I don’t want a charity shop BLANKET!!

[ScaryBizkit]

I have a blanket in my couch. I use it a lot. My dogs have wrecked it over time (hair, slobber, it smells etc) so I told my mum I was replacing it. She said “I’ll get you one from charity shop”. I said “no it’s ok, I’ll just get the same blanket again from asda as I like it”. She said “that’s a waste of money as the dogs will wreck it” I said “it’s ok, it’s only £20” she said “that’s a lot more expensive than what I’d pay in charity shop” I said “it’s ok, I don’t mind” she said “but I might as well get you one from charity shop” !!!!! I snapped “I WANT IT TO MATCH!!!”

I don’t want mismatching shit all over my house. I tried being nice!!! She rang me this morning saying she was going to charity shop in morning so would look out for me a blanket!! Why won’t she accept what I’ve said?

That would infuriate me too. It's the fact that you have said no and she is still going on about it - so annoying!!

Also wondering why you can't just wash it? I have the same for my dog and buy blankets that that be bunged in the washing machine/dryer every couple of days.

@Whatsonmymindgrapes

Why are you shouting?

I'M NOT BLOODY SHOUTING!

‘ First world problem’ at its best.

I wouldn’t want a second hand blanket for a pet. What if other pets in the neighbourhood found out about it and shunned them?
🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank you for this.

It doesn’t matter why OP doesn’t want the charity shop blanket - the point is she’s told her mother she doesn’t want one, and her mother won’t accept it. Her mother is being rude!

OP, I have a similar issue with my mum. We’ve just had an extension done and any time I mention something I’m going to buy in terms of furniture she tells me she’ll just give me the equivalent from my grandparent’s house which is being cleared for sale. It doesn’t matter how many times I say that the furniture she’s offering isn’t the right size / shape / style, she is convinced it has to be a better option than me buying something.

It comes from a kind and supportive place (them wanting to save us money and do us a favour) but when they insist on it despite clear protestations to the contrary it’s very wearying!

Why aren't you washing your blankets regularly? When we had dogs, blankets were switched out every couple of days and washed. We had no issues with them smelling or being covered in hair and slobber.

All these comments and few addressing the question you asked. I don’t know why she won’t accept what you’ve said. It doesn’t matter. Have the blanket you want in your home no matter what she does.

I love a thread where almost everyone misses the point.

You’ve repeatedly said you don’t want something, the other person (in this case your mother) repeatedly ignores you. She then makes a point of phoning you to tell you she’s going to ignore you and do what she wants regardless of what you have very clearly said.

What she’s telling you is that she knows better than you.

It’s infantilising and infuriating.

YANBU.

@THisbackwithavengeance

Just accept the bloody blanket with a smile and either use it, put it away in a cupboard for possible future use or redonate it. I don't think you can have too many blankets personally, they always come in useful.

She might find you a lovely, good quality blanket in a perfect colour - you never know!

After putting into the freezer to kill off the clothes moth larvae that are likely to be in it if it's a natural material.

We have lots of things through charity shops. Moths are a big problem - and furniture is something I never buy unless it can stay out in the garden for a good week after being treated with bug sprays - clothes moths are bad enough, I wouldn't want to have to deal with bed bugs or (shudder) cockroaches.

I'd definitely refuse a second hand blanket - they aren't laundered, they can't be hot washed, there's no space in the freezer. But I'd get something I could afford and ignore somebody else telling me they will make a decision for me instead.

It depends if it is because you want it to match or because you don't want one from a charity shop, which I feel deep down is the real reason. Your mum might well be able to find you the exact same one that you want from ASDA in a charity shop, you never know.

Or the OP could just find it in Asda, as she has already told her mother she will do, more than once. She doesn’t want a second-hand one - end of discussion.

As for all the people saying ‘Why not just wash it?’, why assume the OP has never washed it? Washing machines don’t magically restore items to ‘as new’ condition. A shabby blanket that’s been through the wash is just a clean shabby blanket.

OP - I’m with you all the way on this kind of ‘helpful advice’. My mother decided the last time I moved house (ten years ago now) that my dining table was too big for the new place. I said that while it was a bit big, it was in great condition and it would be an unnecessary expense. This did not stop her telling me about the one she’d seen in Next that would be really nice, how it was extendable and a great space saver, and even saving the catalogue to show me next time I went home. Years later when I replaced the sofa and my bed, both of which were falling apart, it was ‘Are you sure you need to spend all that money? I’d have thought the table would need replacing first’. ARRGGHH!!!

Wtf is everyone on this thread talking about? Why all the shaming op for not wanting something from a charity shop and asking why she doesn't wash the blanket. Some of you are so fucking weird.

Buy what you want op and tell your mum not to ask again.

Couldn’t get worked up about this. Accept blanket, say thank you, use it as a dog blanket or in the car or whatever. Buy the one you like from Asda.

i would be surprised if she could even find a blanket in a charity shop nowadays, i work in a charity shop and the only blankets we have put out in the shop in ages have been witney ones in original bags, any that come in second hand go in the rag bags as we dont know where they have been and as pps have said not washable at hot wash like duvet covers

I'm kind of having a similar problem with my mum. I've been ill & am having to live at my mum's until I'm better, only brought a few clothes as I didn't intend staying more than a couple of days. I had to buy some new stuff over the summer as I had only got winter jumpers thick bottoms with me, I ordered a load of tshirts, some shorts & thinner items, I got "you don't need to buy anything, you can borrow some of mine" over & over again. My mum is 82, I am 54, I may feel like a pensioner at times but I don't want to dress like one, I can afford to buy new clothes whenever I need to, please stop questioning everything I do.

To the pps saying that can't you just wash it? How is it ruined by dogs? ...things don't last forever. Things do get tatty! Even if the OP has been washing the blanket regularly, fur often sticks and it's probably just not very nice anymore.

When your DM likely presents you with the charity shop blanket, I would say 'thanks but you keep it. I told you I wanted to get one from Asda'. If you relent and accept the blanket, she'll keep not listening to you.

wash it at 90 degrees and then put it in the bin, preferably with washing machine cleaned in the mix. you don’t want bed bugs etc in the house!
i hate it if people press unwanted stuff on you!

I’d probably accept the blanket for a quiet life but I get where you’re coming from. With my mum, it’s coats. She got obsessed with me getting a new coat, kept pointing out ones that weren’t my style, calling me into the room when coats were on qvc. I didn’t need a coat! I’d never said I wanted one! It went on for about two years, she’s over it now luckily.

Just refuse it. It's not a joint decision, it's your house.

We've got a dog blanket for the back of the car as our dog doesn't like travelling and tends to slobber a lot in there. It just gets washed occasionally.

I’d love to know just how smelly, slobbery and disgusting the existing blanket is before passing judgement. There are actually people who don’t wash dog blankets regularly and who are oblivious to the smell.
Perhaps your mum is trying to subtly address the smell without offending you and can only afford a charity shop blanket ( which btw can be amazing quality/value)

I’ve found that if you give them an idea of something to buy for you they go and get it in the charity shop and they are all happy to have helped their daughter, and you get what you want!

So I’d suggest the following:

‘I’ve already ordered and paid for the blanket from Asda online mum so I don’t need another thanks. I’ll leave the charity shop blankets for those who really need them and can’t afford to buy elsewhere, winters coming.
However I am looking for a birthday card for someone, would you mind picking me up one when you’re in Barnardos (or whatever). Something flowery would be nice” (or something for a small boy or whatever age group you are asking for). You could go online prior and research to make sure Barnardos (Or whatever shop it is) has greetings cards first!

After that you could ask for a diary or calendar or wrapping paper or something next week or month if she is still wanting to ‘help’....

Problem solved. Or as a pp said, vegetables are good if she’s desperate to buy you stuff in others shops!

Job done. Very little money spent. You can use the birthday card as they are brand new and clean and no having to wash like a blanket.

@Dominicgoings

I’d love to know just how smelly, slobbery and disgusting the existing blanket is before passing judgement. There are actually people who don’t wash dog blankets regularly and who are oblivious to the smell. Perhaps your mum is trying to subtly address the smell without offending you and can only afford a charity shop blanket ( which btw can be amazing quality/value)

Did you read the OP?! OP decided to replace it herself! All on her own without any input from her mother at all until she mentioned replacing it and then her mum piped up about charity shops after that.

When she brings it to you just tell her no thank you and give it back

Just wash your slimy damn blanket! 😂