AIBU.....DP related

[DaisyFamily]

I worked all through lockdown(teacher) my DP was furloughed then made redundant before finally getting a new job in July.
He was obviously been the "main" parent as he calls it for our 2dc till September (10&8).
Now the Dc are back in school my partner has so much time to himself (only works part time) where as I work 5 days a week so when I'm home the dc are there and my DP moans when I ask for some time to myself. He can't understand why sometimes id like just an hour to think about no one else but myself (like going for a drive just blasting music) so Mumsnet AIBU here?

Of course you should go out - the kids aren't toddlers and I'm guessing amuse themselves with stuff when they're at home?

I get you op - I love having the house to myself but H is so lazy and never goes out anywhere. So while I can go out, I almost never get uninterrupted time at home.

It is an abusive relationship and I am getting my ducks in a row it's just taking time unfortunately but this is one big area he can't see a problem with.

If you know you are in abusive relationship, why are you focussing on this one issue? Genuine question, although I know it sounds snarky!

I'm pleased you're getting things organised - presumably to leave him/get him to leave?

How long have you got til you can leave?

Controlling your time and whereabouts is just another abuse tactic. You won't be able to change it.