To do a normal Christmas this year

[Coviddooneplease]

Now before I’m flamed I don’t mean completely normal eg a New Year’s Eve party like we usually have, and huge gatherings of both mine and dh’s family all together. I won’t go stupid but I have no intention of snubbing family this Christmas Anette’s denying my dc to see our nearest ant dearest. I know it’s been a shit year for everyone, and I expect the majority of you have stuck to the rules religiously (like me) but I refuse to have a shit Christmas to top of a shit 2020.

I plan to have my parents round on their own then my sister and niece on their own then see dh’s parents and brother at their house. That’s it. Usually we have 30+ people including both sets of grandparents (mine) who I won’t be spending time with as they are to vulnerable medically speaking. AIBU here or are other people going to do what they went whilst exercising caution and of course common sense?

@Coviddooneplease

You’re right, I haven’t lost anyone to covid but I did lose a close relative a few months back who died because she was poorly and couldn’t get an appointment with her GP. She didn’t want to pester her GP and thought she would be ok but no, she went to bed and passed away in her sleep. It devastated my family so now, more than ever, we understand how important family Is.

I'm sorry to hear about your relative 🌷

But if family is SO important you'd be better NOT mixing and making sure anyone who isn't well DOES go to the Dr. Risking spreading Covid puts YOUR family and other peoples families at risk, why would you do it?

Christmas is just one day. Most of us don't do it for the religious aspects & certainly you don't need to see family for that anyway. It's just tradition & an excuse to get together, which during a pandemic, is frankly, just selfish & stupid.

My point exactly. This virus isn’t going anywhere anytime soon so unless we are all willing to live under a rock until it does one or a vaccine is available then I don’t see the problem with spending time with family.

You‘ll not be alone, I don’t care what the rules are, we’ll be celebrating with immediate family.

@MJMG2015 that said I appreciate we’re very lucky in that we are able to do it. I know lots of people don’t have that option due to work.

@Sertchgi123

How sorry will you be when an older relative gets Covid, through your selfishness?

There are worse things than this. A life without connection is not worth living for some. Those at risk have a right to choose that risk over living without family connection.

Maybe because we’ve all been living in fear of covid but finally got to a point where we all felt really lucky and relived that none of us had been unfortunate enough to be touched by it and then bam we lost a relative to something non covid related. Don’t get me wrong I do see your point and to some my reasoning wouldn’t make sense but it just dawned on me and my family that you just never know when your time is up and that we need to savour every bit of joy that we can.

[quote Dollywilde]@MJMG2015 oh agreed. My dad is ECV though - parents are retired so we’re planning on taking a big box of food for them on the 9th. DSis and her bf are both techies who are probably going to be wfh forever now so just a question of building up a freezer stash and not going to the pub. And DD is currently 10 weeks old so self isolation is easy for us, we’re not really going out or anything and I’ve still got a freezer full of batch cooked stuff from pre baby mat leave

Dad has quite bad primary progressive MS so it’s really in none of our interests to take any risks. Even stuff like packing a potty in the car so we don’t stop at services on the way down (and it’s only an hour to Mum and Dads, but in case we got held up!) But we’ve figured this is a good way to enjoy a family Christmas. Plus with newborn DD we’re really going to need a break by then![/quote]
That all sounds very well organised & doable.

I hope you have a really lovely Christmas 🎄 🎁

You've had your present very early though!!

[quote Dollywilde]@MJMG2015 that said I appreciate we’re very lucky in that we are able to do it. I know lots of people don’t have that option due to work.[/quote]
Take your good luck where you find it!!!

I lost my Dad a few years ago and I'd isolate for a year to spend a day with him. Give yours an extra hug from me x

@FourTeaFallOut

No one likes Annette.

People like you make me mad. You don’t even plan on just seeing one set of people you shouldn’t, you plan on seeing 3!! Honestly disgusting. And then to post on here bragging about it too. Vile.

We're visiting both families. Only ones we wont see are those that live the other end of the country if we're not allowed sleepovers.

@MJMG2015 thanks, although after the night we had yesterday it doesn’t feel like it! (Currently hiding in the bath while I have a DH-mandated hour off!) I’ve already told DD all I want for Christmas is one instance of sleeping through.... ;-)

I’m not “bragging about it” If I make you sick just for wanting to see my family then you have issues you really do.

@MJMG2015 so sorry for your loss, I will x

@Coviddooneplease

Maybe because we’ve all been living in fear of covid but finally got to a point where we all felt really lucky and relived that none of us had been unfortunate enough to be touched by it and then bam we lost a relative to something non covid related. Don’t get me wrong I do see your point and to some my reasoning wouldn’t make sense but it just dawned on me and my family that you just never know when your time is up and that we need to savour every bit of joy that we can.

Well you've clearly made your mind up & nothing we say is going to change it. You have to live with your decision.

But was it realky necessary to start a thread about how you plan to break the rules?

As we are now in tier 3, and don't live anywhere near any other family we will stay put. I hope DD can come home from university as we haven't seen her since August.

Not necessary I suppose but to be honest I was interested to see what other people planned on doing over Christmas and if people were happy to use their own judgment instead of allowing a complete buffoon like BJ dictate what they can and can’t do.

[quote Dollywilde]@MJMG2015 thanks, although after the night we had yesterday it doesn’t feel like it! (Currently hiding in the bath while I have a DH-mandated hour off!) I’ve already told DD all I want for Christmas is one instance of sleeping through.... ;-)[/quote]
Aww bless

All I can hear now is 'all I want for Christmas is my two front teeth' 🤣

Baileys in her bottle?

....joking, joking....

I love all of the people saying that they plan to break the rules but it’s ok because they’ve followed them religiously until now and it’s Christmas after all! You deserve this because you’ve behaved so well!

You are as bad as the people that you judge for not following the rules. You are one of them.

As for Annette, she’s a fucking dick.

I don't see why it makes people 'mad' seeing couples of people at different times. That isn't against the 'rules' either on Tier 1

Ok I am one of them. Fine.

We see grandparents once a week for childcare at the moment anyway so yes, we'll still be seeing them on Christmas Day as usual.

So I’m not the only one then. We must all be selfish then lol. But anyway I’d rather be a bit selfish and see my family with minuscule risk of passing anything on to them, than not see them at all and us all be miserable.

I wonder if cases will rise after Christmas? Loads of posters on various mumsnet threads are saying they are going to break the rules at Christmas.

@Coviddooneplease

You’re right, I haven’t lost anyone to covid but I did lose a close relative a few months back who died because she was poorly and couldn’t get an appointment with her GP. She didn’t want to pester her GP and thought she would be ok but no, she went to bed and passed away in her sleep. It devastated my family so now, more than ever, we understand how important family Is.

Then it wasn’t the GP she needed. I’m sorry for your loss but if she was so poorly that she died in the night she needed to be in hospital. What you, and others like you will do, by ignoring social distancing will lose a lot more people their loved ones.