people over Christmas as long as people do it sensibly and don’t have a massive party or do it every weekend.

We'll be spending Christmas with our support bubble, so us and one other single parent family. We've also followed the rules religiously because we've lost someone to covid which probably helps to focus ones mind.

I have my grandchildren for my dd and DS and their partners to work.

I have told them I won’t be seeing them over Christmas. Neither will I be visiting my parents, in laws or other relatives. I’m looking forward to a nice, quiet Christmas. Just hubby and me eating what we like, when we like and doing exactly what WE want to do without having to put everyone else first for the first time in over 30 years.

I’m looking forward to it 😊

We’re following the rules OP. It’s only one year.

But I guess your family is special, and your needs are special, or whatever.

With 2 student DD we are still not sure what Christmas will be like for us. One is in a Tier 3 location, the other Tier 1, I am at risk due to age, weight and health but not high enough to have had to shield, but I am very careful. If they can come home they will, both are being sensible but they are still the most likely route to us being in contact with it.

Both my DParents and PIL are over 75 and my DM is very high risk. A normal Christmas would involve at least 3 days of family mixing indoors and I am trying to work out the number of connections if 1 person tested positive on 27 December, I am up to 30. We will not be doing this!

I'm assuming all of your family are on board with your plans op, including your in-laws?

I personally don't see the point of sticking to the rules for most of the year only to break them at the end of it. Many peop!e complain about the stress of Christmas; why not take the opportunity this year to have a quiet one with your immediate family and savour it. The added bonus is that it won't spread transmission further. Apart from anything else, given that so many cases are asymptomatic, I would be too worried about inadvertently infecting my own parents or in-laws. This is not beyond the realms of possibility if dc are attending school , never mind "denying my DC the right to see their nearest and dearest". Think what a shit Christmas present that would be. Personally, I wouldn't enjoy Christmas if I was stressing about that.

No . Won’t be breaking rules. Will have a quiet Christmas. Have lost too many family members this year . And don’t want to risk anymore . Or put the nhs under pressure two weeks after Christmas during normal flu season .

I don’t care what you all do as long as you don’t blame the government if it all goes pear shaped . Which you obviously will.

Whilst I totally see your pov op my worry about the huge amount of people meeting at Xmas is that covid has been shown to spread really easily at this kind of event, or larger than usual family meet ups. I just think that we all have a collective role to play and off we don't rates will be sky high after Xmas and we risk more lockdown. We live in a tier 2 testing on tier 3 area and my family in tier 1 keep telling us to come, would be 4 households and 10 people we have said no as although I wouldn't report them I don't want to be part of the problem.

Yes, I agree with others who are saying it's fine if just one family does this but if everyone breaks the rules the results a fortnight later will not be pretty.