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Ishihtzuknot · 19/10/2020 18:42

I am looking into exchanging my house for another, due to bad neighbours.
I know I will struggle to find a family willing to swap if I am honest about why I am moving, but if I don’t hide it I will never be able to leave. This does make me feel guilty, and there may be repercussions as they’ll know where I moved to, but I’m desperate to leave asap.
For background the neighbours make noise 24/7, they have a barky dog, loud tv with bass, shouting, loud music also with bass, loud voices plus very thin walls (after dividing a large Victorian house) make for an awful life and no sleep. The situation has gone from bad to worse and they are aware I’m unhappy with their noise, so rather than being quieter they have ramped it up on purpose. I am sick and tired of not being comfortable in my home.
A new family accepting the property would very quickly realise why I left. Is there anything I can do about this ensuring I can leave but the new family get help? Should it be my problem?
It’s making me unwell now so I’d appreciate some realistic responses.

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CountreeGurl · 19/10/2020 22:49

Keep complaining, don't give up. I once had a noisy, violent, abusive neighbour. It took a year but he was taken to court and evicted.

EmbarrassedUser · 19/10/2020 22:52

@Ishihtzuknot What a shitty thing to do!! How can you subject someone else to that? You need to report them to environmental health if they’re that bad. Perhaps they’ll be evicted. Not cool OP.

Ishihtzuknot · 19/10/2020 23:47

I can understand those who are saying it’s wrong, I would hate to be in the position of moving to a new home and finding neighbours from hell next door. However, I’m not responsible for their actions and the karma should go to them for causing this, not me for wanting to be free and happy. I’m not sure why I should continue to be punished by staying put. I’m not able to move via another method unfortunately. Of course I don’t want anyone to suffer the same way I currently am, I’m not a bad person just a drained one, but there comes a point where enough is enough and even if the council did help I will still face intimidation from the neighbour and their friends. There is always the risk of bad neighbours whether you buy a home or exchange one, I wouldn’t blame the tenant/owner just the person making the nuisance. I will take all points on board and speak to the housing officers again this week.

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myshoelaces · 20/10/2020 03:43

You should definitely leave. Particularly as they are targeting you. If it happens to the next person then the council may be forced to take it more seriously.

lunalulu · 20/10/2020 07:24

Having read your last post, I think your only option is to go. You're now a target. And they are noisy on purpose. So you're right, they may well be different with a new neighbour.

You have to get out of this. And if the next occupier has the same problem, they will either stop the noise or leave. And the council will get the message, and ultimately the noisy ones will be dealt with.

tulippa · 20/10/2020 08:15

I wonder if all the people telling the OP to put up with it have ever lived next to horrible neighbours?

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