Am I being unreasonable to feel so angry when d.p talks in stupid voice to dog?

[Solongsugar]

I've been with d.p 14 yrs. The sound of his voice has never bothered me. We have a new dog and this pathetic petting voice either makes me want to vom or punch him.It gets under my skin, so badly.This isn't just a cooey baby voice, it's a fucking shite high pitched pathetic childlike voice that goes through me every time. Added to, he's fucking repeating whatever he says to the fog at least five times. I want to say I find the talk very unattractive and could spit us . Is it me or am I justified in demanding he quit the shite talk?

You seem disproportionately angry about this...unless I'm missing a light-hearted angle?!

Ha you've all cheered me up! However I still feel ultra angry , genuine anger and yes there's worse things to feel angry about . After telling him last night and thinking he just got it because laughter followed, he came in doing the same shite talk "Aw has everyone been terrible to you and no one fed you , aw it's terrible, is that why you look sad,is it,aw, you tell them all,awwww repeated probably 3,4 times. Then similar, and that's repeated or , "did you see other dogs, did you fall out with them,are none of them talking to you,awwww, not fair is it? Not fair.

This person I lived with showed no sign of being such a fucking annoying twat before ownership.

I think he might be saying something similar about your style of ownership.

Are you weally, weally angwy? Poor OP. Poor OP. Do you need a huggle? Poor OP had a hard day.

Are you alright @MiddleClassProblem

It seems a ridiculous thing to be so angry about, sorry. Okay, it might be irritating; as I said, my DH gets fed up with my cats sometimes, but he knew I was a cat lover when we got together and he accepts it.

It depends whether in other ways you have a good relationship (as is the case for my DH and me).

@Solongsugar Fine. You?

@lovepickledlimes they sound amazing 😍 I wish we could all do a pets zoom call with our voices 😂 if I speak in an English accent one of mine has a lady of the manor voice or I do it like Duchess from aristocats.

@Solongsugar you sound really angry with him, is it just this? Maybe it’s because it’s just so out of normal for him. I can’t say anything though because if I were in your shoes I’d be joining in 🤭

Weird thread Katie Price OP

My late Ddog spoke like Alan Rickman as the sherrif of Nottingham. If we disturbed him while sleeping he'd lift his head and give a long suffering look and me or the ex would say "Do you mind? Some of us are trying to sleep here", before theatrically sighing and flopping back down. Of course we'd find this hilarious and would get glared at for laughing!

🤣🤣🤣

My cat always says mean stuff about dp she whispers it to me and i tell her off. Could you do that op im thinking 'yes daddy is an annoying twat when he talks to you in that voice, i have told him but he wont listen. No you must not bite him if he does it again, no taking a dump on his side of the bed wont help' it might help.

I actually love DHs silly voice to the dog. He prefers cats so I was worried they wouldn't bond.

He has a special voice, and saying that he says to her, that we all find hilarious.

LTB tbf

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation and @isthismylifenow

You would fit right in at Chez Sheldon 💕

My MIL used to talk to my DC in a childlike voice as though SHE was a baby herself. It was WEIRD ad creepy sounding as she was a 68 year old woman. She didnt stop till they hit their teens! YANBU though...if it annoys you, it annoys you. My DH and I do this with our dogs...but we both do it...it's only annoying when MIL does it!

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Op this is probably stuff of your nightmares

@isthismylifenow

I thought everyone spoke to their dogs that way.

I sing and dance with mine too.

Not in company of course 😂

Same! Also for the cat, and horse (she does Christmas carols! but we don't dance with her - four left feet and all that ...)

I feel for you op. Cat owners on Twitter pretending to be their cats and speaking for them with all the cutesy mispellings and sayings annoy me no end, and they are complete strangers I can ignore! Living with it would drive me crazy. But that said, I have to admit I am a crazy cat mum who loves my boy more than anything, sings love songs to him, and in spite of his numerous nicknames he always know when I'm talking too or about him just from the sappy love and adoration dripping from my voice. He's also constantly told he's the most precious, beautiful, perfect, best boy in the world simply for sitting, eating, stretching, sleeping, breathing, existing... Fortunately my family are almost as cat addled as I am and none of us find this behavior unreasonable, weird or off-putting.

You can always tell your DP that you find his doggy voice deeply unsexy and unless he changes his ways he will be sharing the dog bed and not yours. But be careful. You might find the opportunity the dog gives him to both give and receive unconditional, non-judgmental, love and affection that most men are still conditioned not to express is more appealing than your distaste.

Last night I was speaking like that to our hamster 🐹- who is a cute widdle boy - but then I don’t have a partner - mmm wonders why ......

Agree that you sound like you have the ick. This is a strong reaction if it's only about the way he speaks to the dog.

You might find the opportunity the dog gives him to both give and receive unconditional, non-judgmental, love and affection that most men are still conditioned not to express is more appealing than your distaste.

That's a fair point.

@grapewine

You might find the opportunity the dog gives him to both give and receive unconditional, non-judgmental, love and affection that most men are still conditioned not to express is more appealing than your distaste.

That's a fair point.

That’s a really lovely worded point. So many of our male friends happily show love and affection for their pets, I think if they know they’re ‘safe’ to do it then even better.

I think it makes a man more attractive if they love and care for animals 😃
My husband doesn’t judge me for how I act with the cats (although the french accents are reserved for when he’s out of the house!) but I think there’s waaay worse things that would put me off someone but maybe op has the ick 🤔

Could you try talking to him in the same voice for a bit? See if he likes hearing it himself?

I have voted YANBU because I have a sister who always (I think unwittingly) addresses animals in a strange high voice that sounds totally phony and it makes me cringe. I never do this - I just speak to animals the way I speak to humans and they all gravitate towards me (especially if my sister is in the same room using her weird high voice). She also has a strange put-on voice when she answers the 'phone even to her close friends. I can't bring myself to tell her as she'd be so hurt.