To report this teacher to the school (help!!!)

[hellolovely7]

Actually NC because a lot of school mum's know me on here and I feel so awkward about this situation but

My DS is in secondary school, he can be a bit of an idiot but I'm not on here for an incarceration of his behaviour. Today he was spending time in the behaviour centre and one of the teachers in there touched him. Impossible to get out of him what actually happened as he has clammed up about it now but basically AIBU to report this to the school due to covid? Surely teachers should be 2 metres away and definitely not touching the students????

For context and not to be a drip feed, he basically came home and was like "Miss xxxx" hugged me today. I was like, wtf, and he was like nah she didn't really hug me but she did touch me mum so ive probs got covid now. I asked him exactly what happened but he said i was making a fuss and she was just comforting him due to having a strop but he said he was a bit surprised that she touched him and he apparently told her she would give him COVID and then she apologised.

Do you think this is dealt with and it was just an error of judgement from the teacher or do you think I should be making a bigger deal? I am genuinely torn

"he apparently told her she would give him COVID " out of real fear or to wind up his teacher..

What possible benefit would reporting her have on anyone? You sound horrible.

I feel this is getting somewhat twisted.

He did not tell her she was giving him covid in a rude way, I think to be honest he saw it as banter. He is 14 and is very laid back over Covid (like i imagine most 14 year olds). He also did not tell me in order to "make an allegation".

My worry was mine alone

What the actual fuck?
Really? She put what sounds like a reassuring hand on his shoulder or whatever and you think it’s a covid risk?
Christ almighty ..

Kids are more likely to spread Covid that staff, in honesty, and staff are not required to SD a minimum distance from pupils.

I wouldn't think twice about rubbing the arm of an upset pupil. No way would the school class this as inappropriate.

Maybe you could explain to your son how people actually catch Covid, because it's highly unlikely by touch alone.

@PoorMansPaulaRadcliffe

WTF is an incarceration of his behaviour?

An interrogation, maybe?

@hellolovely7 - I agree with previous posters - I wouldn’t be cross that his teacher was trying to comfort him - she sounds very caring.

You are being ridiculous!

I lost many things in this pandemic but I refuse to lose my humanity. If a child is distressed,in need of comfort or just needs a bloody hug(I'm in primary,they're random) then I will offer it. If that causes me to lose my job or have complaints stacked against me then I'm obviously in the wrong job.

Teachers are working in buildings with no social distancing possible, no PPE, with significantly worse behaviour from students whose mental health has been ruined by lockdown - but with exactly the same demands as before: educating and caring for children.

To be honest, it's business as usual in schools so I imagine it's easy to forget the pandemic in the moment. That teacher was showing a huge amount of compassion. You should be emailing her to thank her for comforting your little shit child.

@noideaatallreally

and this is one of the many reasons why I got out of teaching...... yes, go one report them. Cause them stress. I'm sure your poorly behaved son will learn a lot from this.....

This is why decent teachers are leaving you will have nobody left to teach your child soon.

I've been in ten schools since September. Every one of them was just normal pre-COVID rules. Nobody is social distancing. It's not possible.

How mean is your kid.They know exactly what they are doing when they say stuff like this. The teacher probably gave his shoulder a rub - a "It'll be OK, these things happen" gesture to a child who was upset.

This is career ruining stuff.

This is ridiculous. Teachers are not routinely 2m away from students. No distancing at all in primary and extremely limited in secondary due to class sizes and pupil numbers. How disappointing that in trying to comfort a pupil, the teacher is going to get into trouble. So petty. It makes me wonder why school staff bother.

The teacher should be hung, drawn and quartered.... or maybe just forget it

Also because people seem to be jumping to huge assumptions that my child is a little shit, he was in isolation for refusing to hand his phone over. I wasn't going to mention it because to be honest I didn't think it was relevant and I knew we would get into a pointless debate, but people seem to be assuming he is this awful child who is horrible and always in the behaviour centre etc. And I THINK he had a strop over the fucking phone, which is clearly ridiculous so I didn't feel she needed to hug him, and especially not during covid.

And that's all I think I am going to say, but just wanted to clear that up

Poor teachers, can't do right for wrong.

If he was in the behaviour unit and he was still, as you say 'making a fuss' (btw, I wonder what the 'fuss' looked like) she would have been far better to touch him with the heel of her shoe up his arse.

Two positives from this:

1. It might put manners on him, thus doing a service for future life

2. Then you really would have something to complain about and would be able to run up to the school clutching him to your breast and demanding an apology.

Oh actually no one more thing, I wasn't planning to ruin anyone's career - literally just say, heads up, be careful with covid touching people

She didn't hug him though did she?
Refusing to hand over a phone is incredibly disruptive. I wonder how many warnings he had before he was isolated.

Definitely inappropriate and creepy as fuck

You are extremely dismissive of your son's behaviour. The teacher has better things to do than "comfort" your son because he's having a strop and "banter" with him ffs.

I imagine the poor teacher is more likely to get covid from your brat of a child than the other way round so I wouldn't worry OP

What a load of bollocks and backtracking, just because you didn't get the frenzied responses you were hoping for. I am vulnerable/high risk from Covid, I'd still not want someone reprimanded because they comforted my child at school.

This is a hard one but actually any unwanted touch is inappropriate. The teacher made a wrong call. Do we not teach our children that people do not have the right to touch them without consent. Her touch was inappropriate and it caused him distress. He told her that and why.

Christ with this and the mother not picking her Dd up from uni I can only conclude the world has gone bonkers!!!

Tell your kid to do as he’s told first time in future then this situation will be a non-issue. If he’s told to hand over his phone or turn it off then that’s what he does.

@hellolovely7

Oh actually no one more thing, I wasn't planning to ruin anyone's career - literally just say, heads up, be careful with covid touching people

Sure. That’s why you said “report her to the school”. Not a nice email raising a concern. 😇 the absolute audacity of you to even CONSIDER reporting this is ridiculous. You know full well your child was not put in any meaningful increased Covid risk any more than he is when he’s in a classroom full of his classmates.