Trigger warning to think it’s cruel

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I’m in hospital after having a missed miscarriage and I had medical intervention which has now caused me to lose to much blood and now due to blood loss I’ve got acute kidney injury but the cruel part is they’ve put me on a ward surrounded by pregnant women with healthy babies all I hear is babies heartbeats on the ecg monitor and a lady next to me who’s pregnant keep talking about how excited she is and I’m sat here going through this I just think they could have put me on another ward surround gynaecologist problems and not pregnancy

Oh goodness OP, I am so sorry. YANBU, that would be terribly upsetting. I don’t think you should have been put in this position.

I hope you’re physically on the mend soon and able to grieve your loss in peace

That is awful. Sorry you are going through this

I'd consider complaining, or at least asking to be moved.

Oh op

That really is horrible.

I think I would ask to be moved. I'm so, so sorry for what you're going through.

Oh OP, that sounds absolutely dreadful.

Im so sorry you are going through this, I would definitely ask to be moved.

You should never have been put in that position 💐

Omg that is cruel. So sorry op. Yes please asked to be moved.

So very sorry for your loss. I would also asked to be moved, and I would ask to speak to the Matron/Charge Nurse because you are in an awful set of circumstances and yes it is cruel

((hug))

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss and for what you are also now being put through. Go easy on yourself, hope you're feeling a lot better soon

I'm very sorry for your loss. Push to be moved if you've got the energy. Ask to speak to PALS, they'll advocate for you.

Awful OP, so sorry for your loss. And yes you should asked to be moved.

I am so sorry for your loss. I think you need to kick up a fuss. That is beyond cruel.

This is awful and I thought they’d stopped mixing women like that?
I’m so sorry for you OP. Ask if you can move if there’s any chance. My DM is a midwife and I know for sure she would hate to see this situation and would be doing everything she could to get you moved, it’s one of her red lines. Get well soon.

This happened to my mum in 1980 after having a very late miscarriage. Being put back on the ward with all the new mums as her milk came through was unforgiveable and cruel. My heart goes out to you OP lots of love x

So sorry for your loss

How awful, I've heard of this happening years ago but I thought things had improved.

After I had my son prematurely I was sent to the ante natal ward . He was on deaths door and I was surrounded by babies .. very cruel ! Hope you are ok 😘

That is horrible OP I am so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage 19 years ago and I cannot imagine being on a ward surrounded by pregnant women. Ask to speak to someone about this. Say you are not happy at all and do not back down. If you're not feeling up to it is there anyone who can advocate on your behalf? . Say you will report them to PALS. I cannot believe they would do this. It is unspeakably cruel. I am so sorry

That’s really awful. Why haven’t they got you on the gynae ward? Or even a general surgical ward would be preferable?! This is in no way appropriate and you should be making a huuuuuuuge fuss.

So sorry for your loss op, can you asked to be moved ? Tell them how you feel. How awful. 💐

That is awful for you. Please speak up or if you don’t feel able get someone to do it for you. Sorry.

I would ask to be moved, make clear it’s inappropriate and upsetting for you to be there. Like you said, a gynaecological ward would be more appropriate. It’s impressive how thoughtless some people are

I can relate to this as at my local hospital insists on putting pregnant women and women with fertility issues in the same waiting room. Every woman in the room is usually pregnant apart from me, then you get their partners arguing about coming into the scan. I have never been pregnant, never mind had a scan or a picture to take away

Thank you for all of your kind words. I’ve asked to be moved and was told due to COVID they’ve had to limit beds and this is the only one available explained how distressed how I am I always suffer with mental health and how much this is having an impact on me all I’ve got is we’re so sorry and we will talk to the doctor and see what we can do but there is no beds

So sorry you're going through this. I've had three and I was never put anywhere near a pregnant lady or babies.

I was waiting for the Covid excuse to be pulled out. Sorry to hear they haven’t been more thoughtful and helpful. Another vote to contact PALS

I thought this type of cruelty had stopped. My mum lost a baby 40 years ago and was put on the antenatal ward to "recover". Wicked that it is still going on

Am so sorry for what you are going through x

Oh god OP that is so awful, sending massive hugs.

I live in Sydney, Australia. When I lost my angel baby DS at 18 weeks pregnant and I had to be admitted, though they had to put me on the postnatal ward they put me in the room at the very end of the corridor away from the other mothers. I cannot express how much that meant in all that pain.

My rainbow baby DD (3 months now!) was born 6 weeks premature in July in a different hospital, I was given a single room. I found out later they do that whenever possible for mothers whose babies are in NICU as they feel it’s cruel to have them share with a mother who has their baby with them.