To ask what you think of this childhood incident?

[NorthGirl2]

When I was 13 I had a birthday get together at my house with a few friends. My dad brought my birthday cake out and it was a cake in the design of breasts. They sold these cakes at Tesco at the time.

I was mortified and my friends were also embarrassed. My dad thought it was hilarious.

I was talking with a colleague about embarrassing childhood moments and mentioned this story. She was shocked and said if that happened today there would be concerns.

I just wanted opinions on what others would think of this - my mum knew about the cake but didn't try to stop it

Yeah its not great but if there weren't any other issues involving your dad then I'd just put it down to a really bad joke and not dwell on it

Very wrong, especially for a thirteen year old girl. I'm surprised your mother allowed it, never mind what I think of your dad for buying it. What was he thinking? I wonder if he was one of those parents who wanted to appear 'cool'.

A long time ago though, op. I hope you made your parents realise what a severe error of judgement they made but...life goes on and if your mum and dad are basically nice, forgive them and try to leave it in the past where it belongs.

A recent fashion with cakes is having them decorated like poo (brown of course). It started in America. I think that is absolutely vile and wouldn't fancy eating a bit of cake like that.

PS: Poo with flies on it!

What a stupid, horrible thing to do. It’s hard to believe someone capable of doing something that humiliating to his child at the precise age when she is most likely to find it humiliating, only ever had this one lapse of judgement. I have no idea what your mother was thinking, letting him do it, either. What were your parents like generally?

@jessstan1 - poo cake reminds me of a cafe I once walked by in Toronto, the poo cafe or similar. Seats were toilet shaped and food on offer was along various themes of poo shaped stuff - made me feel queasy but there was a queue outside!

Back to OP, it sounds very inappropriate and sad it caused you embarrassment. Hopefully was a one-off clumsy joke and not typical of his behaviour toward you?

That's really weird op..... was he inappropriate at other times?

Wtf! Didn’t your mum do anything??

You might want to read this article. Princess Diana organised a group of supermodels and a boob cake for Prince Williams 13th birthday!

www.express.co.uk/news/royal/1272672/princess-Diana-Naomi-Campbell-Cindy-Crawford-prince-William-birthday-party-youtube

I don't remember people using words such as "inappropriate," "misogyny" or "safeguarding" in the 1980s.

I do remember "bad taste" being used though. Times change - thank fuck.

I remember the boob cakes, IIRC, they tasted ok. A colleague brought one into work to celebrate getting the all clear. Definitely not for children though and does seem especially cringeworthy for a teenage girl.

Now I've heard everything.

Having said that, I seem to remember Prince William talking about that party in an interview he did with his brother, about their mother. They were laughing and he said, "She did the most outrageous things", so maybe it didn't affect him as much as it would a girl of the same age.

I wonder if the op's dad is more 'grown up' now and why she has been thinking about this recently.

A bit unusual but the fact they were even on sale in Tesco shows how different times were back then. I'm presuming you're talking about the 70s here, there are lots of things that were commonplace back then which seem wildly inappropriate now (sexualising children), and vice-versa of course (gay marriage for example).

the fact they were even on sale in Tesco shows how different times were back then. I'm presuming you're talking about the 70s here

I've seen them in Tesco and I was only born in the 80s!

OMG how inappropriate for a 13yr old girl, it's so wrong.

Inappropriate certainly but as long as there were never any other issues with your Dad then I don’t think there is any point in dwelling on it.

Really inappropriate and misjudged!

As a one off I don’t think it would cause concerns beyond the immediate and obvious idiocy of it, but if it was part of a wider pattern of poor boundaries and inappropriate sexualisation it might do.

I also remember Tesco selling the boob cakes and I was born at the end of the 80s. They were obviously meant for adults / maybe late teens. Naff regardless of the age, though.

This was not the 80s- it was the early 00s.

I remember those cakes, in the early 00s. I remember me and my brother we were about 12 and 8 begging my dad to get us one from the rescued section because we thought it was hilarious. The weren't naked boobs, it was cleevage with a bra one. He gave in and bought us it in the end but i couldn't imagine him getting it unprompted and giving it in front of my friends. And he did plenty of inappropriate and embarrassing things.

gross did he do anything else like that