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Am I daft? Felt like I caught someone's eye on a Teams call....

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WishingOnACarrot · 16/10/2020 00:41

Earlier today there were around ten of us on a Teams call. Loads of small squares. I looked over at someone (neither of us talking) and they quickly looked away - like you do when you're been caught staring at someone...

Am I mad? Obviously people are in different square layouts on different computers. But, there was a definite linking of eyes for a second and then the other person quickly looked away a bit embarrassed. Or at least that's how it looked to me!

AIBU to think they were looking at me? Or am I just bonkers?! Has this happened to anyone else?

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Aquamarine1029 · 16/10/2020 00:44

You are over thinking this to a ridiculous degree.

SheilaWilcox · 16/10/2020 00:44

Yes, bonkers!

If they were looking directly at you then they wouldn't be looking directly into the camera.

Krazynights34 · 16/10/2020 00:47

Do you want them to have been looking at you in “that” way?

Casschops · 16/10/2020 00:50

They were looking their camera. Its impossible to catch someone's eye genuinely as you both have to be looking at the screen and camera atcthe same 9which is not possible.

Titsinknicks · 16/10/2020 00:51

Bonkers. Totally.

To 'link' eyes you'd both have to be staring directly into the camera at the same time. You would therefore never know you'd 'linked eyes' because you'd be looking into the camera rather than at their picture.

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SD1978 · 16/10/2020 01:01

You've double posted.

Nikori · 16/10/2020 01:56

I was at a Zoom training meeting with around 70 people, when I noticed someone I knew so I smiled and waved. Then, I realised how bonkers that was. Blush It was just coincidence, OP.

NeonGenesis · 16/10/2020 02:03

All the zoom meetings are getting to you.

Notimeforaname · 16/10/2020 02:24

This again 🤣

PeriPeriMenosauce · 16/10/2020 05:27

Huh? How does that work then?

If you were looking at the screen, not making direct eye contact with the camera, then how could/would the recipient think you'd looked at them specifically?

I'm gonna guess they had a cat / child / nakedness emergency that was almost captured on camera. Grin

yetanothernamitynamechange · 16/10/2020 06:21

You can’t catch eyes over zoom. I know because in the past I’ve found myself saying something addressed to some one in particular (eg il do x and then you do y whilst I look at person a). Person a, b and c then ask “which of us were you talking to?” Because of course I’d forgotten that people can’t see who you are looking at unlike a normal face to face meeting. It’s one of the things that make zoom meetings so rubbish.

Bluntness100 · 16/10/2020 06:25

I’m sorry op but you must know this is silly. Because you looked at their eyes doesn’t mean they were looking at yours, they could have been looking at anything, snd turned away for any reason, it is not one to one interaction on zoom like you’re imagining. Even if it was one to one, you still can’t tell where the person is looking on the screen.

Jelllytotss · 16/10/2020 06:56

You obviously like this person and want to be told they like you too. You need to delve deeper I'm Afraid. Is there anyway you can speak to them or email them in a friendly work way first?

You are being laughed at on here because it's impossible to know who they were looking at. But it sounds like you have got a instant crush.

As someone who is currently getting over one. Don't over invest in it. Keep busy. I focused all my time and energy onto one crush for weeks. I didn't even get his number and at worst he definitely found me attractive. It still didn't happen though.

It's painful so don't be like me. Either get to know the person or move on. Don't fool yourself like I did.

dottycharlotti · 16/10/2020 06:56

I don't think it's mad at all, did you get a sense of connection somewhere other than the digital plain?

itchyfinger · 16/10/2020 07:15

How can that be? You're not looking directly at people in teams. Also the order of people on screens differs on each person's device so they may not even be looking at you!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 16/10/2020 07:17

Bonkers

Florencex · 16/10/2020 07:18

I have never been on a Teams call, but I get the drift of it. I cannot see how it would be possible to link eyes with someone over that set up.

And even in real life it is normal to occasionally catch somebody’s eye and it means nothing.

SunshineCake · 16/10/2020 07:26

Why does it matter?

Do you like them? Are you both single?

PP, stop being unkind. Some things really matter and/or bother others in a way it wouldn't you. Just as some less thoughtful people would laugh at stuff that really play on your minds.

MoonJelly · 16/10/2020 07:54

You don't know where you were on the other person's screen, and vice versa. If you were looking at him, he had no means of knowing it, because on his screen someone else was in the square in question.

Original poster
WishingOnACarrot · 16/10/2020 08:02

Gosh, weirdly there are two threads. I don't know how I managed that... Too much wine was consumed last night. I'm normally far, far more sensible.

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WishingOnACarrot · 16/10/2020 08:04

dottycharlotti yes, there is normally a connection in the real world... I do feel silly this morning

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Tattoocrazymum · 16/10/2020 08:10

Strangest 'we linked eyes' thread yet
You can not possibly know whos looking at who on zoom, microsoft teams, google meet etc. Especially with that many people in a meeting.
Sounds like your wishing he was, fact is he was just looking at the screen.

ErickBroch · 16/10/2020 08:22

Bonkers Grin the layouts are different for everyone - he probably wasn't even looking at teams!

S111n20 · 16/10/2020 08:56

WishingOnACarrot

Did you post this when you was pissed by any chance ??? 😂😂😂

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