To assume he's shagging another woman right now

[Stressedmessdress]

I've been talking to a man every day for the past couple of weeks. We've known each other from work for about 6 months now and have always gotten along well, but he seems to have ranked things up recently. It's almost always him beginning message conversations with me, often multiple times a day.

I asked if he's doing anything fun this weekend because he's in a tier 1 area and he gave me a cagey answer. He then sent me a picture of him driving somewhere at about 5pm. Since then, he hasn't been online on his phone or texted me at all. My immediate reaction is to think that he was driving to meet up with a woman and isn't messaging me because he's busy shagging her right now.

Is this a leap?

He sent you a photo of himself driving???

Yep. Driving to the other women.
Or maybe driving to the shop for a bar of chocolate. We don't know at this stage but as he will probably be a MN regular we are expecting an update very soon, after he has recovered from eating the chocolate. If he is the kinda guy who likes a second bar then we might have to wait some time.

I've heard it takes longer to eat the second bar but I only ever seen to experience one nowadays.

Goodness me, I know you like him but just leave him be.

If he is shagging someone else would he really send you a photo of him driving?! Surely he’d just be devious about it. Unless he is shagging someone else and wants you to know as he’s just not that into the situation🤷🏼‍♀️

Just see if he message in the morning, if by mid morning he hasn’t send a casual ‘how was your evening message’. I know it’s shit when you really like someone but you can’t force it, whatever will be will be, if he is shagging someone else, then he was not the person you thought he was.;

You sound high maintenance op. Maybe you gave him those vibes too.

He's probably just visiting his mum but doesn't want to tell you because it sounds like an uncool thing to do on a weekend night. If he was having a beer or fish with a mate he eould have told you.

You're not even dating. What he's doing is none of your business.

OP please don't message him. He has been pretty mysterious tonight. How open is he usually about what he is up to? Walk away for now and focus on other things.

I agree with you op.

Nobody's ruling out Hakespeare. I think it's likely to be A Midsummer Night's Bream, but it could be Anchovy and Cleopatra.

Actual genius right here 🤣🤣🤣

I wouldn't give two hoots. He could have been doing anything yet you leap to sleeping with another woman. He could have gone for a drive then gone home and watched Netflix all night. Or done boring stuff like an early night, playing video games etc.

He sent you a photo of himself driving??

My first thought too.

Anyone who takes a photo whilst they are driving is a pollock. Get rid of him.

You aren't dating him and you've been doing nothing more than talking for a couple of weeks. Goodness you are very hard work if you are this jealous about someone you aren't actually in a relationship with. He needs to run for the hills.

You’re not dating him. If he want to shag other people he’s within his rights to do so.

@LizzieSiddal

He sent you a photo of himself driving??

My first thought too.

Anyone who takes a photo whilst they are driving is a pollock. Get rid of him.

Agreed. A pollock and a sprat.

When I was younger I had casual sort of 'flirty' relationships like this, where we texted constantly and got on so well. But they never wanted relationships. They'd behave similarly to your guy and I would get very upset. I was obsezzed with them! It went on for a while with an occasional date and sleeping together, it was fun but nothing came of it and I thought about them CONSTANTLY and worrying they were probably seeing other people.

My advice is to move on

Ah to be a teenager again.

Poor guy

@Butterer

Have I missed the bit where op says they're even dating?

😂

Poor OP, I think you thought you’d hooked a good un here.

Hope your self isolation ends soon. You must be like a fish out of water at the mo. You’ll soon be feee and swimming about in the fishpond of life. 🐠

Single man may be having sex with single woman shocker 🙄

Thing is OP, he hasn't actually said he's going fishing. Someone suggested that as an alternative, and you've decided that that's his excuse, and that it's suspicious because he's a vegetarian.

The fish puns are magnificent. Bravo the Night Shift.

I'd cool off on messaging him for a few days, see if he mentions where he was going. If he doesn't, I'd say he probably was meeting someone. You say you have been talking to him for 6 months, but does he actually know that you like him in that way? Is he flirty and gives signs that he fancies you?

If he was going to visit a family member I think he would have said so. Likewise if a hobby.

He might have decided you are too full on and is just trying to figure out how to let you down gently?

Marking my plaice here!

@Stressedmessdress

No we're not dating and I know that he is entitled to shag who he wants. I really like him though and the thought of him with someone else hurts a lot

You aren't even dating and yet you are on public forum discussing how he is probably having sex with someone, because he went somewhere and isn't online!

Now if this isn't a red flag, I don't bloody know what is...