My wonderful, kind, generous bf is an extremely hardworking professional single mum, but despite a a group of us helping her out (dog walking, cleaning, emotional support) left to her own devices her home quickly becomes a tip with dog faeces everywhere etc , I do believe she is developing a hoarding habit too.
She has also got a crush on a married man and he is meeting up with her regularly but says he won't leave his wife as would be too guilty?!
She is going through a disciplinary at work and I believe this man is an escape from her day to day stresses.
I honestly am so worried about her and her home, her dc are teenagers at boarding school so only come home in the holidays but they do nothing to help around the house and as their dad was extremely abusive, they don't have a relationship with him.
No sooner is the house cleaned (she is very grateful for this help btw) it is back to square 1 within 24 hours and it is got to the point where no one wants to bother anymore, she used to have cleaners but the sheer mess made them all leave after a short while hence us stepping in to help her.
She is on anti depressants and gets help regularly for her mental health, as do her dc.
Wise mumsnetters what can I do? The others are wanting to wash their hands of it and are withdrawing from the friendship.
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