Because I asked my partner to take my son out of the house this morning

[Giraffle]

I’m really frustrated with my partner today. His days at work changed this week. He normally has Wednesdays and sundays off and I have Wednesday Saturday and Sunday off. This week his day off changed to Thursday instead of Wednesday so we didn’t ask grandparents to look after our son during work hours as my partner was home to look after him.

At the moment, I work from home in our kitchen and my partner is allowed to go to work.

Our son is 15 months old, and loves walking, outdoors, animals etc

Anyway so the whole week I suggested this morning they could go and do something as it’s not an opportunity he’d normally have just him and our son. I suggested a walk, the park, aquarium and lots of other things to get them out of the house so I could get some work done. I explained to him I’d find it really distracting with both of them home trying to work and get things done with my son playing, shouting, tantrums, etc all the usual things.

Come to this morning and I asked my partner again to take our son out, he moaned it was raining and stayed home (they could have gone to the aquarium.) So I started work, thinking he would at least stop him from doing the really distracting things like banging toys onto our kitchen door windows, but he couldn’t even do that. He was too distracted by his phone. I then suggested again maybe to take him to the park or go on a puddle walk (it haha stopped raining). He said why should he have to go out on his day off when he just a wants to relax... this made me extremely frustrated. I told him he was being selfish. It’s one day I needed him to get out of the house just for the morning so I could get some work done as in the afternoon our son naps so it’s easy to do work then. I work 9:30 to 4:30 and I just though he could managed to get out the house from 9:30 to 12 but apparently I’m selfish for wanting quiet when I work. Yet on my days off, I always take our son out to get some fresh air.

He still has a day off on Sunday aswell so it wasn’t his only day off this week.

Am I being unreasonable for wanting quiet when I work? Or for asking him to get out the house and have some fun for 3 hours?

Feeling really frustrated right now.

[S111n20]

LAZY him of course not you.

[Giraffle]

@CuriousaboutSamphire

This is exactly it! This is a one time thing because HIS work changed his day off this week. Meaning he had to swap. I just felt as it was only once it wasn’t unreasonable for me to ask for him to pop out and have fun for not even three hours!

Thankfully he’s realised now after me saying to him imagine me and our son being in his place of work whilst he’s trying to sell cars, it’s really difficult to work with distractions! He felt really bad and has gone out for this afternoon when my son woke up. I’m on a break for 30 mins now for my lunch but at lease he realised ☺️ He’s normally absolutely brilliant but I don’t think he quite understood the difficulty and frustration of trying to work with all the noise that comes with a very active toddler 😂

[Cadent]

This is like the OP who posted about her husband taking up the dining room with 2 monitors and blocking the thoroughfare between living room and garden so toddler couldn’t run around.

Except it sounds like you don’t have space for 2 monitors upstairs and given you give him peace and quiet when he’s WFH, he needs to reciprocate and give you peace and quiet for a few hours!!

[Giraffle]

@Cadent says we don’t have the space anywhere else but if he was made to WFH I would get out of his hair and get out the house. I think if it was long term and every week it would be reasonable for him to want to be in the house, but as it’s a one off as we normally have the same days off, I think it was unreasonable for him not to pop out. Thankfully it’s resolved now ☺️

[BloggersBlog]

It is a shame you had to point out the ruddy obvious to him, even having to give him an illustration to get the point across

But anyway, as long as you are happy and it is resolved that is good

[Annasgirl]

@GabsAlot

ah a rest day bless him

some men i dont know.....

[BrowncoatWaffles]

Are you on lots of calls for work? If not, take your laptop and your notes and head out to a cafe or somewhere where you can sit quietly alone at a socially distanced cafe.

[Scottishmum1984]

He sounds selfish and lazy to me!

[Biancadelrioisback]

OP has already explained that she cant just pick up her two monitors, keyboard etc and go to a cafe or upstairs, or anywhere in fact!
I have a similar set up as does DH. His is made even worse by having the world's oldest computer that needs to be plugged into the router which can only be downstairs.

I'm pleased you've sorted it out OP. You're right, lockdown stress!

[Bringmewineandcake]

Imagine it from the OP...

"It's my day off tomorrow, the weather is crap and I just want a day to myself. Would I be unreasonable to still send my son to his grandparents for the day?" There would be a resounding response of no not unreasonable at all, everyone needs a break sometimes!

Let's not be hypocritical.