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Mum1957 · 19/10/2020 21:33

I’m living at home with my 2 grown up children & we all have COVID-19!
My ex husband brought food over for the kids & they took it. I’m a high risk person yet neither him nor my kids thought it disgraceful. If it had been me I would have told him to keep his food as we’re all ill. When I told my daughter I was upset she said ‘ another drama- he’s my dad ?

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Hilda40 · 19/10/2020 21:37

But you've already got covid.

AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit · 19/10/2020 21:38

I think it was really nice of him

chickenyhead · 19/10/2020 21:38

I must be missing something. Seems kind to me.

Assuming that he didn't come in and catch it of course.

SheSaidHummingbird · 19/10/2020 21:39

What's the issue?

GnomeOrMistAndIceGuy · 19/10/2020 21:39

What on earth is wrong with you?

CovidClara · 19/10/2020 21:40

I am really confused

Wasn't bringing food a lovely thing to do?
Track and trace ask if you have family who can bring food.

PlaiceonEarth · 19/10/2020 21:40

You'd rather your kids didn't have something that you also can't have?

Nanny0gg · 19/10/2020 21:40

Wasn't it kind of him?

What's the problem?

Ragwort · 19/10/2020 21:40

Are you saying he didn't bring anything for you? Confused

dontputitinyourmouth · 19/10/2020 21:40

Do you mean he didn’t bring any for you and your children ate without thinking of you? If that’s the case then yes it’s pretty shit that they didn’t share with you

negomi90 · 19/10/2020 21:41

Your kids dad fed them. You already have Covid so it wasn't an infection risk to you. I really don't see what they did wrong.
I'm with your dd on this.

MaltedMilk88 · 19/10/2020 21:41

Just from what you've posted I think you might be being a little over sensitive here?
If you've already all got Covid then bringing food over is surely not going to worsen that, actually quite a nice thing to do to save you cooking

bg21 · 19/10/2020 21:42

wtaf????

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/10/2020 21:44

Hope you’re all better soon.

Are you angry he brought anything, that it was only for them, that it was for all of you but they didn’t share it?

Do you have other food in?

Can you explain a bit more what’s upsetting you?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 19/10/2020 21:45

I don't understand the problem here.

SonEtLumiere · 19/10/2020 21:47

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IMNOTSHOUTING · 19/10/2020 21:47

Surely the issue is that he brought round food for 2 out of the 3 members of the household. It would have been nice for him to bring something for OP too since he was coming anyway and presumably he knows they're all ill.

Gemma2019 · 19/10/2020 21:48

Yeah that's nasty of him to bring food for the other adults but not you, and the others should have shared with you as they took it. One of the reasons he is your ex! I hope you get better soon.

Sparklesocks · 19/10/2020 21:50

You’ve already got the virus so surely there’s not an issue? It might be different if a Covid infection person rocked up with food they’d made for someone without the virus...? What risk are you worried about?

Onxob · 19/10/2020 21:50

Either I'm not getting this or you're away with the fairies OP! What's wrong with him bringing food??

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/10/2020 21:53

OP doesn’t say why they split up so it’s a bit rich, though typical, to assume he’s an evil bastard.

Gazelda · 19/10/2020 21:53

Do you mean that you're upset he didn't bring food for you too. And that your DC didn't refuse the food out of solidarity with you?
If so, I'm afraid YABU. He was thoughtful to his DC.

waitforitwaitforit · 19/10/2020 21:55

If there are three adults in the house, all sick, and food was brought to only 2/3 residents, then yes, that is absolutely shit.

80sballetgirl · 19/10/2020 21:58

My husband & I have just had Covid (that was fun) & my neighbour brought us essentials, sister dropped milk off & we had an food delivery - all with social distancing / precautions.
We were so thankful for all the offers of help from friends & neighbours which enabled us to get better & get through isolation with no dramas.
You are being unreasonable & it may be more about your kids dad being your ex?

LavaCake · 19/10/2020 21:59

I’m assuming the issue is that he brought food for the kids but not for you, which is especially shit because you’re high risk and so are presumably feeling particularly anxious and vulnerable.

YANBU - that’s terrible on his part, it really wouldn’t have taken much for him to get something for you too. I wouldn’t be mad at your kids though - it’s not their fault.