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Original poster

To ask if you see your neighbours having too many people over at christmas will you report them?

429 replies

ShesMadeATwatOfMePam · 17/10/2020 18:55

Just that really. Will you actually report your neighbours if you see they have over 6 people at christmas, if the rule of 6 is still in place?

Yabu: yes i will report them
Yanbu: i wouldn't report

From my point of view, i wouldn't report.

OP posts:
ForthPlace · 17/10/2020 22:27

Aggressive response for something that doesn't affect you?
*No, I wouldn't report but I will be very sad that I'm not seeing my family or my DH's family because I want them to be safe and COVID to be under control as quickly as possible and yet other people are not prepared to make the same sacrifices.

It's that kind of holier than thou attitude that's really pissing me off*

So, Op I get the backlash because I dared to suggest anything different to you to ease your guilt in not following guidance.

You have no idea about my family either, you may have family members with emotional concerns...I have family members with severe medical problems. We will try and manage the isolation so that eventually we can see them again. Christmas lunch with my dad would be great...but not if he catches COVID from me (as a key worker) and dies. I would be devastated to lose him and I'd never forgive myself for being the cause.

longwayoff · 17/10/2020 22:28

Oh definitely, and, in the spirit of Christmas I'll be trying to get hold of King Herod to come and sort them out. Grrr. No. I won't be reporting them for anything, I won't be looking to see what they're doing, if I see them I'll wish them a happy Christmas and a better New year than the one we've just had.

Bid876 · 17/10/2020 22:28

No, for some it might be the only time they see some family members.

A different story if there are constant parties with people coming and going though.

JocastaElastic · 17/10/2020 22:30

Definitely, absolutely not.

StatisticallyChallenged · 17/10/2020 22:31

No chance. We're in a no visiting at all area and no way will I be reporting neighbours for having granny round on Christmas day.

Suzi888 · 17/10/2020 22:32

No. Don’t be so nosy lol

GoodbyePorpoiseSpit · 17/10/2020 22:33

Under no circumstances would I report. Christmas rave, Christmas orgy, Christmas party - would not report any of them.

Honeypickle · 17/10/2020 22:34

Christmas Day will be 4 adults and 3 children (all under 9). So bollock off Boris.

MB90 · 17/10/2020 22:34

No, I wouldn’t

CakeRequired · 17/10/2020 22:35

Not sure I'd even notice. Don't care anymore, the restrictions aren't working and aren't going to work. I'm avoiding all the people as usual, like I've been doing all year. And especially children, they are the ones spreading it.

Arthersleep · 17/10/2020 22:36

Only if they took the piss and invited the entire extended family around and had a big party. But if there was 8-10ish of them, I wouldn't.

Hotcuppatea · 17/10/2020 22:37

Of course not.

user1471462428 · 17/10/2020 22:38

Fuck that I’ll be drinking my own body weight in Baileys on Christmas Day, don’t plan on being conscious enough to give a shit. I’m really strict about lockdown but think it’s about personal responsibility now. The politicians won’t keep us safe so we need to manage it ourselves.

Crunchymum · 17/10/2020 22:42

Well as we are a tier 2 area, and I dont plan to make anyone sit in the garden on Xmas day, we're utterly fucked.

The rule of 6 only applies outside for us Sad

2Rebecca · 17/10/2020 22:46

How many people my neighbour has over doesn't affect me. I like my neighbours. I am not paid to be a covid policewoman, nor would I want to be.

Schnoopy · 17/10/2020 22:48

You would hope that most people would be too busy enjoying their own Christmas to be curtain twitching and worrying about what their neighbours were up to. I couldn't care less what my neighbours do on Christmas Day and I'll be celebrating in my normal fashion with my family of 9-11 and then back to social distancing and following the rules again the following day!

Longdistance · 17/10/2020 22:49

We’re going to be seven, ooo arrr! My neighbours have this week already had more than six at theirs.
My dm who is nearly 80 would be on her own, so would my fil who has prostate cancer. As far as I’m concerned it’s ‘no one is left behind’ on Christmas Day.

Kitmerow · 17/10/2020 22:49

Great to see 95% of the voters aren’t morons. To the other 5% - you really need to get a life.

Samcro · 17/10/2020 22:51

I would not report anyone.
But when it all goes worse in the ny, i hope to fuck they don't winge when people end up dying.

Icanflyhigh · 17/10/2020 22:51

Nope, its depressing enough that as a family of 5 we already have to do it in shifts to see my parents or DPs parents, Christmas day, I do not care, its also my birthday and I will be seeing both parents with DP and the DCs, and I don't care who knows.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 17/10/2020 22:52

I'm very relieved by the poll.

BestOption · 17/10/2020 22:52

@Twillow

This thread is terrifying. So many people really think the rules aren't important yet the rates are rising like crazy??
@Twillow. I'm very sorry to hear you've lost someone to covid 🌷

I said I wouldn't report neighbours for having more than 6 & I wouldn't.

However, I won't be doing it - in fact I'm choosing to spend the day alone as I don't fancy being in an enclosed space with others (and I could spend it how I usually do with friends, & including their kids & BIL we'd still only be 6). But I can understand others not feeling the same and having 7/8 so they're not leaving out one (adult) child or one grandparent etc. Larger number than that & I think people should split into smaller groups.

Original poster
ShesMadeATwatOfMePam · 17/10/2020 22:53

So, Op I get the backlash because I dared to suggest anything different to you to ease your guilt in not following guidance.

I don't feel guilty at all.

OP posts:
Cherrysherbet · 17/10/2020 23:02

Only if i lived next door to Boris........

Schnoopy · 17/10/2020 23:04

@ForthPlace

Aggressive response for something that doesn't affect you? *No, I wouldn't report but I will be very sad that I'm not seeing my family or my DH's family because I want them to be safe and COVID to be under control as quickly as possible and yet other people are not prepared to make the same sacrifices.

It's that kind of holier than thou attitude that's really pissing me off*

So, Op I get the backlash because I dared to suggest anything different to you to ease your guilt in not following guidance.

You have no idea about my family either, you may have family members with emotional concerns...I have family members with severe medical problems. We will try and manage the isolation so that eventually we can see them again. Christmas lunch with my dad would be great...but not if he catches COVID from me (as a key worker) and dies. I would be devastated to lose him and I'd never forgive myself for being the cause.

I think it was the way you phrased it that sounded like you were single handedly making sacrifices whilst everyone else lives the highlife. The reality is everybody has made sacrifices this year, some have made small sacrifices, and others have made huge sacrifices, but everyone has sacrificed something and it's not surprising that people want to be with their nearest and dearest on Christmas Day.