Is smoking a deal breaker for anyone else?

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AIBU not to date a nice guy just because he's a cigarette smoker?

I think with the absolute dross out there it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me no. Most people give up eventually and unless they are a very heavy smoker , if they were great in every other way

I don't smoke and hate it. I have a couple of friends who have the odd cigarette on a night out - never at home/during the day - that level wouldn't be a dealbreaker if it was a partner but I wouldn't be kissing them either!

Completely reasonable for this to be a deal-breaker and I say this as a disgusting, smelly smoker!

In my experience relationships between smokers and non-smokers don't tend to work out well as there always ends up being resentment in some form.

Smokers don't realised how disgusting they smell. Plus an expensive way to kill yourself, so yanbu

It would not bother me. I would be more bothered about a person who spends their entire time on phones, scrolliing, texting rubbish, and snooping on another persons phone.

Trust me, you can get a man to stop smoking full time..(they might still have a social ciggie, no biggie though) x

It’s one of my red lines
I won’t even be friends with a smoker, let alone kiss one

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I def wouldnt again. I married a smoker it was infuriating. Everywhere we went he'd constantly be looking for somewhere he could have a smoke, or we'd be walking down the street chatting away and We'd walk into a shop and I'd suddenly find I was talking to myself as he'd stopped outside for a fag!

This is true actually...my mum smokes and it really dominates her life. Men usually give up when kids arrive.

It would put me off considerably. Maybe if I was really in love, I'd try to put up with it.

No it’s revolting.

My eXH’s grandfather was a smoker and would light up as soon as he walked into MIL’s house. Then one day they were coming to visit us and I mentioned to eXH that he would have to make it clear that GF would have to smoke outside. He said that it would be hard to do that since he was used to smoking wherever, to which I replied “well, either you tell him, or I will....” someone must have had a word because he went out without being asked.

He died of an aortic aneurism, and when he was in hospital he used to ask eXH’s GM to remember to bring in his cigarettes so he could go outside and have a smoke. I’ve been in hospital where people come to visit me and say how the entrances are full of smokers,some even with drip stands, puffing away on their cigarette. .

Definitely. Only ever been out with one smoker around 38 years ago. Never again.

I dated a smoker briefly when I was 15, kissing him was gross, so never again. I also grew up with parents who smoked loads, I didn't realise how much I must have stank till I moved out and then went back to visit. Its a definite dealbreaker for me.

I wouldn't date a smoker but I do love the breath of a smoker when it is mixed with beer and aftershave. Ahh miss clubbing and snogging in the 90s

This made me laugh. In the 90s every single guy I dated was a smoker even though I wasn't. Wouldn't touch them now though.

I gave up smoking ayear ago and wouldn't date someone that smoked. I know that's double standards but it stinks.

It's a deal breaker for me too. X

If he’s nice enough and cares for you he’d quit.

Its a revolting habit.

Anything can be a dealbreaker. Smoking isn't one for me but plenty of other things that other people wouldn't bat an eyelid at would be.

I wouldn’t say it’s a deal breaker as in black or white but it would definitely be a major tick in the “cons” section!

If I liked someone enough I could probably put up with it.

Yanbu, it's up to you to set your own boundaries OP!
Are you looking for a long term thing? I think if I really fancied someone it wouldnt put me off in the short term. It depends how much they smoke really and if they really smell of it.

Smoking is literally the most disgusting habit on the planet. It’s vile! A huge turn off.

No no no. It stinks, it's expensive, it's life limiting. I grew up with smoking parents and just the slightest whiff makes me feel nauseous. I've never dated a smoker.

Yes it’s definitely a deal breaker for me and i make it perfectly clear before I meet them

YADNBU. Ex was a smoker, never, ever again. Dis-fucking-gusting.

Way down my list (if I had one).
Have been with dh for 20 years, we both smoked. I gave up 4 or 5 years ago, he smokes every few weeks. Doesn’t bother me. He’s a lovely person.

I’m a non smoker who has dated smokers in the past. At the time I lived with my mum who heavily smoked, I was so used to the smell I barely noticed it!!

These days my mums given up and I’ve moved out I can smell it a mile off so yeah it would be a deal breaker for me!