Am I daft? Felt like I caught someone's eye on a Teams call....

[WishingOnACarrot]

Earlier today there were around ten of us on a Teams call. Loads of small squares. I looked over at someone (neither of us talking) and they quickly looked away - like you do when you're been caught staring at someone...

Am I mad? Obviously people are in different square layouts on different computers. But, there was a definite linking of eyes for a second and then the other person quickly looked away a bit embarrassed. Or at least that's how it looked to me!

AIBU to think they were looking at me? Or am I just bonkers?! Has this happened to anyone else?

Aww I was hoping this would turn into a nice love story, but stupid reality has got in the way again. 😅

OP, have a Berocca. It's the miracle cure for hangovers! Have a lovely day. 😁

Not another one of these silly threads!

There were ten of you, all with cameras set up so you could see each other, but no, this person was definitely looking at you when they shouldn't have been!

Have we suddenly become a country where eye contact is contraversial or forbidden?! Ridiculous.

Glad to hear this is impossible and the guy I work with can’t tell I’m staring at him throughout team meetings

Does anyone else spend the whole Teams call looking at themselves, wondering can anyone else see that double chin? and trying to change angle to make it go away?
Possibly just me!

Hang on I think there may be something to what the OP is saying. I spend Zoom calls surreptitiously scoping out othrr people's home decor. When the person I am "spying" on turn their head suddenly or change their gaze, I feel caught out. As though they are "looking" directly at me.

The love interest may have been looking at OP (or OPs dirty laundry behind her) And when OP turned suddenly, LI may have felt caught out and been flustered. It can happen people. We do react instinctively if we think someone is engaging with us.

OP I think this has legs. Next Zooms call you should definitely stare down LI. Am sure he can feel your blistering lust-filled gaze

Hahaha
I know it's been said but it's impossible to catch someone's eye over teams. If you're looking at each other's image you aren't looking at the camera

I am laughing reading some of these responses. Thanks all. Hangover gone, though I am pretty tired.

Would you believe me if I said I was a professional, middle aged woman with children?!

In the cold light of day I feel pretty daft 🤣

Considering I posted this drunken, daft wondering of mine in AIBU I think I've escaped pretty lightly!

I think we're all getting Zoom fatigue so can relate
I was watching a little video of my DSIS the other day. DH came in and started waving and saying hello. I had to explain it wasn't a Zoom and he was trying to interact with a video

Why does it matter? You’re overthink. Do you have a crush on this person by chance and are clutching at straws?

Op. Do you fancy this guy, is that it? And were wondering if he fancied you too.?

Do I have a crush on him? Maybe, a teeny bit....but I'm married!

Ahhhh this is funny and cute. However given you're married probably just as well that the contact is limited to zoom till this madness passes.

@WishingOnACarrot

Do I have a crush on him? Maybe, a teeny bit....but I'm married!

Oops! 😂

Bonkers !

Yes completely bonkers. Do you like him?

Playing devil's advocate here, if he was gazing at me and I was looking away from him (at myself probably! 🤣) and then I looked at him. The fact my line of vision then changed on his screen may have made him think I had caught him gazing lovingly at me - so he averted his eyes quickly. I'm sober tonight by the way....

You can’t be serious op. You do know how video calls work right?😂

I suggest gently stopping focusing on finding hidden signals he fancies you and focus on something else...

You are coming across as having the common sense of a tween or are completely unhinged. Neither are great options tbh.

Recent posters — the OP originally posted while drunk and seems like a perfectly rational, mildly mortified person in subsequent ones.

@NualaSays

Recent posters — the OP originally posted while drunk and seems like a perfectly rational, mildly mortified person in subsequent ones.

The poster also repeated it when completely sober,,😂

Agree, the OP has also recently posted while sober (see approx 5 posts up). Still completely batshit. And sober.

My last post was tongue in cheek. Hence my reference to playing devil's advocate and him "gazing lovingly" at me (doubtful and, even if he was, I can't go down that path!)

Blimey. Op he doesn’t know what you were looking at.

I think the fact you position his loving gazes as “doubtful” and state you can’t go down that path, (not wouldn’t wish to) means you seriously hope he’s got the raging hots for you. As you do him.

Which he may do, none of us know, just one things for sure, you ain’t going to be able to tell that from a multiple person zoom meeting.

Honestly stop fantasising about him, either reach out to him and see if it’s mutual, or let it go, but this is just silly.

I do zoom calls often, I couldn’t tell whom anyone was looking at, from reading their emails secretly to gazing at the speaker, or any other person on the call. It is 100 percent impossible to tell.

Go for a walk and nod and smile at a frew folk irl.

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