For losing my shit at my husband whose response to our carbon monoxide alarm going off was "It's probably a fault, just go back to sleep"?

[disneybee]

So we sleep right next to the kitchen (which has the boiler in it) and leave the doors open so our young kids can wander through to our room easily if they wake during the night. I've always been concerned about the safety of us and our kids sleeping on either side of the kitchen. When our carbon monoxide alarm woke us up tonight, I got up and anxiously started wondering what to do. My husband was so dismissive, saying its probably a fault, just go back to sleep. This isn't the first time his stupidity has made me frustrated about the safety of our kids. (Think falling asleep with the back door unlocked; not fitting car seats correctly etc). I have a problem with being over anxious and I'm not sure if that stems from feeling so responsible for the kids.

Anyway I lost my temper and shouted at my husband calling him stupid, ignoring a CO alarm and going back to sleep, what is the point of having an alarm, esp considering we've been lethargic and headachey recently. The alarm has stopped now, but I've opened the windows and called the Gas Safety line, who are sending someone round to check our house. My husband muttered "of course they have to send someone, once you phone them" and I am fuming at him. He's tried apologising to me and joked that he is scared of me but I am really angry at him for always leaving all the sense of being responsible for the safety of our kids up to me. AIBU for being horrible at him?

@Elai1978

Do these alarms only go off when the CO2 reaches a level at which it's going to kill you now or is it a "you need to get this looked at now" level?

They don’t measure carbon dioxide at all.

Unnecessarily snide no?

You know what people are asking.

OP, I don't think you were unreasonable here at all. But us all telling you that you weren't won't help the situation. How can you two work together to get past these things ?

Why was it up to him to sort?
You are an adult, you were worried, you sorted it.
No need to call him names.

We were told if co2 alarm goes off, leave the premises as you have no idea how much is actually being leaked into the air. Thankfully you are fine but in future get out, don’t just open windows.

Some of you are just SO OTT. That's not abuse. That's getting off lightly for being dismissive of something that could have killed them all

In my opinion, functional adults should be able to communicate in a civilised manner in almost all situations. People that resort to shouting and name calling either have anger management issues, or lack the ability to articulate what they really want to say.

You were right to get it checked out.

I sometimes thought I could faintly smell gas in the kitchen when I had the extractor fan on, but not always when I had the cooker turned on. My DH said it didn't exist. My MIL came over and smelled gas. My Dh said it didn't exist. My MIL and I rang a gas engineer. The pipe that brings gas into the house had split open inside the cavity wall, which was full of gas - the sort of leak that knocks down the house if it ignites. There were repairs, and a lot of stern words to DH.

Couldn't agree more, Spaniel. BTW, cocker, springer or other?

Unnecessarily snide no?

Seemed bang on to me. As irritants go, if 'could of' is 7/10, the repetition of 'CO2' on this thread is around a 92.

Carbon MONOxide = one oxygen (CO) = dangerous in an open environment
Carbon DIoxide = 2 oxygens (CO2) = not dangerous as such - even in tight enclosed spaces, it's not the CO2 that kills you, it's the fact that you've no oxygen left because you've converted it all to CO2 - it's the lack of oxygen that actually kills you.

There are gas detectors out there for CO2 detection, but usually only needed in an enclosed space environment.

My husband is being rather smug about the fact he was right all along

He might have been correct it was a faulty alarm, but he had absolutely no way of know this and you were right to call the gas board and the experts told you you did the right thing. He is a lazy, and dangerous, twat.

@MilerVino

Unnecessarily snide no?

Seemed bang on to me. As irritants go, if 'could of' is 7/10, the repetition of 'CO2' on this thread is around a 92.

You really need to get out more.

To Butterer
The gas emergency people only turn the gas off they don't measure the air or the emissions from relit gas appliances for carbon monoxide. Disneybee might want to know if she has been exposed to CO and if so, how many parts per million.

Thanks for the advice @Storyoftonight but I've just worked an 84-hour week. For the last 7 days I haven't been in my house long enough to bake a loaf of bread. Going out more seems a bit unnecessary really.