Is smoking a deal breaker for anyone else?

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AIBU not to date a nice guy just because he's a cigarette smoker?

Wouldnt touch him with a bargepole.

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I’d say it was a very common dealbreaker.

I wouldn’t date a smoker and would end a relationship with someone who decided to take it up. No matter how nice they were, I’m just not kissing a smoker.

It would 100% be a dealbreaker for me

I think it’s important to be honest with him about why you’re opting out though

It'd be a dealbreaker for me too. It stinks. It's unhealthy.

Would be for me too

Definitely a dealbreaker for me, no way would I ever date a smoker

If you have any sense whatsoever, smoking should always be a 100% dealbreaker.

Fags or weed and I'm gone.

Yep total deal breaker for me. It's disgusting.

My ex was a smoker and a weed smoker and I would never go there again. It's disgusting

Yep, gross

And smokers always smell. Always have stinky breath and their clothes smell smokey and musty.

Then people come on and say “I smoke and I don’t have bad breath”. Yes you do.

Non negotiable for me

YA absolutely NBU.

I'm an ex smoker. My DP doesn't smoke. He hates it. However, he has previously dated a smoker. So I guess it's not necessarily a deal breaker for him, but I know he would be incredibly disappointed if I started smoking again (I never will!)

When I was a smoker, most of the people I dated were smokers too.

Thankfully, I am older and wiser now and haven't smoked for years and I have no intention of ever smoking again.
Very hypocritical of me.. but I wouldn't date a smoker now.

Don't date him for whatever reason you want, what difference does it make what anyone else would do

It would definitely be a deal breaker for me - urgh!

Yup and I don't care how judgmental I sound. I've lost (at last count) 5 loved family and friends to diseases and conditions directly attributed to smoking.

I can't forgive the cigarette manufacturers for deliberately including substances in cigarettes that make them addictive.

It would create too much tension and anger in me to make a romantic relationship work. There are loads of people who don't smoke, it isn't as if it's "smoker or nobody".

Totally a deal breaker. I've never had a relationship with a smoker and never will.

YANBU, it would be a deal breaker for me too. I wouldn't date or have a relationship with a smoker.

Yeah it’s a no for me.

@PeachesTheFlamingo

I'm an ex smoker. My DP doesn't smoke. He hates it. However, he has previously dated a smoker. So I guess it's not necessarily a deal breaker for him, but I know he would be incredibly disappointed if I started smoking again (I never will!)

When I was a smoker, most of the people I dated were smokers too.

Thankfully, I am older and wiser now and haven't smoked for years and I have no intention of ever smoking again.
Very hypocritical of me.. but I wouldn't date a smoker now.

I don't think it's hypocritical at all. It makes absolute sense that you've taken that great step to stop smoking, which must have come about because you realised smoking wasn't a good lifestyle or financial choice to make (or whatever reason you had to give up).

YANBU. Male or female its fine to have smoking as a deal breaker. An expensive habit. Clothes smell bad, body smells bad, breath smells bad, yellowed teeth, ages you, constantly being left to go to smoking or area or having to go with them and breathe it in, debates on whether they can smoke inside in a shared home etc

Thanks but no thanks

YANBU, it's a deal breaker for me. I find men who smoke unattractive.

Definite no from me. I'm an ex smoker who loved it! I couldn't put up with the smell, waste of money and bad breath however lovely they were.

I gave up for years because of a guy I liked. When he met me I was a size 10. When I gave up smoking, I was a size 16. I did lose the weight after though!

I wouldn't either, if you wanted to live together you would have to put up with the constant smell and if you had kids their health would be damaged. So not worth it, unless it's just a casual fling you're after of course.