Sharing photos of my baby with family

[Squishy8]

Just bit if a rant really. I post pictures and videos maybe a couple of times a week of my baby to family. Is this too often and annoying?! I would want to see pictures if it was a family member's baby!

To be fair most of my family reply and seem happy to see them.

My father, however, always seems to have a negative comment. For example, I would share a video of DS turning pages in a book or playing with something and he would reply "he wasn't even paying attention" or something similar. It makes me feel bad-like he is annoyed to see it or like I am pretending my baby can do something he can't. Why must he be so negative..just say "aw!" If you can't think of anything nice to say.

Feel like I might aswell not even bother. Trying to involve him as a grandparent but maybe he isn't bothered. Maybe I am just being overly sensitive and he is joking. Who knows but it bloody annoys me and makes me feel shit

Don't send them to your dad. Some people just don't find babies that interesting.

What did he say when you asked him if he wants to receive photos and videos?

You need to ask them, there's no correct amount of pictures to send.

I didn't ask to be fair. Should I have done?! I kind of assumed he would want to see them considering it is his first and only grandchild. He seemed really excited at first but now just seems a bit negative. It's weird.

I would find multiple times a week annoying. Monthly would be suffice.

I expect your dad is probably trying to be funny and failing. One sarcastic comment is ok but some people need to realise when the style of humour has gone on too long and warm thin.

He also could be totally insensitive to your feelings or just be plain nasty.

I would tell him you'll exclude him from pictures as you can see he doesn't enjoy receiving them or just leave him out the group when sending them.

Whatever his reasons he's not being nice.

I get a pictures of baby relatives sometimes, and I enjoy receiving them.
But it is hard to think of what to say back, apart from “aww, cute”... so maybe your dad just finds it difficult to think of what he can say to acknowledge the picture.
Maybe his comments aren’t meant to be negative.. they’re just his way of saying that he’s watched the video. Assuming he’s not an “aww cute” kind of guy.

@Squishy8

I didn't ask to be fair. Should I have done?! I kind of assumed he would want to see them considering it is his first and only grandchild. He seemed really excited at first but now just seems a bit negative. It's weird.

Why don't you talk to him about it?

Also don't be so quick to give all your memories away, keep some for yourself. Maybe send one or two a months, unless wanted and close to them a few times a week seems a bit much. If I was your parents I would be over the moon to get baby pics, but if maybe doesnt need to be shared with husband's cousin's step sister's mother etc. Just keep it to who you are actually very close to etc. Maybe scale back on what you send your dad.

The only other people in the group are my mum, brothers and sister in Law. I know for sure my mum wants loads of pictures but I guess I never considered it to be annoying to everyone else

Maybe I need to scale it back.

No I haven't spoken to my dad about it. We actually aren't that close but he was making a massive effort throughout my pregnancy and just after the baby was born. Now it seems he has lost interest or yeah is trying to be funny but it really isn't and I don't get the joke!

I often make comments on things that come across as negative and I don't even realise - until someone pointed it out, I was completely unaware. I think you're reading too much into it - everyone loves baby pictures (of their family members).

@Lizadork

Also don't be so quick to give all your memories away, keep some for yourself. Maybe send one or two a months, unless wanted and close to them a few times a week seems a bit much. If I was your parents I would be over the moon to get baby pics, but if maybe doesnt need to be shared with husband's cousin's step sister's mother etc. Just keep it to who you are actually very close to etc. Maybe scale back on what you send your dad.

What do you mean by give away your memories? Sharing a photo isn't giving anything away.

The thing is that you are answering for yourself, you have no clue how the OPs parents feel thats why this thread isn't going to acheive anything as no one can answer for them

My mum does it far to much with my neice. I do love seeing her but it's fucking constant. Maybe it's a bit over the top? I actually avoid her messages for weeks then look at them all at once. Of course it's nice to see but it's hard to care when it's all the fucking time.

My daughter sends daily pics on a WhatsApp group - I filter out and show DH some of the best ones, possible once twice a week. Sometimes he'll go through the chat on my phone and have a good look. He does ask for some to show to his side of the family/friends but he wouldn't want to be included in the main group.

I'd match his tone, about the book one id say "correct, at 6 months they generally don't 😂" or something similar. We set up a separate photos group for grandkids so you could dip in or mute however you fancied

I would find multiple times a week annoying. Monthly would be suffice.

You'd find getting pictures or videos of your grandchild a couple of times a week annoying?!

Everyothername, yes. If it was "here they are eating spaghetti, ready for bed, on the sofa, posing with the cat" enough to be multiple times a week, for months, I would be bored of it.

I'd be bored of it too. Once a month is nice for my family.

My sister sends me pics of my niece probably every week, which I love. Perfect amount.

How many are you sending each time and how long are the videos? 50 pics of one outing is annoying but 3-5 different ones sounds fine to me.

I sometimes only put one a week on the group. Sometimes a few-it varies depending on if something exciting has happened! Never ridiculous amounts though. My mum asks for them pretty much daily so I just send them to her separately aswell. The others seem happy to see them. It is only my dad who makes the weird comments.

Sorry OP but it sounds like too many pics to me.

Is it really?

I guess because no one lives near us they can't see her often so I assumed they would want to see things to feel a bit more involved. Maybe I just need to calm it down then. I just think I would want to see pictures if it was my nephew/grandchild/whoever that I couldn't visit often.

I wouldn't thank you for that. Far too much! Most people...not all, but most I think, aren't remotely interested in other people's children doing ordinary things. Super cute to you (and rightly so) but of zero interest to the rest of us. Most people will also be too polite to tell you to knock it off.

Oh my goodness... I have a family whatsapp with my parents and brother and his wife who live in Canada. I send photos all the time... like at least every day. I dont expect replies all thr time but often they respond or send pics of their new screensavers which is the latest pic of my boy (who is 2). I would be annoyed if my dad was negative. Just create a new group without him haha I'm due my second baby in January... my poor family are probably dreading all the photos hahaha