AIBU is this nosy??

[THJ8LL]

Yesterday morning I was at the scene of a car collision and was the person who called the ambulance and police and stayed there for three hours until the scene was cleared.
Police took my statement and details but I never got to know the names of the family involved and would like to know if the parties involved are okay and well?
A friend suggested I phone the local police station or hospital which they went to but my partner seems to think this is really nosy as I don't know the people involved

I do see his point but after seeing and hearing all that went on yesterday I can't stop thinking about them and if they are okay

AIBU to want to know this info??

I don't think they will be able to give you the names because of GDPR.

I don’t think they will be able to pass on the information to be honest although I can understand why you want to check they are ok

The police won't tell you anything.

There's usually a family liason officer, who will let you know if they are ok. It's the same level of information that they give the press. They won't give you names. Have you been on your local police fb/twitter page, or checked local news? There might be an update.

Thanks everyone. It's not the names that I'm interested in it's more that the families are okay! Nothing on local news or police pages unfortunately will hopefully hear down the grapevine soon I suppose

Not sure why you would expect to be given the names / details but you could ask the police if they are ok?

It sounds very traumatic and it's natural to want to know how they are. Even if the police won't give you those details, they might pass your details to their family with a message.
I've done this in a similar situation saying I hope they were recovering and they've messaged me to say thanks for helping at scene etc.
Worth a call.

@Howlooseisyourgoose
As I said I'm not expecting or nor do I want personal details. I was at the scene for hours and just wanted to know if all those involved are okay as all I know is what I heard the responders say they suspect the injuries are and after seeing something so nasty I'd just like peace of mind

Ask police to pass on your details as you are concerned to their welfare. They will contact you if they want to (or their family to express their thanks to you for staying).

If the injuries were serious it will almost certainly be in the local paper, so check their website for a few days.

Why did you stay until the scene was cleared, and not just until you gave your statement to the police?

I’d just post a message on your local fb page, saying that you hope all involved in the accident are ok.

[quote THJ8LL]@Howlooseisyourgoose
As I said I'm not expecting or nor do I want personal details. I was at the scene for hours and just wanted to know if all those involved are okay as all I know is what I heard the responders say they suspect the injuries are and after seeing something so nasty I'd just like peace of mind[/quote]
Your OP said you wanted their names. It’s fine if you’ve changed your mind, but you did say names 🤷‍♀️

Obviously they can't give you their details, but is there any way they could give them yours? Then they can get in touch if they like, and ignore it if they don't want to?

Your OP said you wanted their names. It’s fine if you’ve changed your mind, but you did say names no it doesn’t!?!?

Just move on. They are entitled to privacy.

OP do pass a message onto the family via the police, they won’t give you any information but it will be of great comfort to the families.

Unfortunately my brother died in a car crash and as a family, it bought us great comfort knowing that not only people cared but we were able to pass a message back to the witnesses to thank them for being there.

@bythehairsonmychinichinchin

My OP did not say I would like to know the names. My OP said that I did not get any names, if I did get names I would be able to reach out to them directly. The only name I have was the first name of one of the children involved

Just for clarity in case anyone else questions it.

I do not want names or any personal details just some simple information if the families involved are well

thank you for your responses I think it's a bit of both IABU and not

Police took my statement and details but I never got to know the names of the family involved and would like to know if the parties involved are okay and well?

It implied she wanted names....

@Bluesheep8

No as my OP says I want to know if they are well and okay not their names!!

I assumed that there would be a few people who would like to follow up after witnessing it but maybe I can't switch off from it like some people may be able to

Yes as a pp said, you could contact the police to get a message to them. It's nice of you and they may well get in touch. I would want to

@maxineputyourredshoeson

Sorry to hear about your brother. I imagine it is such a difficult thing to go through.

I am trying to find out if they are okay police said they will get the person who took my statement to call me back today as the lady at the call centre didn't have the information

Sorry op, I think I and a few other posters misunderstood you when you said you didn't get their names and thought you were implying you wanted them. My apologies

@THJ8LL I think you’ve got me mixed up with another poster. I agreed with you that your OP didn’t mention you wanting their names.

@LindaEllen

The police have my details from the statement I think if the family wanted to reach out they could probably get the info they needed from the police.

I really don't mind and I'm not expecting f any sort of contact or thanks from them, I mean I think we would all help in those situations as our natural human instinct!

I'd feel a lot more settled if I knew they were all well

Some time ago I saw a notice for witnesses and I thought my concorder might have recorded the cars just before the accident so emailed the local police.

They got back to me and asked to come to copy the file. The officer who came was lovely and chatty but was so surprise how much information he gave me about the accident, the cause of it, the status of those involved (one dead, one in serious condition in hospital) and how the investigation was going.

I didn't ask for any of this info but assume it was standard to share it, so I'd say it's ok to call and ask.