AIBU to not offer DH my appointment?

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About 6 weeks ago I had a doctors appointment where I discussed the flu jab and asked advice on availability and if the doctor also thought there would be supply issues. She said yes and told me to book an appointment to have it done so they would have me on their list (as they wouldn't be doing an open door policy this year). My appointment is next week.

DH has been saying for weeks he will get one, called his doctor today, they haven't received theirs yet, call back at the end of the week. Read in paper today that there is indeed a supply problem and they are asking people not to get it if they can avoid it. He doesn't think they will give him one.

DH works, I'm a SAHM. We have no one who can help out if I get ill, i.e. I just have to get on with it. It's bad enough with a 24 hour bug, there's no way I could manage if I really had the flu. Especially if the DC get it too. He hasn't outright said it, but I think he's a bit annoyed I haven't said he can take my appointment (assuming my doctor gets a delivery). I keep switching between "don't be crazy, you'd never manage to look after the Dc" to "don't be selfish, you don't want him ill" to "but neither do I want to be ill" to "he earns the money" to "well, he would get sick pay and I've no one to help with the DC"!

AIBU to not even suggest I ask if he can have my appointment?

YANBU don't give it to him. He should have sorted it out ages ago if he cared that much.

Keep your appointment.

Sounds like he’s registered at another surgery. Would your doctors even allow that as they don’t know who he is?

You've said yourself that you'd be stuffed if you got the flu.

Plus there's no way your GP will just switch your appointment to him when they've likely got a waiting list.

Do you have different doctors’ surgeries?

It really doesnt work like this.
You cant swap appointments

Your DH needs to organise himself better, regardless I dont think the doctor will let you just swap.

Don’t think your practice will give it to your husband if he is registered elsewhere. If you give it up, they will give the appointment to another patient on their books.

YANBU. Flu is a bastard. You cannot look after children when you have it.

I wouldn’t even think of giving mine to DH.

Because there’s no way a GP surgery will give one of their limited vaccines to a bloke who isn’t their patient when they have a waiting list of their own patients...

Why would you even be contemplating this?

yanbu but we all know about man flu, dressing gowns of doom and shuffling slippers. you could be dead on your feet but you can bet he'll have it 10x worse than you.
keep your appointment, you need it for the dc care.

GP appointments really don't work like that.

It doesn't even work like that. Ffs.

He hasn't asked for your appointment! But that aside, you're not his mother - he can look after his own health.

I'd give it to him because if he's the one going out then he's the one that will catch it and give it to you. By immunising him, you're immunising the rest of the family to a greater extent.

How do you know your H is even thinking this? It's a fairly big assumption to make. There's no way it will be allowed anyway so why would even even think it's an option?

You are a SAHM - why don't you value yourself? Serious question.

He can just walk into a pharmacy and get it done. I had mines at Asda recently.

Don't most chemists offer a flu jab? A lot of places like my local Superdrug chemist offer walk-ins and generally do not have supply issues. I am classed priority with serious respiratory issues, so always get invited for a jab but have it at my chemist.

You won't be able to to swap appointments. Use it yourself.

Sounds like you are registered at different surgery’s? Meaning he couldn’t have the injection at your surgery anyway.

Why can't he just go to boots/Superdrug/Asda/tesco/any local chemist and pay £8 for one?

If you had bad flu and your husband would just leave you to get on with it instead of taking emergency leave for dependents or holiday then I say fuck him and keep it for yourself. If you know he would drop everything and do all he could within the confines of keeping his job etc to help you then maybe fair enough to swap as it's easier for him to help you out at home than it is for you to help him out with his work!

Absolutely do not give up your slot.

1. he could have organised his own at any time if he could be bothered
2. you are right that, in the event of flu he would be sent home for bed rest. You would be expected to carry on same as normal because i’m betting with this attitude he wouldn’t be taking parental leave to care for the kids whilst you were ill?
3. does he have habitually expect you to give up your stuff to give him an easy ride when he’s been too lazy to do it properly himself?
4. even without the kids/caring responsibility you are equally a human being who is entitled to not get sick if you have taken steps to mitigate it. You are not worth less than him. Or anyone. Earning money does not make him a higher tier of person.

God this sort of bollocks annoys me.